Much like the homophobic
I think it's a mix of learned behaviour in a group, insecurity, and status anxiety. Gay men present identity problems for men who're not able to internalise that some men are willing to reject tradition masculine roles as it threatens their own (often) fragile and insecure grasp of the world they're desperate to create for themselves.
The veggie/vegan menu thing is a confusing one. Sometimes I feel like having the veggie choice because it looks better/tastier than whatever the meat or fish alternative is. At all of the lunch places we go to at work, the options are all in the same place under a heading of "Lunch", you just pick which 'lunch' you want. If there is a bean casserole, I'll eat that or a fish dish instead of, say ragmunk. I've done that enough that the kid we have as a praktikant asked if I was a flexitarian. I'm not, I just like choosing stuff that looks tasty.
Same with the domestic burger chain here ("Max")... Plant beef is my go to if I want to try their burger of the month. It's advertised in the same section of the menu as the rest of the burgers and I personally find it, the plant beef, to be a lot less greasy than the meat alternative.
TL;DR: I choose whatever looks tastiest and I think that's a good way to go.
Cosmetic plastic surgery.
Name me one celeb that looks better for having some 'work done'. Why do they do it? Just look at Catherine Zeta Jones - once one of the prettiest women around now she looks like...well there was a reason she was cast as Morticia Adams. I can't help thinking she would of aged like fine wine but now she looks hideous. Same for men - Micky Rourke anyone?
I mean its expensive, painful, probably harmful in the long term, looks fake even when its done well and just awful when its done badly.
Just makes no sense.
It's the middle of May, in Ireland, and hailstones the size of 5p's are lashing down with proper rumbling thunder and big lightning flashes. That makes zero sense!
Cosmetic plastic surgery.
Not to pick holes because I do agree but... the thing is, you don't notice good plastic surgery. Like Tom Cruise for Top Gun Maverick ("Top Gun Maverick!"), where he just looked amazing for a 60 year old guy; or various female actors who do look like they've aged, but like a really good version of that.
The challenge is that good plastic surgery can probably only go so far; so for example Tom Cruise in the latest Mission Impossible film looks really really tired (and wears his hair long to cover the zips), and many actresses take it one surgery too far (Sharon Osborne, for one) so it looks baaaad.
It can probably become an addiction too (and there's no doubt z-channel reality TV shows about that). A little tidy here looks great, so another will be even better, right?
Menus that have separate sections for vegetarian and omnivore food.
I don't really see the issue here. It's quite common to see other categories separated such as meat, fish or even grills and burgers. I don't think it's trying to suggest there is something "odd" about going to the veggie items.
Menus that have separate sections for vegetarian and omnivore food.
for the most part, if it's a vegan section, it means that the whole plate is vegan, vegan cheese, vegan mayo, vegan coleslaw, vegan salad dressings, chips cooked in veg oil not lard etc.
if they mix and matched vegan, meaty, fishy and veggie it could be easy to end up with a plant burger with real cheese and egg mayo.
But some do just state next to their non vegan food that it can be made vegan, so as long as you can decipher the hieroglyphs you're OK.
Why the volume slider on the I-player goes up to 11!
its a spinal tap reference
I find it quite interesting arbitrary number that dials and sliders go to. Car stereos now seem to go 38. Power tools across a wide range of applications all seem to use a speed control always seem to be 1-6 but the actual speeds those number represent vary between tools - or even between different brands of the same too. I've got 3 routers / spindles I use with CNC machines and while they're all essentially tools for the same job the RPM ranges represent by the numbers 1-6 vary hugely
Cosmetic plastic surgery.
Name me one celeb that looks better for having some 'work done'. Why do they do it?
I think the best description as to why... I once heard cosmetic surgery described as 'psycho surgery' - that its for the benefit of the patient's mind not their body.
When you think of the origins of the practice - treating victims of burns and bullets from WW1 and 2 the aim of the surgery was to help patients rebuild their sense of self when they had the evidence of their trauma looking back at them everytime the looked in the mirror.
Electing to go under the knife when theres no physical injury to be treated can only really be considered an act of self harm - your trying to use a scalpel to make bad thoughts go away. And of course they don't, at least not for long enough
Thats why certain celebs go 'to far' - they keep trying to fix their face when what they really need to do is fix their mind. The problem for them is they operate in an industry and culture that is incredibly cruel and are surrounded by enablers that want their money so it shouldn't really be a surprise that their minds are fragile.
Electing to go under the knife when theres no physical injury to be treated can only really be considered an act of self harm - your trying to use a scalpel to make bad thoughts go away. And of course they don't, at least not for long enough
I'm going to dispute this. I think there is a continuum between pure aesthetics, through to necessary procedures and no binary cut off. If someone has a burn and that can be minimised by a skin graft, even if the burn doesn't need to be treated and it's purely for looks, is that treating an injury. It's only looks after all?
What if someone has a very prominent nose, or ears to the point of extreme self consciousness? Just aesthetic and they need to learn to deal with it?
My son had cosmetic surgery to deal with an aspect of his body he was very unhappy with. No physical injury, just aesthetics?
I once heard cosmetic surgery described as 'psycho surgery' - that its for the benefit of the patient's mind not their body.
I'm not trying to start a fight, I just think the impact on MH of being unhappy with parts of your body cannot be underestimated, and while undoubtedly some will never be happy with the results and always chasing the next upgrade, don't put all in the same bracket.
I'm not trying to start a fight, I just think the impact on MH of being unhappy with parts of your body cannot be underestimated,
not underestimating it at all - not dismissing a choice to cure a source of unhappiness. More pointing to the reason why people might go down a route of more and, more ruinous, surgery
if your son had surgery to correct something that was causing unhappiness and is now happier then it worked. Physical surgery resulting in a happier mind. If your son habitually sought more and more surgery then that’s really about projecting broader unhappiness onto your outward appearance and that’s something different going on
Your quote: 'Electing to go under the knife when theres no physical injury to be treated can only really be considered as an act of self-harm'.
There was no injury to be treated. He could have gone through life physically without the surgery with no physical detriment whatsoever, it was entirely psychological and aesthetic. But far from being an act of self-harm, it saved a life, at least in part - I am of no doubt of that.
'Careless' rather than deliberate comment, I'm sure, but to dismiss it because it 'was an act of self harm' would be a huge mistake!
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Menus that have separate sections for vegetarian and omnivore food. Why can't it just be 'A Menu' with the food choices mixed up? I'm sure more folks would try vegetarian options if it was just listed as 'food' rather than 'vegetarian food'.
Cf. supermarkets.
If I want a pizza with veggie-friendly pepperoni then I have to go to the Orange Section of the fridge, but if I want a cheese & tomato (famed for its high meat content) it's in with all the other pizzas. If I'm having family pizza night then I want multiple pizzas, some all or none of which might be veggie. Makes no sense.
(seriously though, don't get me started on restaurant menus, this is the wrong thread!)
There is data from a few supermarkets to back this up.
If they put, say, veggie sausages in the sausage section rather than the 'weird veggie food section' they sell more veggie sausages. Who's have thunk making it look normal would do that?
'Careless' rather than deliberate comment, I'm sure, but to dismiss it because it 'was an act of self harm' would be a huge mistake!
My original light hearted post was designed to reflect the countless celebs and other rich types who have several facelifts, some liposuction and multiple other operations in a fruitless attempt to stave off the inevitable aging process and get themselves photographed - all of which just makes them look awful. I think we can all distinguish between this and those people who have a deep seated issue for many years with one part of their body which whilst not life threatening in the physical sense can improve their standard of life by an operation - say a large nose, sticking out ears, a breast reduction etc. This is not the same thing and I very much think it does make sense.
