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Sorry TJ, that's shitty shit shit.


 
Posted : 09/06/2021 10:05 pm
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Very sorry for your loss.


 
Posted : 09/06/2021 10:48 pm
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So sorry to read your news. My wife and I are heading along a similar journey, maybe a bit longer and slower but with the same outcome. Your experience and your handling of it gives me some hope for dealing with the future. Thanks for that.


 
Posted : 09/06/2021 11:15 pm
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TJ - I don’t post much these days but it’s been well over 20 years and counting on this forum & one way or another you have always been there, arguing, advising, and perhaps arguing a wee bit more...just because, well, you can.

I think you can see from this thread, and I’m sure you don’t need anyone to tell you, that in this funny old virtual world we share you have found your people, & right now we are all circling around to embrace you as best we can. All the love to you.


 
Posted : 09/06/2021 11:18 pm
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Sorry for you loss TJ, take care.


 
Posted : 09/06/2021 11:25 pm
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I'm so sorry TJ , That's terrible news . My thoughts are with you . Take care bud.


 
Posted : 09/06/2021 11:36 pm
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Desperately sorry to have read this tj.

It sounds like she was loved by many and I hope that as the pain subsides for you over time that only the happy memories and times remain.


 
Posted : 09/06/2021 11:41 pm
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Sorry for your loss TJ. The way you described your last days with your wife was beautiful. What a great husband you were, I doff my hat to you sir.


 
Posted : 09/06/2021 11:52 pm
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I’m sorry to hear this.


 
Posted : 09/06/2021 11:55 pm
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Absolutely heart wrenching to read this TJ.

Sending my condolences and all my positive thoughts to you at this most difficult of times.

As ever the STW forum is brilliant and so supportive in it’s support for anyone suffering loss.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 12:25 am
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Crewlie - you have a pm


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 1:15 am
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Thinking of you fella.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 2:37 am
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@crewlie I hope it goes as well as is possible for you both.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 8:42 am
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Really sorry to hear this TJ.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 8:54 am
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You've reduced me to tears there tj.

See you about.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 9:22 am
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crewlie - post on here when/if you need to. Big hugs.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 10:30 am
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Very sorry to hear that @crewlie.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 12:06 pm
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Really sorry to hear this TJ - I've been seeing photos of the two of you on here since I can remember there being a singletrackworld and it was always a highlight.
Take good care of yourself.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 1:06 pm
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Very sorry to hear of your loss TJ.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 1:54 pm
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So sorry to read your news. My wife and I are heading along a similar journey, maybe a bit longer and slower but with the same outcome. Your experience and your handling of it gives me some hope for dealing with the future. Thanks for that.

Shit, so had to hear this Mark, cherish every moment fella, need to get that ride in soon mate.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 3:00 pm
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Thanks all, MND is my wife’s diagnosis, but I’ll leave this thread alone for TJ.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 3:08 pm
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I don't know you TJ, but I've read and enjoyed your contributions on here for years, including your many adventures with your partner.

I always thought that you came across as a thoroughly decent man, and your response here has only reinforced this (the "new bike" joke especially).

Love and strength to you and all who knew her.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 3:42 pm
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She decided she wanted no treatment – she wanted to go “home” to spend quality time with friends and to hear birdsong and see trees. With the help of our wonderful friend Iona who gave us use of her ground floor house and garden and a huge supporting cast of friends and family we were able to make her wishes come true.

I nursed her to the end and she died peacefully in my company. We were able to ensure she had a good death and that her final weeks were filled with laughter and love.

At the end she died much as she lived – very much on her own terms

What a lovely way to pass .Thanks for sharing it, and remember you still have all the memories.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 4:19 pm
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Heart breaking Tj, but my goodness, you've done her proud. Thinking of you and others who are coping with ill loved ones and loss.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 9:34 pm
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Oh man that's a hard read.

Like many on here I've never met you but feel like I've known you a long time. I was looking forward to reading about your adventures travelling around in your retirement and I'm so sorry this never happened for you both. You may think of yourself as an argumentative old curmudgeon, but it's clear you are loved and respected on here and I suspect in the real world as well. Take care, and if you find yourself in the Dunkeld area, it would be an honour to meet you and shake your hand.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 10:15 pm
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Really sorry to hear that TJ. Sending hugs your way.


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 10:16 pm
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I can barely begin to imagine what that must feel like.

My thoughts are with you x


 
Posted : 10/06/2021 10:21 pm
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TJ - heartfelt sympathy to you, so sad to read.
But you've undoubtedly made the best of a horrific situation, I'd settle for slipping away in such a way.
Take care of yourself.


 
Posted : 11/06/2021 11:35 am
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Just seen this TJ. So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.


 
Posted : 11/06/2021 1:58 pm
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I'm sorry to read this, my deepest condolences and sympathies.


 
Posted : 11/06/2021 7:11 pm
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Just seen this. Completely awful. Sounds like she was an incredible person.


 
Posted : 12/06/2021 9:53 pm
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I am so sorry to hear that TJ. My condolences and best wishes for the future.


 
Posted : 13/06/2021 8:06 am
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Just seen this. Only know you through your years of quality contributions to this group. Thinking of you. Take care.


 
Posted : 13/06/2021 8:11 am
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So sorry to hear this TJ. Thinking of you and your loss. What a dignified end. One can only hope for the same.


 
Posted : 13/06/2021 7:57 pm
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Sorry for your loss TJ.


 
Posted : 13/06/2021 11:31 pm
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Really sorry to hear of your loss.
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Posted : 13/06/2021 11:50 pm
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Thanks for the kind words everyone.

I guess the recovery starts now and I guess that will include plenty of cycling. Looks like a custom shand is in my future and that of course means I need a new bike for now 🙂

I will be shouting out on here for folk to ride with once I am ready for that and a vague plan is being formulated to have a "see how many STWers I can find IRL" tour later in the summer. Be warned!


 
Posted : 14/06/2021 9:40 am
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TJ I think your empathy for other on this thread is a measure of you as a human being. Folk are here for you.


 
Posted : 14/06/2021 9:41 am
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I rather think we'd get along TJ so make sure you come down peebles was for some light xc.


 
Posted : 14/06/2021 10:27 am
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Sorry to read of your loss TJ. Sending my condolences and best wishes for the future.


 
Posted : 14/06/2021 2:04 pm
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Sorry for your loss tj.


 
Posted : 14/06/2021 2:09 pm
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Nice one TJ,happy to show you the 3 trails around Macc Forest that I know 😂


 
Posted : 14/06/2021 2:21 pm
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Sorry for your loss TJ.


 
Posted : 14/06/2021 3:11 pm
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Please accept my belated condolences TJ. I rarely look on the chat forum. Your account of Julie's last days was extremely moving. I am currently receiving treatment for cancer and thankfully things are looking very promising but if/when I have to face the end, I can only hope that I will be allowed to go with the peace and dignity that you were able to allow for Julie.

All the best to you TJ!


 
Posted : 14/06/2021 3:17 pm
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“see how many STWers I can find IRL” tour later in the summer. Be warned!

You're more than welcome in my corner of of the world. It'd be lovely to met IRL.


 
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