[i]I hate internet 'dating'. Mostly because I'm ginger and never have anything funny/interesting to say in an email, so I don't get many dates [/i]
I am not ginger and still don't get any dates. Just what do women want from us??
Feeling inspired to throw myself out there again - will be studying the various tips . . . . Wonder if it will make the slightest difference to the usual messages I get. Will report back (if I dont go off the idea again before ive got home and sat in front of the pc)
adjustable - if you go onto POF just hang in tight and duck while the barrage of random 68 year old men send you pictures of themselves drinking champagne in bed - it does get better once all it all calms down 🙂
I really had no luck with PoF, think I only went on one date and that didn't work out. Many more dates through paid sites...
As for multiple dating thing - ok up to a point but as soon as it went past a second date and we'd arrange to see each other again then that was the line for me.
A female friend has told me the in thing for men on dating websites at the moment is photos of them with tigers 😯
[img] 
[/img]
Me and my Bro!
@ dashed - I've also tried Fitness Singles, but don't get much from that at all.
Maybe I need help with my profile - come on guys what appeals to 40 something, chilled out, male mtbers / kayakers / snowboarders (plaese don't get this thread locked 😉 )
Flowerpower, put your email addy in your profile, I'm sure you'll get some emails.
Also pics and some evidence that you aren't mental or desperate.
Hmmm... not sure that I am mental or desperate enough to put my email up on here 😳
*update*
I got a date 8)
On Sunday, with a girl and she's not mental. Result. Not bad for 2 weeks effort.
Wish me luck.
Btw, I've tried OK Cupid, but don't think that's going to work out.
Where do I look next ? Match, PoF ?
Opinions please.
Don't want to put you off but sometimes it can take 6 week to discover if they are a mentalist 😳
😆
How do you know that right now, she's not having the exact same conversation with her friend about me ?
Good work ToD, I hope it goes well for you and that she is not just masking the mentalness whilst luring you into a false sense of security 😀
I [s]picked[/s] met my Wife on Dating Direct, but this is going back 9 years - not sure what its like now. Certainly no where near as `interesting' as say Plenty More Fish from what I've been told
I got a dateOn Sunday, with a girl and she's not mental. Result. Not bad for 2 weeks effort.
Where do I look next ? Match, PoF ?Opinions please.
😆 Loving the optimism!
Ah..yes..no quite what I meant. 😳
Just to look FP, just to look.
I guess that this is the obvious answer, but I would fully accept guys chatting to a few girls at a time - it seems to be the way it works
it is the norm I agree but it is just not for me and i would not date someone who wanted to do this. yes we dont know what will happen but look at ToD one date that has not happened and already looking for the next 😉 . I wanted relationships not sex [ ok I wanted both but in that order 😀 ]
I guess the thing is its up to you you can have fun, look for love and everything in between. Its your dating choices so anything you decide is fine. the right person will agree/understand and the wrong ones will be lost quickly which is no bad thing
Its like the how soon should you meet folk think anything from straight away to after a while/Personally I wanted to know we would get on/be friends and the meet was just for the chemistry test
On Sunday, with a girl and she's not mental.
Given that's not possible, my bet is (s)he's really a bloke....
😉
Stop it you lot. This is not helping 😆
*Puts down spade, tries to climb out of very deep hole*
After numerous dates on PoF (all nutters), I took the plunge and signed up to Guardian Soulmates last year. I only messaged one girl who I really liked the sound of. We met a couple of days later and instantly hit it off. 2 weeks later I cancelled my membership. This was all 10 months ago now. We got engaged recently, and I couldn't be happier. Best £30 I've ever spent!
We got engaged recently, and I couldn't be happier.
Congrats!
flowerpower - Member
Maybe I need help with my profile - come on guys what appeals to 40 something, chilled out, male mtbers / kayakers / snowboarders (plaese don't get this thread locked )
Honesty Flower - for me anyway. Just be who you are not what you think someone expects you to be 😉
A woman comfortable in her own skin, relaxed around others and happy to be herself is FAR more attractive and sexier than one dressed to the nines, tottering around like a drunk bambi ( although there is a time and a place for that 😉 )
It all depends on what you expect from it all. IME there are too many expectations from a lot of the women on PoF. "Looking for my knight in shining armour" "looking for prince charming" "sweep me off my feet", etc, etc etc....
Whatever happened to "lets see how it goes?"
That doesn't mean "jump into bed" - it means lets see how we get on, laugh, etc.
To coin a phrase - "Too many disappointments is usually the result of too many expectations......"
Maybe I need help with my profile - come on guys what appeals to 40 something, chilled out, male mtbers / kayakers / snowboarders (plaese don't get this thread locked )
Please let me know when you find out 😆
Just be honest..
'Own hair (some left), teeth (most of them), has pulse (bit erratic), seeks similar. Interest in arguing the toss about nonsense on STW would be ideal.'
I met "our lass" on PoF just over 2.5 years ago about 6 months after the very acrimonious end of my 21 year marriage. I was VERY nervous about on-line dating or just women in general (having appeared to have married a violent, psychotic b...h 😐 ) but gave it a whirl.
She was the first lass I ever messaged on PoF, I still have that "hit by an express train" even now - never had that before. They say that somewhere out there everyone has their soulmate I'm guessing destiny / fate played it's cards well and truly with MrsMuttley & I.
[img] 
[/img]
Typical of PoF she is actually as mad as a fish (she's the right sort of mad though) and up for anything. Shes a Mountain Biker too which is a HUGE bonus - there is only one issue.. she may actually be quicker than me... 
[img] 
[/img]
We have been living together for 18 months and we couldn't be happier.. there probably will be some sort of formalisation process to this (ahem) after our respective divorces have gone through. ..shhhhhhh 😉 it has been discussed 😉 😉 😉
So on line dating does work, and work very well BUT I think like all things romance wise luck plays a HUGE part in the process.
nice picture swap...
I was having "issues" with it... lol
[img] 
[/img]
Jeez Houns, even your "like" post has a button-cuff 😡
Normally cuff links, but this is an informal thread
[img] 
[/img]
I hate internet 'dating'. Mostly because I'm ginger and never have anything funny/interesting to say in an email, so I don't get many dates
lol..
i too am one of the blessed with 'glorious' ginger locks..!
It did hold me back to start with i think.. combined with only being 5ft 9... a face like a smacked bum and i am also blessed with the social skills of a brick...
then I just thought.. **** it!
email people you like the look / sound of.. pick up on stuff in their profile.. and always have at least one question in any emails.. it gives the recipient something to answer and build on in a reply..
this seemed to work for me.. a couple of emails on the site.. then either MSN messenger for a bit... or a few texts and a phone chat.. then organise a date..!
don't mess about messaging for ages.. i did this to begin with its just a waste of time and its very easy to build up false pictures of people from online communication i think..
it was a crazy crazy 6 months... so many dates and new people! i met some great people.. and am still friends with a few of them.. kinda miss the excitement in a way..
on the flipside i also met some quite frankly bizarre people and had some downright weird 'dates' too.. the stories i could tell! its all part of the fun though.
just be yourself and be open, and don't get hung up on something if it goes wrong.. just move on.. lifes too short to fret.. besides.. there's always that date next week you arranged with someone else.. 😉
and lastly never be afraid to try something new!
I Met my partner on Match.com 6 years ago in April now.. 😀
Babble over.
lastly never be afraid to try something new!
Is it a civil partnership?
it gets very uncivil at times... 😉
and lastly never be afraid to try something new!
One should try everything once except sodomy and morris dancing.
i'm more for trying things twice...
just in case something went wrong the first time 😯
Yep, those require a bit of practice to get the hang of
I met my lovely other half on e-Harmony almost four years ago.
I met up with a couple of others before we finally met, but I knew straight away I would cancel my membership once we had agreed to meet up a second time.
We actually cancelled out membership together 🙂 (it was dead romantic..... honest )
Babble over.
I should say that I've done alright from internet dating, but probably the best lass I met was when I was on the rebound. She ****ed off eventually when I wouldn't commit! Anyway, the single life ain't bad 🙂
i met my OH via ID, 6 years on we are still together, before we met i had loads of dates and got a bit addicted to the "first date" and the adrenalin rush you get, so much so i had one weekend with 3 separate dates. i must explain this was after 20+ years with the same woman and after we split i unleashed myself, maybe just to prove i could still do it, i was like a kid in a sweet shop trying all the flavours. After about 6 months though it got boring and i went for quality not quantity.
i will say that honesty is the best policy, never pretend to be something you are not, you will get found out, be yourself and have a sense of humour and don't take yourself or the process too seriously
@Flowerpower, get yourself onto Trailscotland or http://www.meetup.com/Central-Scotland-MTB-Group/ to meet hunks like me (other men may be available) :lol:, quite often group rides in your area.
I met Mrs Ed on a dating site - my tips
be careful with the options on the profile, you want to include everything so that the sites don't try and filter for you
message as many as you can (it's easy to spot desperate or mental from the profile, just trust your instinct)
write your own profile as though you don't really need a date
don't try to be a comedian as you'll end up looking like colin hunt from the fast show
avoid the cliches - 'I prefer the pub to the telly' is the best antidote to the usual wine/dvd/going out/staying in nonsense, don't make the profile too long
2 or 3 photos max, one strong head and shoulders with a pale background (not a nightclub shot or one with your mates in) and one with you out on your bike, shows that you are in good physical condition and have a life not a saddo
don't write the words 'i'm looking for' cos it's an excuse for the other person to filter
until you're on date no2 keep messaging and scanning, keep irons in the fire 🙂 this is ok to do online
playing hide the sausage and checking your email isn't acceptable !
@grey - I am (TrailScotland - and my user name gives it away 😉 ) only made one ride so far... and nearly drowned, but yes, a really nice bunch of guys... will say hi when I see you!
I think I have just got meyself a date!
Had to turn down the invite... puffer weekend innit, but she seems happy to postpone.
Woohoo Josh 🙂
