[Closed] Lost my son today

as other have said, although I don't know you I feel devastated for you

a tragic loss, stay strong and support each other

Don't know what to say that I think could help here but pass my sympathies to you and your family and friends. This must be incredibly painful for everyone.
No kids of my own but would be in bits if I lost any of my godsons or nephews.
From that perspective I suspect friends and family will want to be there for you, to help you through the pain.
And as others have said, sharing the grief and accepting the help available rather than trying to carry it all yourself would seem to be a healthy way forward. Full credit for having the courage to post on here.
Best wishes

So so sorry to hear this,thoughts going out to to you. Have two kids myself, hug your family tightly.

Not a lot I can add, as a father of two I can only begin to imagine the pain. Very sorry to hear the news.

He's beautiful bruders. 🙁

So sorry Bruders, I feel utterly useless because all I can offer is words. If posting on here can help in anyway then i hope it can help. no one should have to experience what you are going through - supporting (and being supported by) your family is about as much as you can do.

I'm so very sorry.

Sad news, I really don't know what to say

take care....

Feeling for you and your family. Really sad news mate. Any parents worst fear.

Give your family a hug, be strong for them but don't bottle up the grief, let it out mate.

Take care and don't blame anyone for this tragedy as sad as it is.

I can't imagine what you and your family are going through at the moment but take strength from each other. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

So sad to rad your post mate. I'm sure you did everything. You can't blame yourself

Thoughts are with you.

Beautiful pictures bruders. Whatever happens after now your baby boy has been wanted, born and loved. No matter how short his life has been, he has lived and been loved beyond measure I am sure. In your heart he will always have life and because he has existed he has changed the world for the better by being there for you all to love.

J

Thoughts are with you and your family fella....strength, courage and peace vibes.

Really feel for you. Just unimaginable.

Do whatever you need to do to get yourself into some sort of shape, then try your best for everyone else.

There really is very little concrete advice anyone could give other than hang in there and use whatever crumbs of good you can find in anything to ease you through each day.

Thinking of you and your family.

****, that's harsh. Sympathy for your loss x

I couldnt bear to read past the first few posts, just too close to home...

My deepest sympathies for you and your family.

So sorry for you and your family, stay strong

Got as far as page two before I went and hugged my two boys with a tear in my eye. Words can't describe my sadness for you and I can't think of any words that might help that haven't been said already.

James.

Today was strange I eneded up waking hoping this was all a bad dream. Unfortunately this is not the case.

I had a good cry after reading your beautiful replys it honestly helps really strange feeling as I dont know any of you (maybe thats why)

Im never ever going to forget George and each and everyone of your kind words I know im repeating myself but it really does help..

Thank you so so much

Im sure I will see you on a trail oneday

Ride safe. Xxxx

we are here mate. This is the best part of the forum.

Condolences, I don't think I've sat in front of a screen crying since my Gran died while I was away in the Alps. The twins are beautiful. As a fairly recent father to a 6 month old, I cannot even begin to understand. All I know is that sometimes religion offers relief, an understanding that there is something for our loved ones who have passed.

I had many dreams like that after a good friend died when we were at school, i would wake up thinking I'd just been for a ride, or to some gig or other, only for it to hit home, I'd feel utterly desolate then. It eases let the memories be the good ones.

bruders - your kids are amazing. i went on my ride today and spent most of it thinking about your posts and liitle hood who is 5 months old (although he look 5 years old as he is MASSIVE!)
again, thoughts are with you and please please please dont bottle it up, sounds hard but its good to talk.
chin up

Bruders, I'm just posting to show you and your family that there is another young family standing here alongside you in your pain and grief. Words don't suffice, but I pray you get a sense of peace that goes beyond our physical/mental understanding to help you all through this. As others have said time will heal your heart but it takes time.......

Big love to you and your family

Thanks for posting the pictures.

There is nothing I can add and I cannot even begin to express how sorry I am for you. My email is in my profile if you want to talk to a complete stranger about anything - Serious or bike talk. If you're anywhere near Staffordshire area and fancy a drink / Chat / Ride with a complete stranger you know where my email is. Keep close to your family they need you too.

bruders338 - Member

Today was strange I eneded up waking hoping this was all a bad dream. Unfortunately this is not the case.

I had a good cry after reading your beautiful replys it honestly helps really strange feeling as I dont know any of you (maybe thats why)

Im never ever going to forget George and each and everyone of your kind words I know im repeating myself but it really does help..

Thank you so so much

Im sure I will see you on a trail oneday

Ride safe. Xxxx

Please keep posting as I honestly think its sometimes easier to open up to complete strangers like us.
I'm struggling even more to keep the tears back since you posted the pictures

Lovely pictures. So sorry for you all. Life is cruel sometimes. Hope you all find a way through this together.

I cant even begin to think what I should write here, I'll just have to say how sorry I am for your loss.

I've been reading this all day, and still don't know what to say.
As a parent I think I can imagine your pain, but in reality, I doubt I can.
Hugs to you and your lovely family.

When we nearly lost one of our boys this was a song I used to listen too - thinking we were going to have to say goodbye.

It somehow helped me - maybe it will you?

3rd time I've come back to this thread, and like everyone else I'm shedding tears for your loss.
Wasn't going to write anything as I couldnt imagine what words can help you right now. I'd like to echo the sentiment of all the other forum members. look after yourself, by doing so you will be best placed to look after your family.
don't be afraid to ask for any help off the forum, I'm sure there a numerous people local to you that will drop anything to help in whatever way right now.

Muchos love xxx

Can't think of any words. Sending you and all the family love and light.

dont know what to say ..other than you ll feel like your the only ones its ever happended to but sadly your not alone.. been there.

get the gen on what to do.. and do it all i m so glad that as a macho bloke i did all the things i'd have never considered doing because now as i look back i can say that i did everything there was to do.

i carried my son into the church .. read the sermon, read a story to him at the service, caqrried him to the crematoruim placed him on alter.. do everything mate you might not feel like it but i m so glad i did

dont know what to say ..other than you ll feel like your the only ones its ever happended to but sadly your not alone.. been there.

get the gen on what to do.. and do it all i m so glad that as a macho bloke i did all the things i'd have never considered doing because now as i look back i can say that i did everything there was to do.

i carried my son into the church .. read the sermon, read a story to him at the service, caqrried him to the crematoruim placed him on alter.. do everything mate you might not feel like it but i m so glad i did

As far as I can see/read, the strength you're showing is tremendous. You sound like an awesome dad and husband. Stay strong.

Not much more I can find to say sorry.

So very sorry for your loss -
Not much more I can offer other than a couple of ideas of how to help your older kids through this, both these ideas were suggested to us to help my daughter (who was nearly 4) through the sudden loss of a close relative a couple of years back -

A friend lent us a book called 'Badgers parting gifts' by Susan Varley - it is aimed at helping small kids through berevement, and is fantastic, i'd highly recommend it.

The other thing we did was buy a helium balloon, write a message to the person your've lost on a piece of paper and attach it to the balloon, we then took it to the park and let it go, waving it off into the clouds - my wife and I were crying our eyes out, but I think it really helped our daughter..

Good luck and keep talking...

Sorry for your loss ,my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
There's a lot of good folk on here so don't be afraid to talk

Another dad here,I'm in pieces reading this. I don't have any wise words as nothing in my experience can come close to what you must be feeling right now. Just please don't blame yourself.

My ten month old boy is getting the hug of his life when he wakes up.

So sorry. x

Anothery teary father here reading the OP's comments and those of others who've suffered something similar or not. Lovely pics, stay strong and my thoughts are with you and yours. Gone but never forgotten.

Sorry for you all. Thoughts with you x

God life is tough sometimes, if his forum is helping then please keep posting, as you can see people care and are thinking of you. You're a brave man, I wish you and your family all the best.

As others have said, word cannot really suffice.

But my thoughts and condolences are with all those involved

I am so sorry.

I will be thinking of you and your family x

Very sorry for your loss - after reading this I just went to check on my sleeping 15th month son to make sure he was ok.

All my family send their condolences

Being strong.