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Suck. They really ****ing suck. I've been wandering arond in a little loved up bubble for the hour or so since the other half went back to Uni. But now I'm just depressed. I've had a lovely weekend I really have but from lunchtime there this unsaid tension between us when I know shes going to say she's got to get going...and I get all moody. We're strong I know, but still.
Sorry, v dull and whiny. I just had to say something.
MTFU.
I don't get it, if there's trust it's not a problem. IF there's not there'll be moods and problems.
It doesn't sound like its about trust, rather then just not being able to see each other as much as they'd like.
Stick with it mate, my wife and I did the long distance thing for a year a few (a lot) of years ago, it is difficult but stick with it, we did and it was worth it.
i will give it a month tops!
coffee - I think it's more a case of LTFU 😉
😳 oh shit I just reread that. Erm ok don't write when you're not concentrating.
F*** it. I don't care I need to be more honest about it anyway. I just miss her
mtfu ive been doing it for 5 ys!
absence makes the heart grow stronger n all that!
it will work out!
I feel the music from 'Love Story' should accompany this thread...
What is mtfu anyway?
I've got a few mates who are going long distance as they go to uni. Seem to be working out ok so far, lots of talking on msn/fb/skype etc helps, just staying in contact, and seeing each other whenever you can. Only got another 5 weeks till holidays..
MTFU is a variation on rule 5, from http://www.velominati.com/blog/the-rules/
The whole gender thing is irrelevent really, if it's someone you genuinely care about that same feelings will happen regardless.
If you feel that way about her then stick with it, it will be worth it in the long run 🙂
mtfu = man the f*** up.
with anything internet that you don't understand, [url= http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=MTFU ]urban dictionary[/url] is the answer.
And good luck.
Within 2 months of me meeting the now MrsSwadey, I moved 180 miles way for work - 18 months of long distance relationship.
Then she went one better and went 4,500 miles away to the edge of Siberia, and we didn't see each other for a year.
15 years after we first met, still together, now married, two kids, mortgage, getting older........sorry, what was my point again? 😛
send that to her not us I think she may care more than we do and she is more likely to give you a "special grown ups cuddle" - or at least a BJ- next times she see you.
For what ts worth this feeling will dull over time and before you know it you willlive in the same house, see less of each other and dread the moments you are to together ...then you have kids 😯
HTH.
You see I went to uni, and so I have to keep very quiet on this thread.
Very quiet 😈
To be serious about this for a moment though. My now wife and I lived 250 miles apart for 8 months before we finally moved closer together. Friday afternoon in the office I'd be on cloud nine at the prospect of getting onto the M6 (not normally something to look forward to) but then Sunday at 7pm would be horrendous.
It's a very good test of just how serious you are about the relationship.
or at least a BJ- next times she see you.
snortle snffff.
I've been a recividist Long distancer, German, Tasmanian and New Zealanders. Stick it out, Mrstubing was my last one and we are happily married with 2 slimtublings.
Swady thanks *kisses* that's made me feel loads better
Junkyard!! 😳
Hopefully my friends long distance relationship will fail, fingers crossed. I hope yours works out for the best.
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I've been a recividist Long distancer, German, Tasmanian and New Zealanders. Stick it out, Mrstubing was my last one and we are happily married with 2 slimtublings.Hahaha Slimtubing hits the nail on the head the key to long distance relationships is Mrstubing regularly!
Im wondering whether any of the lads in here have a view on what "emsz" might be short for? 😉
Oh good, I read it like that too NickyB, glad I'm not the only one.
what the rude bit or expressing your emotions to her 😉
you sound like a 13 year old FFS !
Don't get moody dude. It's tough enough already and it's not her fault.
I met my wife in Turkey 12 yrs ago. Now we have 2 kids and live in Stockholm.
Its not really long distance - At least you guys are in the same country!
is she a first year?
I met my Swedish wife in Turkey 12 hrs ago. Now we have 2 kids and live in Stockholm.
Wow, you don't mess around.
Del Erm yeah why?
Don't worry.
My last two relationships were long distance and they didn't last.
Stoner - <nods understandingly>
is she a first year?
Ever heard the expression '**** a friendly fresher week?'
hmm. wasn't going to put it like that. thing is though, that she'll be doing lots of exciting new things, meeting new people, and finding out about herself in a new environment, and, unless you're at college too, you, err, won't. it's going to be very hard to stay in sync with each other, if you see what i mean, and will take a lot of effort on both sides.
good luck though eh?
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Mrs MFL lived abroad for a year during university. We survived that, and have survived worse since. OK, she was only in Germany, but getting there was still a touch more complicated than getting on the west or east coast mainline.
met my Finnish gf whilst working in Netherlands. We moved back to our own countries and we fly to each others whenever we can. Not ideal, but i wouldn't want to lose her.
*ooh, what's that shiny thing spinning through the water... I want to eat it Chomp*
If she's Swedish then your relationship stands almost no chance of surviving the first year.
my OH went off to uni about 3 weeks after we got together... 4 1/2 years later and we're still very happy 🙂
it [b]can[/b] be done if both of you feel its a lasting relationship with a future. if its not serious then chances are uni will expose that... either way distance will expose any weaknesses in the relationship and any aspects of your relationship that are worried about will be mulled over/obsessed over for longer before there's a chance to talk properly about things.... that makes it much harder to deal with those weaknesses/concerns...
but if its right, then you'll both work it out 🙂
good luck x
Similar to Phil ^^^ - met my GF when she was 18 (I was 27). The next year she went to Uni some 200 miles from where I lived.
Had a couple of ups and downs along the way, but we stayed together, we are married and have two little girls now and have been together for 16 years.
Shirley a long distance relationship has to include at least one flight or ferry crossing? Anything else can't count IMHO.
m_f where did your Mrs go to Uni? There was a girl in my halls of residence that had a boyfriend back home... we called her something that was the equivalent of fannylion...
m_f where did your Mrs go to Uni? There was a girl in my halls of residence that had a boyfriend back home... we called her something that was the equivalent of fannylion...
😆
She went to Cheltenham BTW - 1995-98 I think.
But I don't *think* I was known as a Fanny Lion back then.
Oh, I went to Sheffield, she wasn't the big pussy that I knew...
emsz - just go and see her. It'll make a nice surprise.
And you'll get to party like a student for a night, before getting on the first train back to work and arriving at your desk all loved up and shattered from lack of sleep.
TBH I know I couldn't do a long distance relationship. I like to look after my gf's too much, you know, like sit outside their windows, make sure they're ok and stuff.
emsz - just go and see her. It'll make a nice surprise.
Somebody might just get a surprise they weren't expecting...
8)
thats what those chips they developed for dementia sufferers who are prone to wandering are for TSY!
you can either insert one under their skin whilst they sleep off the rohypnol, or you can slip a chip into their food, but that gets expensive as you have to replace every couple of days after its worked its way through their system.
unless you're a [s]s[/s]cat lover and are happy to retrieve it 😉
LOL: It makes me laugh how many blokes think this is a blokes-only forum!
After graduating me and my then GF (now wife) lived about 3 hours travel apart and I recognise the Sunday-afternoon stress thing. I still remember it nearly 20 years later! From my point of view (i.e. a chap) it came from the 'about to depart for the week' thing and another 2 issues:
1) I was independant and living with people who were able to be entirely spontaneous at the weekend, whereas I always had my GF coming to stay who just wanted me for herself. At first I didn't mind, but it can be difficult being with a cliquey group all week when they're laughing and joking about things that happened when you weren't there.
2) By Sunday afternoon I had spent 35 hours solid with her. Even these days I probably only get that in a week! (excluding sleeping). The difference in the cycle of all-week-without-her, all-weekend-with-her was almost too much!
I suggest you keep the above in mind - the reason for Sunday afternoon stress may be more than just about the parting of the ways for the week.
Ourmaninthenorth getting the train in half an hour 8)
LOL: It makes me laugh how many blokes think this is a blokes-only forum!
Who's that aimed at?
Phil - Yeah the last one really wasn't into the dry composting loo I made her use in back garden.
emsz is female is my guess -
Have a nice night hope you both enjoy it
[i]emsz is female is my guess[/i]
[lestrade] Thank God you're 'ere Mr Holmes, we haven't got a clue [/lestrade]
The other thing emsz, is that by going to visit, you might make some ahem, new friends too...
WHAT! A female... on here!! You're obviously a troll. I might even report you!
Next you'll be telling me that Cinnamon_Girl isn't a 6'4" tattooed behemoth capable of eating two Tons for breakfast!
Explains why my refrenece was inappropriate sorry.
On a brief serious note if it is meant to be it will be you can meet the one when you are 16 or 61 and if it is meant to be it will survive the distance.
Hope it works out In my day you had to write letters to each other as no one had phones the internet was but a dream imagine that eh
I have seen ton no one could eat two of him for breakfast
Time was you could come on here and scratch yer bollox and belch loudly (so to speak) now look at it...There'll be toilet roll in the loo instead of newspaper and doilies, you mark my words.
Get a webcam.
[i]there this unsaid tension between us when I know shes going to say she's got to get going...and I get all moody.[/i]
My dog is like this, when I put on my SPD's and he realises he's not coming!
After graduating me and my then GF (now wife) lived about 3 hours travel apart and I recognise the Sunday-afternoon stress thing.
Agreed. Used to be with a girl who lived in Leeds, I lived in London, and drove up there every other weekend. Sunday afternoon before getting in the car to go back was a bit odd.
TBH I know I couldn't do a long distance relationship. I like to look after my gf's too much, you know, like sit outside their windows, make sure they're ok and stuff.
It's just weird how they don't appreciate how much you care, eh TSY?
Next you'll be telling me that Cinnamon_Girl isn't a 6'4" tattooed behemoth capable of eating two Tons for breakfast!
😥
Stop picking on me. 🙁
🙁 Sorry C_G, didn't mean it.
Please adopt me and give me the moral guidance I so desperately need... I'm house trained and everything!
I met my gf 6 weeks before she started uni, it was a bit crap but we got through the three years, it was a 6 hours drive each way and used to visit every 6-8 weeks. 10 years ago that was 🙂
Seems a bit strange but in the few hours before she left after each visit home, I used to be waiting for her to go just to get it over with, whereas she would be trying to delay it as long as possible.
Please adopt me and give me the moral guidance I so desperately need... I'm house trained and everything!
Shall I take you under my wing? 😉 You're safe with Auntie C_G ... or at least until sexy daughter appears. 😯
Fanks Auntie. I think that puts any plans of amorous advances on your daughter out of the question.
😆 @ Yeti.
Actually, she's moved out!
Normal service is resumed at C_G Towers. 8)
Best get those spare frames back on the sofa then A.C_G!
I might just have to bring my 'new' baby into the house, admire her curves and dream of when I may ride her again.
Some people are meant to be alone. 🙄
😯 That's what my ex said when she heard me talking to my bike in a similar way to that^^^
Ah, but did you refer to the bike as 'he' or 'she'?
Sorry, I always find this subject fascinating. 😳
And was the ex jealous?
[i]She[/i] was particularly muddy, I was muttering something about her being a filthy b1tch and that I couldn't wait to ride her again. 😯
And yes the ex was jealous.
So ... why is your bike not male? We've now established that you do not actually ride a Yeti!
See, that's where you guys get it wrong. 🙄
Ahh so for future reference I need to call my bike a him and then it won't be an issue that I like to spend all my weekend getting dirty with the lads in the woods?
TBH I think I always refer to my bikes as 'it'... the dh bike, the trail bike etc.
But I have said I love them far more than I could a girlfriend 😳
You live and you learn!
It may well help! Possibly!
But surely they must all have a name? My latest was christened ... or was it me that was christened? 🙄
Well, you do at least recognise where you are going wrong so get back on those dating websites, eyes wide open, and keep quiet about your dirty hobby 😉
haha, thanks Auntie!
My long distance gf turned up on my doorstep unnanounced in France once(she flew from the US, Vail specifically). Would have been good had a partially clothed Danish temptress not answered the door because I was in the shower. She slunk off and I only heard from her 4 months later when she deliberately crashed into me when i was taking a ski school class !!! (she was an instructor too and had come back purely to find me).
I'm not proud of that..... I got paid for that class HAHAHAhahahaha anyhoo.Chances are in a LDR you'll be getting a leg over or vice versa after a wee while. BEst of luck.
Eldest son was doing the long distance relationship with gf away at uni - went up as a suprise on valantines weekend & got dumped 😥 - luckily middle son was at same uni as gf and was able to pick up the pieces - I haven't dared ask what they got up to for the rest of the weekend 😯
I am officially the greatest g/ f in the world EVER.
Knackered now though. Need bed and shower cos I smell of something and it ain't roses. Im in such a good mood I'm not even going to comment on the mysoginistic drivel that is that Sue Perkins thread.
Knackered now though. Need bed and shower cos I smell of something and it ain't roses
ffnurffelsnork.
Manfat?