I tell you what is rude. Stopping for another rider on a trail to let them past and they don't give you so much of an acknowledgement. Couldn't care less if someone doesn't respond to a nod or a hello but not saying thank you really makes my p1$$ boil.
Rode a section of shared bridleway on Saturday happily dinging my bell and and greeting all the people walking along then 2 other riders come the other way, I fall in with some walkers to let them by...not so much of a thank you to any one. That there is one of the reasons people hate mountain bikers.
I usually give a wave, nod or eyebrow raise of some kind - but I don't get huffy when it's not returned.
I'm aware people might be in a bad place mentally (or physically if they're struggling to stay with their group), so I take no offence if I get blanked.
Strangely, I get much more miffed when walkers ignore my greetings. What excuse do those ****ers have, eh?
I always say hello to someone i pass..unless they look like a weirdo or pervert, in which case I avoid all eye contact and speed on by with my head down..
Makes you think OP...
Obviously, and don’t forget the part about being judgemental about the people who may not acknowledge you.
Let it go already.
I won't be letting it go, it is another of my "traits"
IME that there is a correlation between serious roadies and not greeting you and also what I am wearing make a difference
Very true. If I ride my bike with drop bars installed I get hello's from road bike riders (which I ignore, obviously 🙂 )
However, if I switch to riser bars (same bike, same clothes) they all ignore me.
Out on the bike I always wave and say hello to other humans,cows,sheep and horses.I even wave at motorbikes when I forget that I am cycling.
I expect nothing in return*
*I do hope that this post helps the thread on it's way to a 100.
Endophins probably also play a role. By a third into a decent ride my brain is basically in puppy-mode, needing to rush up to strangers because everything is just so brilliant.
I always say hello to someone i pass..unless they look like a weirdo or pervert, in which case I avoid all eye contact and speed on by with my head down..
Makes you think OP…
Made me laugh. But I’m still going to be an annoyingly happy waver.
I always say hello to someone i pass..unless they look like a weirdo or pervert, in which case I avoid all eye contact and speed on by with my head down..
Now I understand why no one waves to me
Don't explain someone else's joke TJ 😉
I missed it!
Endophins probably also play a role.
And Endolphins. Very friendly, intelligent creatures.
Did you do that on porpoise Martin?
Arrrr! I've never said hello - or not said hello - to a dolphin when out on the bike. If that's rude of me, so be it.
Arrrr!
Bloody pirates coming on shore and abusing our roadies, they’ve been doing it since pirates is been pirates.
Arrrr! I’ve never said hello – or not said hello – to a dolphin when out on the bike
Manners cost nothing.
Something I've never forgotten and try to never let slip. It really is as simple as that.
Another thank you to sola for starting this thread from me.
Obviously a huge generalisation, but the world really would be a more pleasant place if everyone just tried being polite and pleasant to each other more of the time: precisely what the OP is trying to do.
I too find it difficult to understand why someone can't even muster a "hello" as a response to a passing greeting from me. It hardly takes a lot of effort.
A well known local surfer (and surf shop owner) decided to paddle his SUP across the channel from here to Ilfracombe a few years ago. He got to mid channel and spotted a kayaker heading in the opposite direction. He got a bit miffed when the kayaker didn't even look in his direction, never mind respond to his cheery hello. I'm guessing that kayakers are the roadies of the watery depths?
kayakers are the roadies of the watery depths?
*waves 👋
Marathon kayakers are the roadies of the watery depths. Whitewater kayakers are the mountainbikers of the water, and sea kayakers can be basically a bit odd. 😉
SUP</blockquote Its an ebike thing.
Like a small step above a goatboat. Better than a speedbump though.
I’m guessing that sea kayakers are the roadies of the watery depths?
You forgot one crucial word.
Did you do that on porpoise Martin?
Just trying to bring a bit of humanatee into such an upsetting thread.
From the sublime to the ridiculous! This thread should at least win the 'zig-zag' award in the thread of the year competition!
Thanks for the levity.
If I meet a man marathon kayaking, a Dolphin or Kerley on my next ride, I'll be sure to ignore them.
I too find it difficult to understand why someone can’t even muster a “hello” as a response to a passing greeting from me. It hardly takes a lot of effort.
I know, common courtesy ’n’all that; other cyclists were usually happy to nod in acknowledgment, even roadie scum, when I used to ride and nodded to other like-minded users of public highways and byways. Even when I was wearing baggies, loose tops and using flat pedals.
Pedestrians and dog-walkers, on the other hand, dusting off and nuking from orbit would be too good for them!
Complaining if I rang my bell, complaining if I didn’t ring my bell, deliberately walking in a group across the towpath/trail/byway, allowing small children and dogs to wander uncontrollably into the path of others... 🤬
Just read the thread...what the hell is MSP on?
Also, has it been mentioned that all gravel riders are pervs as they always seem to ride in threesomes?
I'll just throw that out there.😉
deliberately walking in a group across the towpath/trail/byway, allowing small children and dogs to wander uncontrollably into the path of others
You see, to me, I see that as rude as they are not following what I would see as the "rules" of shared paths whereas I still don't get why I should say hello to those same strangers so don't find not speaking to strangers rude.
We all have different things going on in our heads...
‘Rule no 1’ is by default broken if no-one can agree on all of the other ‘rules’
Pedestrians and dog-walkers, on the other hand,
🙄
Last night slowly walking with the dog (he’s very old now and gets a stroller 9/10ths of the way) and Mrs P along pavements and some common paths. We’re travelling along an unlit narrow pavement section (with a torch) and a man (runner) runs up close behind us and then straight out into the busy A road, car behind him blasts horn, narrow miss, runner nips back in and carries on fortunately unscathed. Now if he’d spoken up as he approached from behind, and had maybe possibly even slowed down a little, we’d have been quite happy to move aside into the verge so he could pass. He was entirely unlit and no reflectors so clearly uninterested in being seen.
20 minutes later we’re walking across the corner of the common towards joining pavement and an MTBer approaches along the pavement. It’s dark he has no lights. He then splits off from the pavement, 20 feet in front of us and approaching us on the path (very narrow like a sheep path)
So we stop and move aside (as he has his head down and is making no attempts to communicate). He just silently steams on through. Entitled?
‘You’re welcome’ (I may have said out loud after he’d passed)
Another 10 minutes in town still on pavement a pinched-faced pedestrian approaches along the footpath and as I slow and attempt eye-contact he speeds up, makes no eye-contact and rushes between us so closely that I involuntarily hold my breath.
Lesson? Doesn’t pay to generalise. There are plenty of self-absorbed ‘me first’ DGAS tossers to go around, they may be in cars, vans, mobility scooters, on bikes, on foot etc etc. They may have their ‘reasons’ for not giving consideration to or even endangering people they meet along the way. I just prefer to assume I don’t know what their ‘reasons’ are. Otherwise I’ll wind up bitter, complaining, and writing to the Daily Wail or STW forum. Maybe even generalising.
But yeah, but...about them roadies...
You see, to me, I see that as rude as they are not following what I would see as the “rules” of shared paths whereas I still don’t get why I should say hello to those same strangers so don’t find not speaking to strangers rude.
We all have different things going on in our heads…
I don't think that in general terms not speaking to strangers is perceived as rude by most people. People pass each other, neither says anything - fine.
It's not responding when someone DOES offer a greeting that is. If someone offers a cheery "hello" and a smile, even a curt "hi" is all that's required to reciprocate. To deliberately choose to withhold that, knowing the other person is likely to be offended seems to me to be the very definition of rudeness. But I understand the last line of your post and your earlier contributions to the thread and am trying to understand why some people don't see it like that.
You acknowledge there is a set of "rules" in the shared path scenario which you would see as rude if broken (I agree by the way).
Can you see that there is a much more widely held set of societal "rules" about responding if someone greets you? One that requires very little effort to comply with.
I'm not having a pop, I am genuinely interested and trying to understand. Perhaps so I can moderate my own annoyance when my attempts at sharing a bit of human warmth on the hill or trail get rebuffed!
so I can moderate my own annoyance when my attempts at sharing a bit of human warmth on the hill or trail get rebuffed!
Best to just laugh it off. Don’t overthink it. If it helps to assume that every time you are ignored/rebuffed it means that the non-respondent is merely autistic + unaware/unwilling/unable (delete as applicable) to play by the ‘rules’ then go for it, but you’ll be wrong a lot of the time. Some people are just shy, or just miserable, or just having a bad day, or depressed, or deaf, or culturally distant with strangers, distracted, wearing earbuds, etc... or....just plain rude.
I'm with you @solarider
The northern fell runner of my youth comes out when I'm on the bike. I say hello/wave/nod to everyone not in a car (even some car drivers who've been courteous in some way) when I'm out on the bike. It costs very little.
I don't expect an acknowledgement, but it's nice when they reciprocate.
Can you see that there is a much more widely held set of societal “rules” about responding if someone greets you?
I can see them but they don't really trigger in my head and get logged as a "rule" which explains why social interaction is a struggle for me.
As I said earlier, if someone I know said hello to me I would consider it rude to not acknowledge them but if a stranger on a bike or in a car waves at me or gestures in some other way I just wonder why they have done that as I don't know them.
I may look like a serial killer (although with a gozzy eye and visage like dali's clock, maybe a surreal killer) but I am firmly in the he cheerful camp. I aknowledge folks riders, walkers,horsey types, becuase it makes me happy, if folks dont want to respond so what, Im still in my happy bubble. Even worse for folks like MSP, I ride freaky niche custom bikes, have rings all over the show and am more tattooes than skin....I must reek of a being a positive attention vortex. if my cheerful attentiony presence fills them rage and a righteous feeling of snobbery and one upmanship about being better than me....ace, its still a positive outcome as they feel better about themselves 🙂
Anyone else wave to those with the same vehicle?
I drive a Toyota Hiace van and quite often wave to other Toyota Hiace vanists.
Most of them ignore me. I don't see that as rude as such, just that they're not so pumped as me to see another of the Hiace massive about.
That, or they just think 'who's that Richard?'
Strangely, I get much more miffed when walkers ignore my greetings. What excuse do those **** have, eh?
At risk of opening a new front, I think pissed off a few spanish walkers in the Picos when passing a group after about the 15th "hola" I reverted to the yorkshire nod, not always perceptible to non-yorks folk, and got a couple of what I can only describe as sarcastic ¡Hola! s in response. Hey ho.
Kerley, thanks. I will try to log that away for when it might help me understand an interaction in future 👍
Spain sounds a bit like Switzerland. "Grüß dich" every other step.
but if a stranger on a bike or in a car waves at me or gestures in some other way I just wonder why they have done that as I don’t know them.
So you have a two minute memory as well as being on the spectrum? So you know that strangers might wave at you for various societal reasons, it's happened before and you know what the expected societal response is (a wave back, or some other polite response) and yet it confuses you every single time it happens?
That, or they just think ‘who’s that Richard?’
Only because it's not a T5. 😂
