[Closed] What are your regrets in life ?

not enough drugs in the 90s!
Im a parent now so gotta be responsible

I think you can only regret the things you knew at the time was going to be the wrong choice. Giving up my 'single' status' and getting engaged! I knew at the time I was making a mistake.

live life to have no regrets, but your right it always deals a few.

I regret not finishing the 1999 grand raid cristalp but for me the main regret is living in london, which needs must, keeps me away from the mountains.

I wish that rather than just taking the first job I could after uni (because of financial disasters) I'd shopped around. And also, I wish I'd not stuck that job for so long- 10 years in the wrong industry, basically. Not disasterous but it took a lot to get out.

And every girl I ever liked that never knew.

Cathy Robertson

Debating stuff on here. I'm giving it up.

Not taking Economics for GCSE

Not getting in on a Nigerian timeshare apartment offer...

not setting up on my own before now, never going to be a wage slave again...... Other than that it's all good....

I sometimes wonder what life would be like if I'd made different decisions. However I have a job I love and a happy family - I regret nothing.

Not being sure if the trail has come alive or not.

I frittered away upwards of £50k in the pub etc when what I really wanted to have done was get myself a nice live-in vehicle and hit the road with boundless youthful vigour and a head full of idealistic notions..

I can't envision me getting that chance again

It's not something I ever really think about though.. I'm a bit Edith Piaf on this one

every step leads to where you are now, so unless you are truly deeply unhappy, whats the point in regrets?

I dunno why this still bugs me, but when I was 18, my then girlfriend got flashed at by a bloke on her train home from college. She knew he did the journey regularly, so I arranged to meet her train and kick the shit out of the flasher once they'd left the station. I got to the station too early, thought I'd missed the train and walked/ran the 5 miles back home looking for her. Turned out the train was late and he flashed her again. All I needed to do was ask someone at the station if the train had come in. Argh! A weird regret I know, but I was so annoyed!

Other regrets are too big to go into on here!

Trying not to regret, but...

Not going out with first "gf" she was proper selfish and it got nasty, heaps of fallout from that which hurt a lot of people that love me, and I should've been less selfish. Not drinking quite so much, and being a bit of a doormat for my Ex.

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Not losing weight before I went to uni.

The only regret I have is calling up the RAF careers office 2 days before I was due to start training at Cranwell to say I didn't want to join.

All because of a girl.

I was 24, it was (still is) my dream job and god knows where it would've taken me in my life or what I'd be doing now

And yes, when we did split up 6 months later the careers office laughed at me down the phone and told me in no uncertain terms that I was not welcome back to reapply. Don't blame them really

Still see the job advertised now, however due to health problems in the past I wouldn't make it past the paper sift now 🙁

I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention

sorry, someone had to do it 😉

no regrets

MArrying my first wife when I knew it was a mistake.

Giving up motorbike racing instead of carrying on.

Selling 2 of my Ducatis.

Not having my son earlier in life I guess.... but circumstances dictated that one.

Turning down Elaine at uni, great girl, I completely missed the signals and turning down the opportunity to pop over for a beer after work. Schoolboy error.

Staying with another girl just after uni despite knowing full well it was going nowhere and neither of us were happy. 4 years wasted on that little escapade.

Turned down an opportunity to dj at a private party at the hacienda, what an idiot 🙁

Just one - didnt take a job in San Francisco that I was offered.

And every girl I ever liked that never knew.

Aside from that not thrashing my S-works enduro into the ground so it snapped within the 5 year warranty period.
Going to Oz 6 months early - lost out on some pension contributions and potentially a job offer with full time and relocation on it
Screwing up Uni - though I'm glad I did
Not buying a house in 97 and being priced out of the housing market for probably 20 years

Not getting back into biking earlier in life. I was single and lived alone for 2 years in my mid 20s, had a reasonable job and spare dosh, what did I do with my time? smoked too much weed, chat up women on msn chat and play video games. Half Life, CS and Team Fortress. I was in clans and played every night and weekend until the wee hours. I could have been biking up the lakes every weekend with holidays in scotland and the alps, all over. Now with a wife and family I have to beg & borrow weekends away with the bike. Never mind.

I frittered away upwards of £50k in the pub

Must've been a good night.

Being horrible to Linda.

Sorry Linda .

Rewski - ouch.

On a similar vein I was in a club in Leeds, great company and all but it was pretty mediocre hard house. Put up with it though as I was with friends but on the way out I took a look at who had been playing in the basement. 6 hour Afrika Bambaata set - missed it all. Bollocks!

As for real regrets - only one really. Running up such large debts. They're manageable but mean that Mrs Danny had to go back to work for more hours than she wanted and we can't move house until they're clear.

Cheers

Danny B

scotroutes - Member
Cathy Robertson

After googling 😯

6 hour Afrika Bambaata set

They were an awesome band weren't they?

a) A 30 year gap in road riding, I think I'm better at that than MTB, think where I could have been...

b) My piss poor constitution which means I can't get motivated to be cycling in the cold/wet.

my career - i chose badly, very badly.

@hora - I don't know whether you are taking the p**s or do not know who Afrika Bambaata is.

Just in case he is, as far as DJ's go, one of the true legends - one of the very first to link two turntables together to scratch and mix...

Don't think I'll get another chance to see him...

dannybgoode - Member

As for real regrets - only one really. Running up such large debts. They're manageable but mean that Mrs Danny had to go back to work for more hours than she wanted and we can't move house until they're clear.

Not just me then, £40k in the hole at 29 (I'm now 41). A combo of attempting to manage a mortgage/rental myself, paying off the ex, and at the same time as enjoying myself in Clapham/Brixton on C cards 4 times a week. Luckily in my case I sold said house which cleared most of it - in the same year I met Mrs K.

Ahhh Nicola, beautiful Girl Nichola.

Frittered away that one I did 🙄

In the last five years that I lived in Canada, I totally took the ice and snow for granted, and never once thought of lacing on some skates and going down to the local outdoor rink. 10 years since, and I now have to PAY to take my kids skating!

To have grown up skating on rivers and lakes, and being able to simply walk to the hill at the edge of our neighbourhood with a snowboard over the shoulder, to spend as long as we wanted going up and down the hill, I really miss it all now.

not working at school...

leads to not going to Uni until i was 28...

leads to pissing about in my twenties, spending a lot of money (inheritance) on booze, cocaine and associated crap

but, if I hadn't done the above, i wouldn't have met my wife, and I wouldn't have two beautiful boys. So, regrets? None 🙂

All the things I wanted to do, but didn't
None of the things I did, even the ones that didn't work out

Not moving in with the 6 Swedish girls in the second year of uni

Not buying my first flat 4 years earlier.
Buying a stupid gas guzzling fast car and wasting so much money on it when I was young.

LoCo - Member
Not moving in with the 6 Swedish girls in the second year of uni

Were they the same six swedish girls I partied with in Southwark Uni, who offered me an a mate to "carrying on drinking at thier place", but we really wanted to go to the Ministry of Sound?

Duh....

Leaving Cassy Pegna.

That is all.

Not joining the armed forces, really think it would've suited me.

That, and choosing a career path because I knew the subject and found college easy (but was too lazy to do the assignments), rather than something I was genuinely interested in.......

Not re-applying for the Royal Marines after being told to do so.. Passed all the tests including the potential Royal Marines course.

Got home, got a join date... Went to get a final check over from doctor, they picked up what they thought was a heart murmur...... Access denied! Until it was sorted out.. Had to wait 2 months for and ECG.. Nothing came up! Specialist reckoned they doctor had made a mistake and panicked as I have a very low pulse count.. I was fuming!

Went to see careers office, they told me I had to re-apply.. I never did! : (

Really feel I missed my calling in life and now I'm stuck driving a lorry! Can't get motivated to get fit, have all but given up cycling (don't even have a mountain bike now),still play Ice Hockey but both knees are minced and got a bad shoulder!

Wish I hadn't stopped playing Ice Hockey when I was 18 for 10 years aswell!

Oh and I wish I hadn't taken my ungrateful Ex to Australia with my family when my Dad retired.. She ruined my holiday!

However I'm a very luck guy to have a beautiful wife, nice house, great family, 2 lovely nephews, amazing friends, money in the bank and I recently purchased a 2003 BMW M3... Happy days!

Were they the same six swedish girls I partied with in Southwark Uni

Kingston uni, would have been a far better place to live in retrospect not the skanky engineers I ended up with. 😐

I don't have regrets, they were all learning experiences. Different ones could have led to different outcomes, but that's life.

I don't think it is emotionally healthy to dwell on what could have been.

Found this on the web:

Here are the top five regrets of the dying:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."

When I was around 20 I got offered the chance to go and teach Judo in the middle east, I turned it down as my own fighting career looked promising, 5 years later blew my knee out and had to retire

I have fulfilled most of my dreams/ambitions. But i do wish sometimes that i'd taken the opportunity to go work in scandinavia. If i did that however, i would not have met my wife and have a beautiful daughter. So i am pretty happy with my lot.

1981miked - mine was a health issue. I'm hoping to join something this year. I hope its not an issue again 🙁

I had the opportunity to go out with the most beautiful woman that I'd met. I'm glad I turned her down. I don't think I'd have be with mrshora today if I hadn't turned her down.

Not moving in with the 6 Swedish girls in the second year of uni

remaining faithful to my then gf after moving in with 2 swedish girls at uni

replying in the negative when same gf asked if her friend could join us as she was feeling left out 😯 bashes head on desk & wonders what on earth I was thinking all those years ago

possibly leaving the mining industry, although that was in 1983 so probably a good idea at the time

Leaving the council after I did my motor mechanics apprenticeship, If I'd stayed there I'd be retired now with over 40 years in!
[i]Wish I hadn't stopped playing Ice Hockey when I was 18 for 10 years aswell![/i]

Wish I'd taken it up when I was 12! Played a bit of recreational at Durham in my 30's so at least got a feel for it.

I also regret not giving Glynis what she wanted when I was 15. 🙄

Marrying my first wife. If I'd left her when we had that big argument the year before we got married, I would have been far better off mentally and financially and would not have wasted the next two years.

Other than that, I think I maybe should have tried to join the Army when I left uni after the RAF said I was too tall to fly fast jets. I may have been binned during Sandhurst for medical reasons, but I may not have been and I regret not trying it. I enjoy the hell out of being in the Reserves now and would have enjoyed it more if I had been younger.

Other than that, not much.

lots of girl related regrets. Mine are too but really quite minor.

A number of times, I could have had a much better time with a girl than I realised, I was just too naive/stupid/obnoxious to get it. For example, a mate of my sisters chased me for a while and at the time I thought it was just her being friendly. About ten years later I suddenly realised it meant far more to her than that. very silly of me. I was so dumb! It was so obvious it's embarrassing I didn't notice.

A few things like that.

No big things though. It'll all part of life's pagentry. I don't regret any of the big mistakes I made. And I made lots.

Sheesh, where to start, how long have I got?

I tend to only look forwards now, gazing into the past thinking about what could have been isn't helpful to anyone.

Hora- good luck then mate, I'm pondering trying for the Royal Navy Reserves, fairly sure my knees would manage that.

Looking to buy another mountain bike aswell and find a job that gets me home more.

Keep us posted Hora.

Spending too long being the better part of 20st.
Fat, no confidence, lazy, unfit, depressed. Losing weight has made a big difference to my life. The mind-opener was when i'd lost a bit of the extra belly insulation and attractive girls started coming on to me (not that i ever handled that well)

I'd quite like to bugger off round the world and live a very simple existence for a while. No kids yet so it's still possible but I can't see it happening really......

If I hadn't made all the good and bad choices that I have, I probably wouldn't be who I am now, where I am now and married to my wife. So I don't regret anything really, it's just a journey with good and bad bits....

Leaving it so long to seek help (only just started at 47yo) and missing out on 'life' due to low self esteem/lack of confidence/depression.

I regret getting into serious trouble when I was 18, which ended with some time away from home, paid for by the government.
this led to me eventually not making the grade as a pro rl player.

sad thing is that 1 stupid choice can change your whole life..eh?

My regret is not rejoining the Army, although it is still possible if they don't mind about my leg fracture this year.

Getting 26" anthem instead of the 650b
..now i cannot make cannock chase trail alive 😐

..should have remain teaching chemistry 😐

I treated an ex very badly. She was orininally a childhood sweetheart, but we remained friends and used to meet up when I was on leave. She even came to my pass out parade.
I just stopped bothering (young selfish care free squaddie), and I regret it very much now (not in a weird stalkerish way). I just wish I'd not been such a ****, she really deserved better.
I regret a few things, but I'm properly ashamed of that.

For example, a mate of my sisters chased me for a while and at the time I thought it was just her being friendly.

This is very common I think. I got together with my gf after a mutual friend sat me down in the pub and said "she really likes you, so will you please do something about it?"

For some reason.. This thread is very moving and making me really sad. 😐

wrecker.......life is too short mate, contact her and apologise, it will ease the guilt I reckon... 8)

I regret not starting skiing and mountain biking when I was younger. I've missed out on a good ten years of both!

wrecker.......life is too short mate, contact her and apologise, it will ease the guilt I reckon...

Actually I just remembered - not being into mountain biking when I lived in Vancouver for 6 months. 🙄

I regret getting into serious trouble when I was 18, which ended with some time away from home, paid for by the government.
this led to me eventually not making the grade as a pro rl player.

sad thing is that 1 stupid choice can change your whole life..eh?

All those 'roids wouldn't have done you much good though. 🙂

I reckon when a bloke feels guilt, it proves he is a ok person..... 😀

My life has panned out nicely but I wish my dad had lived a year longer to see it all happen.

My biggest regret is not following through an idea I had in the late 80's to open a New York style sandwich bar in glasgow. No one else was doing it but I just couldn't afford the rent for the property I wanted on sauchiehall
Street.

My life has panned out nicely but I wish my dad had lived a year longer to see it all happen.

Ah yes. I wish I'd made my peace with my Father whilst he was alive.

life is PAIN and SUFFERING, once you recognise this you will find the happiness and joy inbetween. Yoda, Star Wars.

Agree with zippy and hora, but mine would have had to wait 20 years. Still its been worth it!

Not riding the Rangers path on Snowdon before they dumped loads of bags of rocks all over it. 🙁

Not making more effort to stay permanently in Australia and coming back to the UK for a girl.
Should have drunk way less over my twenties.. a lot of time wasted hungover or tired.
Quiting that job where I had to tape underwear onto naked ladies boobies.