mate or buddy interchangeably with a sprinkling of pal thrown in depending on where i am geographically.
when i grew up local terms were either monna or mush
Butt
Lad.
Lass.
"Butt" round here.
Mate - that's everyone, male, female, known, unknown, boss, wife, kids, todo en el mundo.
Keeps things simple.
Butt
Newport?
“Butt” round here.
You're in the wilds quite a bit north of Newport, iirc?
I quite like Cornish "My 'andsome".
Gadge.
I always appreciated Marra when I had a job on the NW corner of Cumbria, am I right in thinking it's use extends over to the north east too?
I tend to favour Chum, but that's a me thing and not regional. We have a small cohort of Pal's where I work from some contractors who are from Wigan.
'Mate' is what I use. Or 'Love'.
'Pal' can be used either way: 'Hey, how are you doing pal?' or 'You wot, pal?' Depends on the inflection.
The 'marra' officianado's are, I assume, Cumbrian?
I have never heard 'Butt'
‘Pal’ can be used either way: ‘Hey, how are you doing pal?’ or ‘You wot, pal?’ Depends on the inflection.
Exactly and this is my issue with it! The ambiguity of it is ripe for misinterpretation. The palist might think his inflection makes it perfectly clear how it was meant but does it? Does it really? You know exactly where you are with 'mate'
Edge of Derby – its actually a convenient location to live for getting round the country with good riding as well. And Im not from here either! 😀
Do we know each other?
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Context, innit.
I have a friend who calls everyone 'pal,' there's no aggression there. I'd similarly use mate, not least because I have a terrible memory for names.
Coming from a stranger, 'pal' could be antagonistic. It feels like something that would follow a direction: "look, pal..." or "here, listen, pal..." But I guess that's more about delivery than the word, sunshine.
It's a quirk of British English, we can insert random gibberish all over the place and it still makes total sense. "Yeah, I went out last night with Kev and got absolutely trousered. You know Kev, he's hatstand when he's had a couple of sherbet lemons. Tell you what though pal, I was Fairy liquid this morning."
a small cohort of Pal’s where I work from some contractors who are from Wigan.
Bingo.
Weird how it's so hyper-local.
Used to be Fella for me. But i do a military style fitness bootcamp run by army PTI's, and at the end of the session would often say 'thanks fellas' or similar until one took me aside and told me that where the C word is so widely used in the military it has lost all value and so they need something worse. So 'fella' has been retasked
Avoid if the recipient is or may be military.
I use pal, mate or bud(buddy). And even though I'm borderline West Cumbrian I don't use marra.
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This thread would definitely be improved if people were more geographically precise than ’round here’
Up the road, obvs!
Alright Spa!
Safe or wot bruv?
I find that pal and bud wind my up almost as much as someone calling me son. I prefer to go with bro or brosephine if it's a lady.
My Devonian wife always assumed that folks in Essex, such as myself, called each other geezer.
First time she went to the pub with me in Chelmsford.. "Oi, geezer, got a light?". That is the only time I've been referred to as such.
(Geographical precision: pub was the original Prince of Orange - I'm sure some of you have been there and not remembered 😉
Mate for me. Hate Pal.
Really enjoy the scouse "Lid" in exchange of "Lad". As in "aright there Lid?" although a lot of scousers use Lad as well.
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Half way between Binners, who lives in Ooniville and Cougar, where they still wipe their arses on each other.
And about 3 miles North and 50 years ahead of STW Towers. Keep banging the rocks together guys.....
A couple of mates from Essex
Essex ??. Well anything to elevate their perceived social standing 😆
Meht/mate/matey, pard, shag, ansom, lover...is standard here in Kernow.
I tend to go with meht, mate and bud though
Bud, buddy, fella, dood. Possibly Jimmy.
Well I'll tell you.
I was surprised when I moved to Scotland that they use "Pal" but now its default and "Mate" feels wrong and forced.
Buddy & Chap can get in the sea.
In South Cheshire I go for Duck, Liverpool it's La, mate or as I'm in construction it's just sparky, joiner , plumber or whatever you do. North Wales mates go for pal a lot. Older ladies it's love, dogs it's buddy, I don't talk to cats.
@orena45 - last person I heard call another pard was my Papa in about 1988😃. Do people still say it? He was from down west, but when I’m in Cornwall it’s Newquay so not really indicative of what Cornish people say.
A few fisherman friends used to say ‘my ansom’ back in the 90s but they were being ironic I think.
I go with bud but I my start saying meht jut to mix it up in the Midlands.
Comrade
Really enjoy the scouse “Lid” in exchange of “Lad”.
Is that not bin lid ➡ kid?
Aaaright argh kid?
Not a fan of any of them tbh. Happy to use that sort of thing with a friend but generally don't stick to one word. To a stranger? Not really something I do. Just tend to try to be polite and avoid mate/pal/bro/love/duck/etc.
Once knew a guy in uni who used "pal" in every sentence, whether he knew someone or not. Annoyed the ever living .... out of me and has kind of influenced me ever since.
To the extreme that Line of Duty was almost unwatchable for me with all that false mate Chat going on. Grr. 😉
I wuz jest thinkun , iz zact greetin wuz ‘owree pard’?
Typing like this is doing a proper job of messing with predictive text!
You know that thread where we said what irritated us? Being called any of those by some one I don't know. (As the OP suggested) I am not your mate, bud or what ever! Therefore it is simple "hello" or "excuse me" etc.
Possibly "Sir" to an older gentleman, especially If I wanted to get on his good side or maybe "young man" if I was being stern to a nipper such as most of you lot.
Mon or monner.
Back in the 80s/90s Northwest rock climbing scene it was "Youth".
Guv'nor or Gavnaah if darn sarf
I struggle to use 'mate' with people. Always feel like it's got passive aggressive connotations with it. But with so many people using it I feel like I should use it. Then when I do, I don't think it's convincing. So generally don't. Which results in my exploring of alternatives to addressing people in a casual way. Some people think I'm weird!
Quite alright with either mate or pal tbh unless it’s from a delivery driver then I think it’s rather familiar.
Where i grew up 70s and 80s ‘mush’ was quite normal , I only really use that to my brother now though
Well usualy I find Pal a bit in your face cocky, but today I opened the door in a multi story car park for a chap with a load of shopping in his hands and he said "cheers pal" in a really friendly way.
So I think context has the greatest indicator of the greeting.
There's a saying in aus that you always call a mate "c..t" and you always call a c..t "mate". I like that.
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