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Not sure why I’m posting this.. probably because I’m annoyed both at how people take liberties on twitter and also because I’m ashamed of my response and lack of self control
In a nutshell some (middle eastern) guy made a comment about xxxxing my mum (I’ll spare the unpleasant details) in response to a light heated post I’d made. My initial response was pretty restrained, along lines of ‘you have sex with 80 year old women?’. His follow up comment along lines of ‘no my white mate did as he has no standards’ really pissed me off however
I realise at this point I should have quietly walked away and blocked, however to my shame I insinuated he probably had a tiny dick and I posted a link to a magazine article about ‘size’ across different races of men. This provoked a further obscene comment. Went out for a walk to calm down and by the time I’d got back I had realised how inappropriate my response was and deleted the tweets I’d posted
Tbh I’m pissed off at myself for rising to his bait, and thoroughly ashamed/disgusted at myself for responding with a reference to race (albeit in the context that he had brought race up in first place - for clarity I absolutely didn’t use any racial slurs towards him ).
I’ve decided to remove myself from twitter as if I can be baited into doing something like that so easily by a bit of trolling, I’m clearly too thin skinned for there. The whole episode has really soured my day 🙁
Careful with the navel gazing... You'll have the professional baiters on here singling you out now TJ is reformed... 🙃
We all weaken occasionally. It's having the self awareness and ability to learn from it (ie modify behaviour) that differentiates us from the Neanderthals...
What did the neanderthals ever do to you? Speciesist!!
Wise to step away. Make your account private as well, to prevent any kind of pile on.
Weirdly I teach a 16yo kids who seems to spend his online time trolling people. To a worrying degree, yes I've tried to say to him it's not healthy.
I just don't understand some people.
Tweets all deleted and my account has been deactivated (by myself). I guess I’m just angry at myself as I had hoped I was better than that, but in a moment of weakness I clearly wasn’t
I’m old enough and big enough to stand up for myself, but when folks start saying stuff about my 80 year old mum then it’s not on. If a random said that in a pub to me I’d have punched them, no doubt about it
Nobody wins on social media.
This is all too easy to do, I believe the algorithms don't help, remember social media is full of idiots, with no social grace and don't deserve to share the air that we breathe.
It's difficult I've learnt just to ignore the comments or don't take it personally, they are very insignificant people looking to get a rise out of you. No one wins an argument online and you can't argue with Stupid.
Other than that block them out.
If a random said that in a pub to me I’d have punched them, no doubt about it
So it's just as well it wasn't then or you could be spending Xmas in gaol/hospital.
Bottom line, yer Mam (or anyone else) probably doesn't need you defending her honour particularly if fisty cuffs are involved. You've taken the steps with ****ter (if you can't trust yourself to behave) but have a think about what you've just written about being in the pub which is much more alarming (if true).
OP, what you need to remember is that they are random people so they don't know you, or your mum. If they actually knew either of you then the insult might have some weight behind it but as it is they are meaningless.
Never argue with an idiot, they drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.
Good work for self Policing.
(Note: I am speaking in general and not targeting anyone or OP or anyone that uses twitter)
I don't understand why people tweet tbh.
My view is that if a person tweets publicly then the person should be prepared to receive various views, good or bad.
Most people just think their views are valid or important to tell the world, but they have forgotten the fact that their views are really Not important at all in a grand scheme of their short life.
Also I think it is not good to bottle up the feeling of "hurts" caused by others if you think you have tweeted something right/accurate/good. Bottle up will affect your mental health.
You should either investigate the opposing comments by asking for their reasons and to understand their reasons for saying so. Then you can provide you own logic to them after you understand them. Doing so will protect you from being hurt and to see things more "logically" and clearly because you have taken out the emotion that will hurt you.
Guard you mind and thoughts, because the rest are really irrelevant.
Op later
Also I think it is not good to bottle up the feeling of “hurts” caused by others if you think you have tweeted something right/accurate/good. Bottle up will affect your mental health.
You should either investigate the opposing comments by asking for their reasons and to understand their reasons for saying so. Then you can provide you own logic to them after you understand them. Doing so will protect you from being hurt and to see things more “logically” and clearly because you have taken out the emotion that will hurt you.
Eh? Did you actually read the OP?
Op later
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Not quite but it did contribute to a bit of self loathing and reflection. Responding with a comment that is aimed at someone’s race should never be acceptable, regardless of provocation or if they are an utter tit. That’s a line I have never ever crossed before.
Eh? Did you actually read the OP?
Yes, I did.
S/he tweeted something but then received very rude reply from his tweet.
S/he felt hurt and decided it was not worth by walking away.
But found that s/he is bottling up the feeling and "beating self" for the decision made.
Also the reference to different culture. Remember in certain part of the world it is very common to use rude comments for everything and nobody takes offense because it is the norm. But when that comment is posted in English the meaning goes complete "nuclear".
If a random said that in a pub to me I’d have punched them, no doubt about it
I believe you would.
Most normal people wouldn’t say such a horrible thing to someone IRL though, for fear of getting a (thoroughly deserved) smack in the mouth.
However, online, there are, effectively, no real deterrents to being an asshole, yes you can be convicted of hate crimes, but the chances of it actually happening are virtually nil.
Don’t let the idiots drag you down to their level.
Maintain your own standards.
I find certain cultures swear differently in accordance to their cultures.
However, I find some commonality among them like targeting family member(s).
Generally, the swearing tend to refer to something taboo like incest related by targeting the female of the family members or threaten to do "harm" to the family member(s) especially the female.
Non of us are perfect. I think this post shows some self-awareness and the desire to do better. If we learn from our mistakes then we can make progress.
Twitter is toxic.