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It's when you read things like this you realise how often this terrible situation happens to people. My thoughts are with you all.
J
Another thanks for posting the pictures - lovely.
Jeez, what an awful thing to happen. As per everyone else, sorry and sincere condolences. I can't imagine what you are feeling.
I've lost people close to me at young ages (mum and an uncle) and know how hard it can be, but I have no idea what it must be like to lose a kiddy. All I can say is talk to your family, be open and show how you are feeling, although that can be harder said than done.
When my uncle passed away at the age of 30, he left two young girls behind aged 5 and 3. My aunt got some very good advice on how to explain it to them and do things to help them come to terms with it. I can't remember where she got it from, but will try and find out (I know they did things like let balloons go, up to daddy in heaven etc).
I'm so sorry for your loss. As others have said, don't be afraid to talk. There are plenty who will listen.
I can't find the words to help, but you are doing the right thing. You must talk about your boy and let your feelings out.
Love and prays to you all.
Nothing to say other than I'm so, so sorry for your loss.
when my friend died his wife used Winstons Wish a lot. it's a charity that specialises is helping kids who have lost loved ones. It may be worth getting in touch.
awful news, sorry for your loss
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when my friend died his wife used Winstons Wish a lot. it's a charity that specialises is helping kids who have lost loved ones. It may be worth getting in touch
When my wife's cousin died suddenly at 33 leaving 5yr old twins and a 3 yr old her husband and kids used Winstons Wish a lot. They have nothing but good words to say about them. Could be worth a look.
Just so very sorry... you have my thoughts.
I'm so cut up reading this. I have no idea how you and your family must be feeling right now. I was lucky enough to become a Dad just 10 days ago and reading this has brought tears to my eyes and I am not an a very emotional person.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Sad sad news all our thoughts are with you.
very sorry to hear this .
for your autistic son , maybe a social story ?
So sad. Don't really have the words.
Be strong
..very sorry to read this,shocking post,thinking of you all at this time...
I'm so so so sorry! I simply can't imagine how you all must feel. Thinking of you.
Beautiful boy X
Very sorry for your loss i think sharing even with strangers can be helpful
What a terrible tragedy. So very very sorry for you and your family, thinking of you all.
So sorry, heart breaking.
Like everyone on here, I have read through this thread and am sat here with tears in my eyes.
An unbelievably horrible thing to happen and I cannot even start to imagine how you feel.
Just concentrate on you and your family and do what you feel is right.
Good luck and I hope it gets easier with time.
OP, how are you doing?
This has occupied my whole day since I first read the thread; if I could somehow do anything to help, I would, and I know this bunch of normally argumentative STW members would also.
Keep in touch please, this weird place is packed full of love, and personally I would ride 500 miles to give you one minute of support, or any time you need to someone to listen, we are all here x
As a dad that's my worst nightmare. I can't imagine what you must be going through right now, my heart goes out to you and your family.
So sad, so sorry. Can't imagine how you're feeling but my thoughts are with you & family. Take care
Can't imagine what you're going through. Every parents worst nightmare.
Keep us all posted. A little release even to total strangers may be of some help.
Mine and Mrs Kristoffs thoughts are with you.
Really, really terrible news.
Nothing any of can say can help just now, however just know there are lots of us thinking of you tonight.
Look after yourself and the rest of your family.
RIP little fellah.
My heart goes out to you.. Mrs cloudnine is due our 3rd little one in a few weeks and I can't even start to think how I would deal with it.. I guess just be there for each other and try and share your thoughts, feelings with loved ones or even the forum here... even though we don't know you I'm sure anyone who has posted in this thread would do anything they could to help, share or just listen. I hope you can find a way to deal with your loss and maybe find some solace on your bike or just by posting here. My thoughts are with you and your family this evening.
Sorry to hear of your tragic loss, thank you for reminding everyone of what is truly important in this world
After reading this thread I'm sure that each and everyone of us will hold those that we love just that little bit closer tomorrow.
Keep posting, keep talking, share your memories with each other and cry when you need to.
My thoughts and wishes are with you.
X
Deepest condolences to you and your family. My only advice is, hold your wife tight, your children tighter and be honest with them all. And stay off the bike for a bit, riding off road with this on your mind could end up with broken bones.
I have read this a few times now and was unsure what to say so havnt.
As a father I simply cannot imagine what you and your family are going through.
As said by many others my and my family's deepest sympathies are with you and your family at this time.
Ash
There's absolutely nothing I could say that would even remotely cover it.
Beautiful pictures of the family. Hold on to those memories...
There's absolutely nothing I could say that would even remotely cover it.
Sat looking at this little text box for a while and I couldn't come up with anything meaningful. Hope you find the strength you need.
Rest in peace little one.
Does anyone have any suggestion on how to tell the other two kids my eldest is autistic
My brother helped produce a book called 'Rory's Star'. Its a story book for young children who have lost a sibling, but its as much for parents as children. Its only a few weeks off the presses but I've got several spare copies to hand for you or anyone else that could use one.
You can drop me a line on
s****3LA.co.uk
Nothing more to add, everything I would of said, has already been said. My thoughts are with you, take care.
Hello again you fantastic bunch of people.
I managed to get a good couple of hr sleep (pain goes) but wake up straight back to what seems like square one.
George Robert Brudenell was born on the 17th of Dec at 4:10 in the morning weighing 6.2,
We asked our other two eldest children alfie, Mae to pick the middle names as we wanted them to not feel left out. Robert believe it or not is short for (spongbob square pants) as you know could not have a middle name like that so that was the comprise.
I think when the time comes and we need to say good by im going to say his real name for alfie and Mae.
We git a long wait before we can organize anything as George passing was sudden police need to investigae.
But when I was 3 my mum passed away so if you believe in heaven (not sure we do) but I know George is not alone but im trying to get him placed with her as I cant bear to think of our little man alone he never liked to beput down he alway liked a cuddle.
Its so hard at the moment we are currently sleeping in our living room useing our alother children beds to make a big one. As I cannont go into my room its just to painful.
Yet again sorry to bring alot of personal info but it helps better than talking to family.. I may even try my lbs today for a hug...
I was just about to head up to bed when I read this post. I cannot tell you how sorry I feel for your loss. Thank you for posting the pictures. George looks adorable, and is obviously so well loved.
Just lighting a candle for the little man now.
God bless you George. Rest in peace.
I can't read this thread, I can't bring myself to do it.
Once again, there are no words, but I'm so sorry for you all.
Hi Bruders,
After reading all the replies, I have to share my thoughts and say that the little time you all had as a family with George was so precious. Time is so incredibly important when you are around the people that make you. George's time around all of you.
I am attending a funeral this Monday for my 18 year old cousin. He had a lot more life to live, but has also passed on to higher being. In retrospect, I realise that his 18 years of time, good and bad, was spent with a loving family. Time that made him. I will say goodbye to him on Monday in my own personal way.
Nothing can prepare you for what has happened, but I wish you all the time needed to grieve and say goodbye to George.
Tariq.
I wish humanity was like this more often....you guys/girls are a good bunch
OP - You and yours have been on my mind all day. You sound like a fantastic dad and George was lucky to have had you even for such a short time. And you lost your mom when you were young; how sad. Thank you for posting the photos and giving us names to go with them. I think that placing George with your mom is a great idea. IMO, you are handling things much better than I ever could. Please continue to post if it helps you at all.
Oh, and I did LOL at the Spongebob bit. Thanks for that!
I just don't know what to say. When I was diagnosed with incurable cancer in 2009, the love from people on here was as important as any treatment I went through at the time. An as a father of 13 months, I don't think I could be anywhere near as brave as you are being. It sounds hollow, but let someone on here (inc. me) know if there's anything we could do to make things easier, because they really REALLY will help out. Trust me, I know.
I'm in Kent; work in Maidstone, live in Tonbridge. You let me know via the email in my profile should you want to go for a coffee. We don't even have to chat, we can just sit there and watch the world go by.
And to the rest of you; you are good, good people. You define 'community'. Keep helping people, it's what you're good at...
BH
Thank you BH I may take you up on that.
I definitely find it easier to talk to strangers than friends and family.
Brudders - ditto Bullheart I'm local to you in Folkestone - anything just ask.
There is a good counselling centre in Ashford too when you say talking to strangers.
Mail me if you need x
Mate, all thinking of you here, you are doing so well in unimaginable circumstances. Pictures are beautiful and we can see how adored George was, and I too would want loved ones to rest together. LBS sounds a great idea.