[Closed] Pregnant wife got knocked today in car park, advise please.

what a winker - glad she is OK
Police for sure

edit but perhaps don't let her know you are reporting the driver so she doesn't worry about it

Or just be thankful she is OK and let her relax?

i'd go down this route given you are around 8 weeks away from d-day. Gloss over it, make her feel better, book her a spa day and let it all wash away.

To paraphrase - "A van drove into our car".

Normally worth reporting I'd say. The defence that the driver wasn't expecting a door to be open is hogwash. It really could have been a childs face.

Sounds like an accident with both parties in the wrong. I assume she wasn't in a mother and child space with extra width.

Let her relax. If worried, go to the midwife and get checked out.

It's a wonderful and scary time, but tools behaving like selfish idiots don't help.

Stock STW response: quick get on your bike before the baby arrives and you are never allowed out again! 😉

Do whatever is best for you and your wife. Whilst the bloke is obviously an arse it might be best to just ignore for the sake of you and the baby.

'didn't you see the door open? I'm pregnant, this could have been nasty

Pregnant or not, it wasn't nasty so let it go. Not worth the stress or hassle.

i've got a van. rear visibility is pants.

you have to be extra careful. shouting at people cos you didn't look isn't on. Bullying pregnant ladies is pretty low.

perhaps don't let her know you are reporting the driver so she doesn't worry about it

no offence, but 1 - i'm not sure police will be intersted unless the OPs wife makes the complaint. & 2. pregnant ladies are not to be messed with, don't go behind her back.

IF this was Jeremy Kyle you'd hang round the car park and end up lamping some random bloke with a similar van.

In real life I'd probably just forget it and move on. You're trying to protect your wife and that's understandable but I can't see much to gain and you have very few details to go on 🙁

Hope she's ok now you've calmed her down. No damage done is most important here imo. Sounds like he was bloody rude and inconsiderate, maybe call Tesco but might not be worth risking upsetting her more. Unless she wants you to of course. Give her a nice cup of tea and make a fuss of her. Good luck in 2 months 😀

Sounds like an accident with both parties in the wrong.

Struggling to see how "standing still in a car park" is in the wrong, TBH.

Does the store have CCTV, perchance?

You certainly don't want you wife thinking that you're not worried about it, I'd suggest absolutely marching down to Tesco and asking for the CCTV, Knight in shining armour and all that.

If they've got it on camera then pass it on to the police, the last thing you want is you Mrs thinking that you're not protecting her/bump when they're vulnerable.

No it's not entirely rational, neither are pregnant women*

*in my experience

If she's old enough to get pregnant then she's old enough to decide for herself.

I'd report it, just cos he's a dick and needs to learn.

Have you asked your wife what she thinks?

What a nob. But I'd leave it she's ok, he's a tool but you can't show what happened by a witness etc. as ball achingly rubbish as it is I'd let it go and look after her and the bump mate.

pregnant ladies are not to be messed with

I've changed my mind on this anyway.

Assuming no serious damage to car, wife or bump, I'd let it slide, make a fuss of her, be thankful everything was Ok and get ready for the arrival of the little one.

If the car is damaged i'd ask police for the drivers insurance details etc and claim through their insurance but not try and press charges or anything

You'll have enough to worry about soon, the best outcome is that she's ok and you've already got that. You can't gain from pursuing it. There will always be tools around and you'd be fighting a losing battle.

What kind of a bloke shouts like that in that situation? I hope he gets piles, painful, bogroll ripping piles.
Good luck to you both over the next few months !

Ok seems he didn't even stop. He only knew when my wife confronted him, at which point he started shouting at her. I think on balance we probably will have to let it go. There's enough hard work in our lives atm plus baby has cleft lip/palate so a few challenges to go yet.

Was there damage to the car? I would probably be very angry and want a word with him as it wasn't a very well handled situation from the van driver

So now it sounds like he effectively ran over a pregnant woman, then subjected her to threatening and abusive behaviour, then (?)left the scene without exchanging details.
It shouldn't be down to you to deal with this, the police should be all over it.

What do you want out of the situation?
If the car's going to cost a bit to repair then report to the police and tesco's, the cctv will get the no plate and you contact his insurance. He drove into a parked car.

If the cost isn't too significant, then:

... just be thankful she is OK and let her relax?
i'd go down this route given you are around 8 weeks away from d-day. Gloss over it, make her feel better, book her a spa day and let it all wash away.

If you want to do something report it to the Police, they will deal with it.

There is no way your wife is to blame in the slightest, I do hope Craigxxl doesn't drive.

scrub tesco out of the equation straight away. its policy not to release or reveal the contents of cctv unless to a police officer or a specfic court order.. best be quick as well as older systems get scrubbed weekly

Driving without due care and attention...straight to Police and involve your wife, as she'll need to give a statement.

Absolutely no excuse for his driving habits or out of order remarks and behaviour.

My wife's due in 3 weeks and this is what I would do.

If it goes unpunished...it's likely he could do it again, but with potentially far worse consequences.

Hope your missus is doing OK and gets over her experience soon.

Leave it be .
Keep reassuring your misses with 'Its only a small scratch , I'm glad your still in one piece' etc
Make several cups of tea, and give her a nice foot massage.
Not worth getting your pants stuck up your crack , just look at the big picture.
The white van man is an @rse, he always will be an @rse . Yes, it could have been alot worse but it wasnt .
Very surprised no -one stepped up though, society today ....

craigxxl - Member
Sounds like an accident with both parties in the wrong.

I assume you just climb in through the boot when you're in a car park?

Ask your wife what she wants first.

What we need is [u]no rules[/u]. That wouldn't have happened then 😆

For sure, she is 50/50 for all the above reasons!

Report it but don't expect superman to show up with the idiots head on a spike.

There is likely little they can do, Tesco cctv as I know from personal experience seems to be made up entirely of calculators disguised as cameras and will probably not be able to read the guys numberplate, if they saw any of it at all.

Sorry she went through that though and report it none the less, you never know he might do it again in a few weeks and then he'll get wrapped for both. Must count as driving dangerously or without due care?

Sounds like an accident with both parties in the wrong.

I think you will have to explain your logic there ?

How exactly was she in the wrong ?

I assume she wasn't in a mother and child space with extra width.

I was assuming that she didn't have a child with her, so why would she be ?

And why would that make any difference anyway ?

If 50/50 and happy to leave it then probably do that unless you are going to be out of cash fixing the car and require a worthwhile claim. There are fannies all over the place and she met this one today. 🙁

I cant believe folk suggesting its 50/50! is it heck!

Pop round the van drivers house and adjust his eye sight!
😉

she shouldn't be there opening side doors

hmm, not sure who you get into your car in a carpark then...

guy sounds like a ****er, hope your wife's OK, my wife is 26 weeks pregnant at the moment, i'd be furious if it happened to her.

craigxxl - Member

Sounds like an accident with both parties in the wrong. I assume she wasn't in a mother and child space with extra width.

We have a new forum dickhead.

First priority is your wife. Make sure she is OK with everything. Provide comfort, understanding etc.Don't make a big deal of it.

Independently get down the supermarket and ask if the CCTV works. Report to police. The guy is a prick who deserves a serious karma realignment.

I understand why you might not want to, but it would be better if you reported it. Idiots like this need the error of their ways explaining to them.

My advice would be to buy a machine gun on the internet, hunt him down, machine gun his face off, and smugly state 'Oops, didn't see you there'.

That should do it.

I@d report it - can't do any harm.

My pregnant wife was involved in an accident with a van (he smashed into the back of her while she was sat in a stationary quee of traffic - while he was engrossed in a phone conversation) 3 years ago.

Police were called (her car was shunted forward into the one in front) and the c**t in the van got done for driving without due care.

We'll never know if the miscarriage she suffered a couple of weeks later was due to the crash...

Still, I'm sure Craigxxl will think it was all her fault.

People like that MUST NOT be allowed to drive.

As mentioned above, it could quite easily have been a child that he hit, and it could VERY easily have been A LOT WORSE for your wife/child.

The van driver now carries on regardless, presuming he can treat the general public with same contempt that most other van drivers do and get away with it..

Do the [u]right[/u] thing, let your testosterone do the talking - and/or make sure the police get his details.

Being just a few weeks ahead of yourself OP, I'm just glad for you that mrs tang is ok. I don't cluck over mrs deadly but I constantly worry that she's ok when commuting etc. Yeah, all very irrational but it just happens. 😐

I suspect that you and mrs tang probably have an idea what you really want to do about it. I hope you'd report him, but if she really doesn't need the hassle of having to make a statement etc, then perhaps discretion may be the better part of valour.

Oh and good luck. 🙂

FFS knuckle scraper van driver picks on a pregnant woman, this boils my blood grrrr

DezB - Member

What we need is no rules. That wouldn't have happened then

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shared_space

Now you're wrong in two threads! 😀

****er.

OP: Failing to report as an absolute minimum.
I can fully understand the "let it slide" sentiments, but if this joker squished a kid next week you'd feel pretty awful for doing nought.

Thankfully wife and bump are ok, that's the main thing - and can't see how she was to blame at all, unless she's being selective with the truth and opened the door into the path of a reversing van. It's happened to me on many occassions, but I'm just playing devils advocate with that suggestion.

Other than that, it was an accident, the bloke seems a bit of a nob, no real harm done, life goes on, leave it at that - unless she points him out next time you're shopping, in which case punch his face in.

HTH

Check for cctv. No result? Keep alookout.

Its a small world sometimes.

As someone said "what do you want out of it".

She wasn't injured so no civil claim for PI.

CCTV - contrary to what someone said on here Tesco will release CCTV if requested by a solcitor.

Police will have no interest in this. What is it , driving offence, assault charge, are there witnesses ?? one person's word against another if no CCTV.

Granted she is upset and he was an ar5ehole but thats life. Not worth the stress. Forget it, move on.

Are you sure your wife's description is completely accurate - it's not just a case of only hearing one side of the story?

Tbh teef, I couldn't care about his side of the story, given what I've heard(wife is very level headed and first to admit if she's made a mistake), I stand by my wife. And if she did decide to take it further I would leave all that to the police, it's their job to gather the stories.

We are talking about a heavily pregnant woman right?

Mine called the Police on me for refusing to let the dog back in. I'd laugh but I'm still abit miffed.

Then when he went missing from the back garden and I was out on the Peaks she...dialled 999 again and told them to come and find him. 😆

She'd never done anything like that before or since so I'd say...

Are you sure your wife's description is completely accurate - it's not just a case of only hearing one side of the story?

How could it have been any different.

If her car wasn't moving, it's not her fault.

Simple.

I'll remind you of that next time you're cycling past a stationary vehicle and an occupant flings a door into your path.

+1 hora ... pregnant women are crazy.

In fact Mr big butch van man may have seen the craziness in OP's mrs' eyes and might have legged it out of sheer terror... Or more likely in seeing that the lady was ok and having been shouted at without the chance to apologize, he probably thought **** that I've got one of these mad cow's at home and I've only come into this bloody supermarket to get more breast pads for her… what have I got to do for a moments peace…. ( He’s still a div mind for driving off)

Remember she was not in the car but outside having just walked into the empty adjacent space. My bet is on him in a hurry and not checking his mirrors enough. Large van in tight car park should take extra care.

Pregnant women are nuts, but so are old people, children, dogs etc. who all frequent car parks. Due care should be taken

How could it have been any different.

If her car wasn't moving, it's not her fault.

That's if you've only heard and believe one side of the story

Not so simple

If I was in your situ, I'd probably let it go for the greater welfare of wife and unborn. Then, in X months time and for the rest of her life, I'd remind her of how stupid she'd been for not getting his details.

B A I think it will prob pan out something like that! Although I generally wear the numpty hat in this house.

tang I would stress over it. Its done and thankfully your mrs's isn't hurt. The anger/stress over it would disproportionately wear you too much.

Just RIDE ALOT. ****, cos in 2 months you aint riding

I'll remind you of that next time you're cycling past a stationary vehicle and an occupant flings a door into your path.

You do actually have some duty of care when passing vehicles to allow for this.

I am glad your wife is ok and goodluck with the rest of the pregnancy.

Some guys just cannot take either being asked to do something or take some form of reprimand from a woman. We see it several times a year with dog walkers and runners when we ask them very politely not to run/walk across our crops for the nth time. If I do it or they are women then there is little reaction. If my wife does it and they are a bloke then there is usually a tirade of abuse. I always wonder if they treat their own wives that way. The worse guy is a runner who swears his head off and then boasts how he is a solicitor and that he can go where he wants doing what he wants. This is a guy that I really want to meet as I feel that he may not treat me the same way.

I'll remind you of that next time you're cycling past a stationary vehicle and an occupant flings a door into your path.

If I'm cycling into a parking space in Tesco, then I'll happily admit it was my fault 😉

This is child #3 so well aware of infant impact on trail time! Turbo and self employment(mmm sun is out i fancy a ride) see me right. Thanks for all your replies! She is fine today, little sore on the bum. I think the large guys reaction was probably the worst part. Car has a small mark, nothing to worry about, it's a well used mobile child's dustbin anyway!

it was an accident, the bloke seems a bit of a nob, no real harm done, life goes on

Its done and thankfully your mrs's isn't hurt

This fella will continue to act like this, and it's quite likely a matter of time before he does serious harm to someone.

But it's ok, let someone else deal with it.