I know there are a few folk on here who are dabbling with online dating. With the arrival of the New Year and the reported increase in members of dating sites, has anyone had any luck in 2014 so far? I got chatting to fairly good looking blonde lady over the weekend but she has gone quiet on me. So hardly a great start but onwards and upwards.
How are you lot doing?
It's only tuesday and back to work yesterday - see how she is later, ask her how the week is treating her, etc 😉
I've been on POF for years now. I get a surprising number of one word emails such as "Hi" and so on. Don't think I've ever had a message that was longer than one sentence.
Currently chatting to nice single lady, no kids etc.
Some can take several days to reply, not everyone lives in front of the computer (like I seem to do)!!
No luck here.... I've met lots of lovely people but no-one that I have clicked with 😕
Last week I had another go at it, new year new start, sent about 50 messages, bugger all replies so far. Woe is me.
Few ok seeming women, always who live about 3 hours away.. 🙄
I had a lovely lady who favourited me on POF on the 1st Jan... exchanged messages for a couple of days, spoke on the phone the last 3 evenings and we are meeting on friday... fingers crossed..
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Loving the scatter gun approach dabble. I think that might be my next move.
Good luck Jungli, let us know how it goes.
No updates here. Got bored with it. I think I've messaged one or 2 since the last thread and been ignored, so sod em all. Ugly caas. Got better fings to do with me time!
Get the occasional Wants-to-meet-you email, but nothing of any interest.
Best one was a "mutual meet" who I messaged and she blocked me! Hmph.
PoF is a virtual minefield, why do some women think that lookng serious while doing a selfie troutpout in the bogs of some pub or other is the way to attract people?
Had two dates in Dec and just had a follow up with one at the weekend a Paramedic MTB'r (no not Drac!) with some niche bikes too.
Was in contact with two others over the festives and have arranged a date with one. Quite satisfied with that hit rate!
There was an article in the French press which said 30% of French couples now meet via internet/social media
PoF ? ( Very new to all this )
Chatting to someone nice, hoping to meet up, fingers crossed n all that.
At work, so not the best time to jump into this thread, but I'l rejoin the conversation later on. I have much to learn.
I did a bit before Xmas and CBA with it just now, though there are some hotties on my list.
dabble - Member
Last week I had another go at it, new year new start, sent about 50 message
I ignore any generic message or any one that doesn't have my name in it, unless it's from a hottie (they never do). You must be doing something seriously wrong not to get any replies from 50.
I met my wife on Fitness Singles...
Is that one of the FREE! to sign up... £60 a month! to message someone?
If I'm going to pay to meet a woman, an online dating site is not where I'm going 8)
missnotax - Member
No luck here.... I've met lots of lovely people but no-one that I have clicked with
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[b]@trailof destruction[/b] you also need to check this out.
[url= http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/online-dating-help ]Map of the minefield - unverified[/url]
[url= http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-25410883 ]20 Online Dating profile errors! according to the BBC[/url]
Am also on Fitness Singles £45 for 3 months is steep but it is a more selective choice...When they list cycling it usually means they know where to find the Bottom Bracket 😀
But I DO like cosy nights in with a bottle of wine and a DVD 😆
[i]20 Online Dating profile errors! according to the BBC[/i]
They've just listed NEARLY EVERY WOMAN's profile on POF there!
Am also on Fitness Singles £45 for 3 months is steep but it is a more selective choice
I think paying a modest amount is good value, it at least means people on there are vaguely serious...
+1 for paying.
You'll probably save money on not going on dates with people who aren't serious, not to mention all the time wasted filtering through the profiles.
PoF seemed like a waste of time. I'm sure quite a few people on there see it as a hobby in itself, rather than a means to an end.
OKCupid seems good for for a freebie - plenty serious nice women and few swampmonsters.
Gave up on Pof for few months, still on there but not actively bothering with it. Shall update my profile and try again in a few weeks, so watch out ladies
Tried tinder but it's a waste of time, no one seems to chat on it
I'm a one man disaster area when it comes to "online women".....
(probably not a lot better for non-virtual ones either 😉
Tried tinder but it's a waste of time, no one seems to chat on it
My understanding is people on Tinder don't want chat...
Nope I think safe to say tinder isn't that kind of site
I thought Tinder was a straight version of Grinder? ie for casual short term physical relationships.
anyone tried tender - short term physical relationships for people who have an infection of some sort already ?
anyone tried tender - short term physical relationships for people who have an infection of some sort already ?
Or those just trying to collect the full set.....
I think that it's worth paying so that you know the other people are serious and that you are a lot less likely to be wasting your time. I know people who have paid thousands to join the more upmarket agencies, so the online dating sites are at least better value for money.
PS Good luck Jungli
[i]You must be doing something seriously wrong not to get any replies from 50.[/i]
He didn't mention he is the Son of Elephant Man!
Sorry! Seriously I've been married for years, but miss the thrill of online/phone dating. When my first marriage failed I found solace in a few sensational meetings with a couple of HOT women. Life was never such fun!
(obviously I didn't marry either of them!)
Any word from Jungli?
I have a question - How long is it acceptable to be 'meeting' a few different people with out 'declaring' it? How many 'meets' before you admit to the fact that you are still chatting to others?
I ask this as I feel that I got a bit caught out. I had met a guy about 4 times, with loads of chatting between and was talking about a trip away with him (and I guess I was beginning to feel like there might be something in it), when he admitted that he had been seeing two other girls for a similar length of time. The outcome was that he chose one of the other girls.
I don't think he did anything wrong, I had also met another guy during that time, but it has made me think... I am presently meeting another guy for the second time, while still chatting to two more. What is the etiquette here? Help?
Ask them about it - whether "exclusive" to start or not
I genuinely don't know, I can only manage one at a time and I wouldn't like it if by 3rd/4th date she was still chatting to and meeting others
footflaps - MemberI met my wife on Fitness Singles...
#awkward
what was her explaination?
I think its safe to assume that if you are guy,that girl you like who is talking to you on pof is talking to another 5 guys at least,if you're a 6ft hunk then good but if not then it will probably not end so well,just have some fun along the way if possible 🙂
I hate internet 'dating'. Mostly because I'm ginger and never have anything funny/interesting to say in an email, so I don't get many dates 😉
Mostly because I'm ginger
I'm so very sorry, I didn't realise....
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I have a question - How long is it acceptable to be 'meeting' a few different people with out 'declaring' it? How many 'meets' before you admit to the fact that you are still chatting to others?
I dont care but you need to decide what you think is acceptable
Personally I would not meet anyone who was also trying out a few others or contacting others as we were chatting
My view is not the most common as everyone seems to think its ok to multiple date for some reason.
My view is not the most common as everyone seems to think its ok to multiple date for some reason.
I think that's the norm to be honest, you don't know how things will work out so may as well keep each conversation going as you never know what will happen. Last time I was on FS I was chatting to 3-4 women at a time. Think I met about 10 for at least one 'date' over a few months. I'd meet up even if I didn't think it would go anywhere as I treated the whole thing like interview practice, may as well hone your skills when there is less at stake, than wait for Ms perfect and fluff the whole thing up.....
only ever met two* tbh and ended up in a relationship with them both- not at the same time 😉
I suppose what this says is the answer flower is whatever you want/expect
I cannot imagine planning a trip away with someone whilst still trying out others
* i never wanted to meet any of the others I chatted to though a few asked to meet me #awkward
I think dating agencies are different in that everyone is on there for a specific reason and the filtering process is just that, a process to be performed as efficiently and quickly as possible. Bit unromantic, but then so are dating agencies.
Met my other half on Pof and we're about to buy a house together. 2 very happy singletrackers here! Don't give up the hunt..it's hard work but it can pay off!
Ask them about it - whether "exclusive" to start or not
Yes - I guess that this is the obvious answer, but I would fully accept guys chatting to a few girls at a time - it seems to be the way it works - it was the one month later revelation that was a bit weird.
I don't care but you need to decide what you think is acceptable
Very true - the problem is that you aren't always aware of how others are acting - guess that comes back to hammy above.
I cannot imagine planning a trip away with someone whilst still trying out others
This is the bit that pissed me off, I wasn't aware at the time.
However - the update was that the girl he originally 'choose' turned him down when she also found out that he was still 'shopping'. I was even offered the position as runner up - classy! 🙄
Don't give up the hunt..it's hard work but it can pay off!
Cheers!! 😀
