[Closed] Lovely morning ride until.........

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Seriously?! Must have been a shock, hope you are not too shaken.

Oh. That's tough, just remember there's nothing you could have done.

Jeez. I hope you're alright.

Poor soul.

EDIT: Incidentally, if you haven't had any experience of this sort of thing before (and sometimes even if you have), keep an eye on yourself in terms of how you are feeling in the coming days and weeks.

Best wishes.

Hope you're bearing up OK.

My PC neighbour tells me this kind of tragedy is becoming increasingly common, he reckons East Europeans are prone to committing suicide in an alcohol-fuelled fit of despair. I wonder what can be done to help people who are homesick, lonely and don't speak the best English?

That must have been a terrible shock.

Nothing you could do about it, sadly.

shit, that's a terrible thing to have seen.

Awful.

We had one in Dunblane a month back - awful. Made worse by the police not stopping all the primary and secondary children who walk that way from passing by and seeing it. 🙁

bloody hell.

No experience but 'talking to people about how you feel in the next few weeks' seems like good advice.

Horrible.
Poor unfortunate & family.

Massive downer. You have my sympathies.
Horrible for everyone involved.

Grim. This was in Rowney Warren/Chicksands ?

I didn't ride into him thanks. He was just off the trail on his knees kind of, I thought it was a dummy at first until I got up close to him. Jumped off step ladders and neck gone. No signs of life. Utter shame for him and his family.

Yes chicksands

So sad 🙁 Second what the others said, hope you are doing OK, do look after yourself.

Jesus that's grim. As others have said, keep an eye on your own state of mind. I imagine something like that haunts you for a fair while.

A neighbour hung herself, post natal depression - very sad as she had a lovely family. As above don't underestimate the impact on yourself

Oh shit, that's horrible.

I feared discovering something similar back when there was a spate of suicides of young people in Bridgend a few years ago. There's a shire of sorts to someone in the woods on one of my local routes.

That's so sad - hope you're ok, how horrible. 🙁

Walking the dogs one morning I came across a guy who had tied a rope to a tree, through the open back of his car and round his neck - he then drove the car forwards.
Really not nice. This was about 15 years ago and I still think about it when I go up to those woods.
Hope you're OK BB.

Yep hope you're ok - it's a bit shocking on your commute

Never nice.

I read this after watching a Dave Mirra tribute video.

Double 🙁

We found a guy in a burnt out car once on a hilltop near cambridge
All that was left was a skeleton, which depersonalised it somewhat, so not quite so upsetting, but still sobering

We found a guy in a burnt out car once on a hilltop near cambridge

I'm not sure I believe this. There are no hilltops near Cambridge.

Very sad, keep an eye on yourself and talk about it if you need to.

All the best

the quick to judge might want to remember that dark humour is a common coping mechanism, its not wrong, just different.
gallows humour if you like.
im sure the OP knew very well the variety of responses he would get here.

sorry to hear the start of your day bigbloke.

(minilol @ the no hills in cambridge)

All that was left was a skeleton, which depersonalised it somewhat, so not quite so upsetting, but still sobering

Might have been a skeleton before the car fire? I imagine they were upset for having nobody to be with.

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the quick to judge might want to remember that dark humour is a common coping mechanism, its not wrong, just different.
gallows humour if you like.
im sure the OP knew very well the variety of responses he would get here.

sorry to hear the start of your day bigbloke.

True enough, my Wife is a Nurse specialising in palatine home care - we sometimes joke about her getting to finish early if someone dies etc, but never publicly. I don't know how she does it, there's a sort of timescale - she mentions about Mrs such and such, gets to know them over weeks or months, then there's a event that sometimes comes out of the blue and they have to be medicated to the point where they'll never regain consciousness and they die, not all her patients died thankfully - sometimes they just need drugs a few times a day or wound management, but more than 50% seem to be end of life, a constant stream of people. Meet them, get to know them, than they reach the point when it's too painful for them to be awake, then they died, everyone of them effects her a little bit, not like a loved one or a relative, but it still effects her. The joking helps lighten the mood sometimes, I couldn't do it.

Talk to friends/family/professionals in the upcoming days.
Had a similar one a year or so ago and I found it helped not to hide it in my head.
Tim

I often say to the wife and kids that I'm surprised I haven't found someone hanging in our woods yet as I'm the first in there every morning and 'expect' to see one.................so imagine my shock when I was walking in there about 6.30am a week or so ago and saw a swaying body through the trees! Dogs started barking, I ran closer to discover it was a lady doing headstands!! I was relieved to say the least, she was just as surprised to see me as its fairly remote

Must be a truly awful thing to see, sorry you had to bigbloke. I often think the same of the folk you hear about on the news who find bodies - how does it impact them? And in this case, you.

My flatmate years ago was showing a family round a house (he was an estate agenct - but a good one), and found the previous owner hanged in one of the rooms. It boiled away at the back of mate's brain for a long time.

So, as others have said - go and talk to someone professional about it, to help you compartmentalise is ASAP.

Dreadful thing to have happen bigbloke.

Take care of yourself.

I'm not sure I believe this. There are no hilltops near Cambridge.

it was the start of the roman road, which isnt really a hill, but by east anglia standards
empty petrol can next to the car, twas confirmed suicide in the press

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Hope you're OK OP...as others have said, don't be shy to talk to a professional about it....

it was the start of the roman road, which isnt really a hill, but by east anglia standards
empty petrol can next to the car, twas confirmed suicide in the press

I know where you mean. Hell of a way to go. 😕

On a slightly more serious note, also hope you're OK OP.

Mate, in someways share, in others don't.
I'm not about at the moment but there's others who've offered.
You'll have to sell that bike now.

Echo what others have said, but also comment that different people react in different ways.

I've told this story before, but will do again - i arrived at work one day to find a colleague knelt over someone on the ground outside our work gates. She'd fallen and hit her head and there was a lot of blood; we did a quick look and I ran in to grab a first aid kit while he did vital signs (and on finding none) started CPR. By the time i got back, a crowd had gathered including a doctor from the local health centre, who ascertained she'd had a massive attack (aneurysm as it turned out) and died probably before she hit the floor.

My colleague was substantially affected and needed a lot of support. Me - I almost couldn't care less - not that i didn't feel sorry for her, or her family, but it wasn't someone i knew and nothing I'd done to cause it, hence I didn't really feel anything other than passing sorrow.

Different people react differently - if you feel you need support, go and get it quickly. If you don't - don't beat yourself up about it, it's not a problem.

r.i.p to the person 🙁

Shit happens, huh?

When I was a kid my next door neighbour (the Dad) hanged himself in some nearby woods....I think ever since when Ive been out early, I've had the occasional thought about finding someone in the trees.

I don't think it was because of his neighbours btw!

Sorry, feel horrible for you

Was a almost daily occurrence in 80's Hertfordshire, when they closed all the big Victorian psychiatric hospitals.

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Still wary of of anything hanging from trees to this day !!

A colleague just topped themselves over the weekend.

As theotherjonv says. I was one of the first on the scene of an RTA, a biker had gone into the front of an old couple's car at around sixty mph, on one side of a railway bridge, the rider was on the other side. I checked him for a pulse on the side of his neck, but it was perfectly clear he'd had it.
He'd already passed me earlier while I was in a line of cars behind one about to turn right, when he blasted past; I thought then that he was an accident looking to happen.
It's never bothered me, the only time I think of it is when a subject like this pops up.
I rather thought of it as evolution in action.