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What are the signs of maturity? I tick most boxes in my working life, infact colleagues may well describe me as too serious, but friends and family suggest I need to grow up (mainly referring to my sense of humour, and perhaps inability to reign it in at inappropriate moments - although I put this down to a nervous affliction).
So heads down, what should I do to appear (even actually be) a more mature person? I'm not going to start drinking pints of Mild though.
Growing old is inevitable. Growing up is optional.
Don't, well not too much anyway!
Hats.
Get a nice Panama hat.
You can then carry on as usual but because of your grown-up headwear people will assume that you’re not the type of person who is about to tell a nob joke
They don't want you to be more "mature" they're just pissed off that you don't care about their pointless "rules"
Live your life however you want as long as it doesn't interfere with others.
Brown or beige is your primary colour of clothing. Big white pants from m&s. You have a supply at hand of Werthers originals. Car porn for you is a Citroën Picasso or a Kia. Inbetweeners was never funny just rude. You prefer the cello to the electric guitar and you buy uht milk
So heads down, what should I do to appear (even actually be) a more mature person?
Absolutely nothing or get new friends and family.
Driving gloves 'for the win/so you can live your best life.'
Get a nice Panama hat.
You can then carry on as usual but because of your grown-up headwear people will assume that you’re not the type of person who is about to tell a nob joke
This very much depends on whereabouts on your body you’re wearing the hat.
Buggered if I know.
I’ve managed to get to 65 without developing any significant signs of maturity, so I see no point in starting now, it would be a waste of what little time I might have left with no benefit to me, or anyone else who might give a shit.
How you dress will help build an image of maturity - tweed 3 pce suits and brogues are your friend; hat from Christy (unless you can spunk for the full bespoke from John Locke)....derby, fedora or trilby - none of those baker's boy or peaky blinders caps.
Subscribe to The Chap magazine for added authenticity.
HTH
Car porn for you is a Citroën Picasso or a Kia.
This sounds like the type of porn that would be played on a loop in the escalator to hell… 😈
Don't see why you should change - sounds like their problem, not yours.
The thing is, I do actually want to be more mature in terms of finding a middle-ground - my problem is I'm either very serious/too mature or childish/juvenile jokes/desire to elicit laughter.
I'm thinking wearing a suit on a sunday is a good place to start...or even buying a suit in the first place.
I've made it to 60 and I still really like riding my bike and getting covered in mud. But I would rather like a fedora.
start reading the Daily Mail and complaining about brexit and immigrants. church on a sunday will probably help too, you can pray to baby jesus for help.
IMO becoming a parent did mark a change.
I’d blow them a raspberry, honestly tell them to jog on.
We all have to take on more responsibility as we get older, but we don’t have to act a certain way because that’s what you’re supposed to do.
Not to mention when a lot of people think about ‘mature men’ they think of so brow beaten old fart who only exists to serve others. Sod that.
It's a tough balancing act, on the one hand if you come across as too serious people don't want to know you, but if you are frivolous you untick a lot of boxes in the dating stakes.
I think @scotroutes makes an interesting point, I've known friends who've very suddenly grown up on having kids (whereas perhaps too many people do not).
In other words, don’t be this sad ****er (character, not actor)
Have an affair with a 19yr old female..
That ought to help.
How you dress will help build an image of maturity
NB "image of".
@slowoldman^^^ I chose my words carefully.......
What happens when cheese matures? Try to be cheese.
At work I am Master of life and death (which is fairly serious) so I have to act "grown up".
Outside of work, over my rotting corpse (I'm 50 going on 17).
Get a hat, it shows that you don't give a stuff about how you're perceived. Baker boy caps seem to be on the catwalk for Autumn, you could end up looking like the Hovis boy but who cares. Stand tall and wear with aplomb.
IMO becoming a parent did mark a change.
Absolutely, it gave me an excuse to act like a kid.
Pull my finger and I'll tell you 👈
I’m thinking wearing a suit
Many in the House of Commons wear a suit - doesn't mean they behave in a mature manner though.
@CG - wearing a hat with a plum? Don't see how that demonstrates maturity but - each to their own.....
@CG – wearing a hat with a plum? Don’t see how that demonstrates maturity but – each to their own…..
Specsavers frank, don't worry it happens to us all!
CG - thanks!
@onewheelgood - don't restrict yourself to a Fedora; there's a whole world of hats out there....... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_hat_styles
I have a couple of Fedoras; maybe a Homburg next.
Get pissed on cider and tell them it's not fair and you hate them and you didn't ask to be born.
Just be yourself, some people will like you, some wont.
Such is life.
Big white pants from m&s.
I mean, I don't understand white pants at the best of times but surely as you get older the use of white pants must become more problematic???
The best time to mature is when they put your in your box.
But you'll find that after a few days they don't like you maturing after all...
<blockquote Singlespeedstu
They don’t want you to be more “mature” they’re just pissed off that you don’t care about their pointless “rules”
Live your life however you want as long as it doesn’t interfere with others.
This. I'm 50, but really don't 'conform'. My younger friends think it's great, the ones around my age wish I would 'act' like they do, to make them more comfortable in how they have aged. It's wanting your peers to be like you for reassurance but I don't need that.
Chinos and a polo shirt.
I have recently transitioned over to Chinos! But not the polo shirt as yet.
I don't currently own a pair of jeans though!
The single most liberating thing about middle age is the realisation that it really doesn’t matter what other people think about you.
With that nugget of wisdom, a hat, sandals with socks, comfortable clothes, useful cars... Life choices becomes much simpler. See Boris.
At 50yo I've started to back away from beers in the pub with the normal crowd as conversation invariably turns to pensions, cricket and Brexit when all I want to talk about is music and bikes. I might be the boring one but OP carry on, nothing to change here.
At 50yo I’ve started to back away from beers in the pub with the normal crowd as conversation invariably turns to pensions, cricket and Brexit when all I want to talk about is music and bikes. I might be the boring one but OP carry on, nothing to change here.
Fortunately I’ve never really done that, although there was a time when a bunch of us would get together at a local pub, often nine or ten of us, and the conversation would mostly centre around music, but there would be many other diverse subjects.
Most have moved away, separated or just lost interest. I still go to the pub on Friday and Saturday evenings with my best mate, and our conversation covers a wide and varied range, like books, music, militaria - he’s very into model building, especially tanks, and modding them; as a goldsmith he’s got particular skillz for that!
Football and Brexit/politics seldom get a look-in, although we have a mutual loathing of dTrumph/Bozo.
How to be a mature person?
Be yourself.
You are who you are.
OP Just hang on for long enough and maturity will be thrust upon you.
PS. This may or may not be an enjoyable sensation.
PPS. By the sound of things you might have reached this stage already.
Pretend you don't find farts funny.
