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Building and rebuilding The Tardis. It breaks, he rebuilds it, it breaks and gets rebuilt and so on ad infinitum

He has the real sonic screwdriver?

‘we suffered, so must you’? 😏 Glad it worked out well.

Was ok after we got through the "Three Blind Mice" stage. Then his sister started....


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 10:42 am
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Following on from my first post, I wanted to add something else – I am a typical proud dad and I'm always quick to praise them but they always put their team-mates ahead of themselves and play down any successes they have, saying they only do well because of those around them or telling me that someone else should have got 'Player of the match'. Yes, they are competitive, but the way they put others ahead of themselves is lovely to see.


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 11:03 am
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That in itself is worthy of note, johndoh.


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 12:07 pm
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Eldest Fazzini-jnr was never really academic and always wanted to be a mechanic. He just got the right GCSEs he needed, off to college, then on to an apprenticeship. He was a treated like sh1t, paid like a skivvy, and was taught/shown/instructed to do nothing than sweep floors and change the odd tyre. So he quit. Instead of moping and bludging, booked himself on a free traffic management course, passed, and now works night shifts setting up/taking down traffic control stuff for roadworks etc. He loves it!
Now, if we could just get him to stop bloody vaping!!!

Youngest Fazzini-jnr is now in GCSE year and is a stressed out teen with major exam angst. He thinks he wants to be an engineer, just not sure what sort yet!


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 12:58 pm
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Following on from my first post, I wanted to add something else – I am a typical proud dad and I’m always quick to praise them but they always put their team-mates ahead of themselves and play down any successes they have, saying they only do well because of those around them or telling me that someone else should have got ‘Player of the match’. Yes, they are competitive, but the way they put others ahead of themselves is lovely to see.

100% agree, with a word of caution. When it comes to the world of work, job interviews, promotion panels, etc., then they need the skill to big themselves up a bit as well. Not to the extent of taking credit for other people's actions, but they mustn't feel shy in saying 'I did this....' rather than 'Aww....but it was a team effort really...'

You'd like to think a good interviewer can spot when 'The Team' really means 'I' but lots of interviewers aren't good.


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 1:05 pm
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Never thought I'd be worrying on a daily basis if my lad was going to get kicked out of school, he's a good kid but serious emotional control issues mean he loses his temper far too easily and even the Pru he's currently in can't cope. 

Never thought I'd have to argue with his mother to get her to spend time with him either. Life is tough sometimes, he just needs help and support from the right people, just a shame they don't know that. 


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 1:43 pm
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Not long after posting that, he gets sent home. Can't keep on like this!


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 7:19 pm
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The self confidence my 11 year old has gained from playing football.
From being quiet and standing on the edge of the group to being a leader.

As a goal keeper he has to control the players in front of him.

Recently he had to play in goal for the opposition (a team on tour from OZ) as they didn’t have a keeper. He was straight in and chatting.

This is even more pleasing to see than watching him play Man City, Liverpool, Wolves etc. which in reality are only games of football between lads.


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 7:38 pm
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Not long after posting that, he gets sent home. Can’t keep on like this

this may seem counter productive but have you tried him with a martial art of some sort?

My daughter struggled a lot with confidence and one of her friend talked her into going to Tae Kwon Do when she was 10. It made a huge difference to her both in confidence and dealing with people.

Martial Arts teaches discipline but also allows them to let off steam in a controlled way.

My daughter only stopped when she reached 16 as she was then in adult fighting classes and being only 4ft something and light she kept getting battered! 🤣


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 8:14 pm
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Sensi.
My nephew(No kids)
I remember when he started Karate in fact. Aged 6. Now years down the line he's a 3rd dan black belt running a club and taking part in international competitions. He's off to Japan next year with his brother, also 3rd dan to train there.
And thats just his hobby. He qualified as a lawyer last year.

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God I feel old. Who started this bloody thread ???


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 8:53 pm
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This isn’t a the thread for all the bumps in the road. But there have been bumps

There's always bumps. The fact my daughter has found her niche in MCTD and Mrs Sandwich's area of expertise is a source of wonder and is regarded as a sure thing for early promotion to a senior post 3 years into the job.

Sandwich Jr is working through a SALT masters after 10 years in disability learning. His Tutors at Birmingham reckon he's cheating as he has recently scored perfect marks on several assessments. He's not backwards about telling the actors used in the assessments to stay in their lane when comments on treatment get made. (Just to be clear these are actors being parents not doctors performing in a simulation).

I'm not sure how I helped raise such well rounded adults.


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 10:34 pm
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The-muffin-man. I have thought about it but struggle to get around to arranging anything, problem for him is he doesn't always like the structured approach to some sports and I'm not sure he'd manage getting a battering very well. His confidence and temper are overwhelming for him and others around him. Day by day.

Sorry for the minor thread hijack.


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 10:42 pm
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He wouldn’t get battered from the start - a good teacher builds things up slowly.

My daughter was a 2nd Dan black belt so very much at the higher end of fights.

And sparring in classes is much more structured. They’re not like competition fights.


 
Posted : 15/11/2023 10:53 pm
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My parents found the recorder and music book I had at school and gave it to eldest when he was 6

‘we suffered, so must you’? 😏 Glad it worked out well.

Could have been worse; could have been a violin or a drum kit…🤣


 
Posted : 16/11/2023 1:45 am
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Scuba diving wrecks at 11 years old. Took him on a discovery dive last week and he was utterly smitten so we've spent the last few days building up time and confidence culminating in a wreck dive this afternoon. Probably a bigger "proud dad" moment than when he hit his first proper jump.


 
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