I can't add anything to what's already been said - but if nothing else, I hope you can take some comfort from the fact that a large number of mountain bikers who normally argue about [i]everything[/i] are united in keeping you in their thoughts.
Best wishes to you & your family.
Nothing other than my best wishes to add . A friends husband was in hospital just before xmas in a comma the Dr told her his odds were 1000/1 in the wrong direction. He is now sitting up and on a very unsteady road to recovery . The Dr has now mentioned that at the time he thought he was over optimistic with his odds.
Fingers crossed for you, fella. As wwaswas said "…when it's someone on stw it somehow becomes personal"
Massive good vibes heading your way from us lot...
Not sure what to say except fight on bud. Hope you pull through this and come out the other side ok. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Keep fighting dude
all the best matey, keep positive and dont give up
Keep positive. There have been massive advances in cancer therapy in recent years. The NHS can 'do' cancer very well. My Dad 80 yrs old survived it with Chemo...
All the best bud
Good luck and stay positive, kick cancers arse then take it outside and kick it again
Been clear for 7years havin kicked skin cancers arse 😈
Keep positive. Keep fighting. Kind of obvious things to say I guess but they are still true.
You've got zillions of folk on here with you all the way.
Best wishes. There's not much more I can say except I hope you beat it.
The very best of thoughts, vibes, good wishes be with you.
Sh!t, ****, D@MN it I hate Cancer... Give it one from me!!!
What wwaswas said, which also captures my view nicely - all the best mate.
Mate of mine, 55, looks way older, didn't take care of himself, smoked and drunk like a fish and diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer last year.
He got the all clear last month..
If he can beat it then the odds are in your favour. Good luck fella, kick its arse....
🙂
Fingers crossed for you OP, keep fighting the bastard.
All the best to you and your family.
Very sorry to read your news, keep strong and good luck
Trevor
Can only echo the above. Stay strong and fight that bugger.
Hi! and erm... WOW!
Thank-you just does not begin to cover it (and being stuck for words, with tears in ones eyes does not help!)
A-Ha! Just plucked out a word - humbled, truly humbled just about begins to cover it.
As many have said, STW comes into it's own at times like this, your comments, words of support (on here and via text and e-mail!), stories of beating cancer really, really help. A confession - despite (i'm told) outward appearances, i'm not a natural when it comes to positivity, something I had just started working on (counselling) before this all hit. So, saying your words help takes on a stronger meaning for me... Counselling is still in progress thought the remit is a touch broader than it was! Talking about your own mortality, anyone? Not too sure Freud flagged that one in his musings!
I'll be sure to check the links and book suggestions and there are many comments I would like to pick up on but, forgive me, got to stop for now - it's teatime and my shoulder is killing me - to add insult to injury, i've a slipped disk in my neck. Whilst the discomfort caused by Tommy the Primary Tumour* and his friends is mostly controlled by the 20+ tablets I take each day there seems to be little they can do for the disk pain so it alone spends a lot of time getting, literally, on my nerves...
*said i'd stop but I feel there may be the odd sideways look at my naming my tumour!
he got his name early in this whole saga, came out of the blue. It's not there to avoid the word 'cancer' far from it - it's based on the mafia saying 'keep your friends close, your enemies even closer'. Tommy is really my personal reference, one thing I can assure you I do not avoid is the word 'cancer' - not at all.
More updates, and random musings, will follow.
Yours, truly humbled.
Mr (&Mrs) MM.
[url= http://chemopages.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1 ]My uncle wrote this through his chemo[/url] good luck and beat it and remain positive
It's odd, people who I've never met receive this diagnosis every day and I know nothing about it and whilst I feel sorry for them in general terms it's not really an emotional response.But when it's someone on stw it somehow becomes personal - I feel for them and and what they're facing and how their family must be feeling.
Maybe because it feels like it's someone from my community, regardless of whether I know them or not, we all share something on here and that makes everyone my friend when the chips are down.
Anyway, I can't really offer anything but thoughts for you and your family and the hope that you make a full recovery.
i think the above echoes my exact sentiments...
stay strong and get well soon!!
Hi,
Just a little update...
Firstly, thanks again for further messages and e-mails, they really do mean a lot.
So, the last of the 4 batches of chemo finished this last Friday.
I'm a lucky guy - side effects, compared to many, are few, very happy to say I'm not suffering the sickness. The main things impacting me are appetite - food stuffs taste random / awful - the more bland the better at the moment. That said, fortunately, latte's and bacon butties taste fine 🙂 Tiredness is the other - anything up to 16 hrs a day asleep is very strange indeed, well, it is for me.
Best news out of the hospital visits is the Long Wait we had we had been preparing for will not be that long at all - I'm in for a CT scan this Thursday. Back to see the specialists on Feb 11th. From that we should understand what impact this chemo has had and what the options are going forward. Fingers crossed etc. etc.
Chris
Glad you are coping, lets hope that this is a good omen for your future treatments, all the best and i hope the bacon butties remain on the menu! ;-). cheers marcus.
well done fellah, on the plus side the ridings f-king awful at the moment, Im so over rain and mud - so 16hrs sleep a day sounds like a better plan
Good luck matey. I look forward to hearing about you ripping up the trails again as soon as possible! Let us know how it goes and I'll have a glass to raise to you!
Excellent, please keep us updated by this thread.
Your attitude looks to be spot on, your family must be proud. 🙂
Thinking of you and yours ,wishing you every success in beating this
All the best for your treatment MM, really hope you do pull through it.
Chris - so glad you are eating something. More importantly you've got a scan booked in early.
We have fingers, toes and everything else crossed for your full recovery.
Looking forward to seeing you again.
Big hugs bunnyhop and nbt XX
Best of luck with the treatment. Stay strong!
Not sure I can add anything to the above, apart from my best wishes.
Don't think we've met, so I hope to see you on the trails some time. I'm not the most organised, so this probably won't be for 10-15 years or so.
See you then.
Iain
Any more news Chris on your latest hospital visits?
Gods, what a bummer! You're so young too. I send you my very best wishes. As said above, cancer is no longer the death sentence it once was. I send best wishes to your family too, in my (very limited) experience I think it's often worse for the family/partner as they have to watch a loved one suffer. I look forward to reading that the tumour(s) have gone and you are back on your bike. x
How I've missed this thread I don't know. Seriously, good luck with kicking its arse, from all at house vader.
Good luck with the results Chris.
Speak to the hospital nutritionist if you're worried about the food intake.
I'm impressed that you've managed to name yours in such a civil way. I tend to refer to mine as this ####er, c### or perhaps ######d. Never suffered from Tourettes until 'kin cancer strikes!
All of the best mate, we're with you.
ust a couple of positive anecdotes. I've a mate who's just undergone full on big style chemo sessions for hodgkins and he's got the all clear. A colleague has just had similar. Both unbelievably stoic and positive through it all (most of it anyway) despite pretty even prognoses at the outset. It can be beat. Treatment's improving all the time. Best of luck to you and your family 🙂
Am participating in a fund raising event for the Sir Bobby Robson Foundation weekend after next so feel free to spend some of that!
Positive story: My mum had lung cancer 4 years ago. Since treatment she now enjoys good health and is stable and getting on with things. She lives with the on-going situation with no apparent real problems.
Very best wishes to you and yours
B
Any news?
Bunnyhop- I hope the shoulder is much better now?
Best wishes and thoughts to you and your family and friends. It's a sh*t disease, you're young, fit and positive and can beat it. As I type I'm off looking after my wife following major surgery for the first step of her treatment for breast cancer. Stay strong fella!
Thanks Hora.Bunnyhop- I hope the shoulder is much better now?
Best wishes to everyone else in the same boat as Marsdenman, I hope you all remain strong and get your health back asap.
Sorry to hear what you're going through. All the best and hope the treatment is a success for you.
You okay Marsdenman?
Hope you are ok dude 🙂
Hi all. I just met with Chris for a coffee, and he has asked me to post a quick update for him. The treatment has hit him hard and he's very tired all the time, which is why he's not been posting on here. He is bearing up brilliantly considering everything, and we had a lovely long chat about all sorts. He asked me to say thanks for all the kind messages of support he has received from you lot, both on here and privately. I'm sure he'll be along to update you all with more details in person as soon as he gets the time and the energy to do so.
Like. 😀
Thanks mintimperial.
I've been in touch with Chris too and echo the above.
He's had to endure some uncomfortable treatment, which would have had most people on their knees, however with Chris he has a certain personality to laugh it off as though it were nothing 🙂
Glad to hear he's hanging in there and I hope that the treatment he's receiving is working.
Chin up!
🙂
Hi folks,
Hope you're all fine and well?
It's taken me a while to get my head in anyway straight enough to type this but, here goes, an update...
Firstly, thanks again to everyone for words of support etc. especially those who have contacted me directly - sorry I did not reply directly, my mind has mostly been anywhere but foreword...
Logically there is much more to this, but, having played this post over in my mind so many times, I figure simple is best...
Just before Easter we made the decision that there will be no more 'life extending' treatment for my cancer.
Since the original diagnosis we have always been well aware that the treatment available would likely have limited success. The scans etc that came after the 1st batch of chemo confirmed that the drugs were not working. Indeed, the cancer appeared to be spreading. At this point our oncologist advised that, locally, they could think of no further option they could offer but they set about speaking to other specialist centres. Word came back of another option for chemo but, again, it was stressed that positive results were not to be expected, still, you have to give these things a go.
Following the first dose of this second treatment my immunity levels hit rock bottom and I ended up in hospital. Fortunately, what was initially thoughts to be a new, large, aggressive, tumour turned out to be a bad infection, the legacy of which turns out to be a blood clot on my, until now 'good' right lung. Better the clot than the tumour...
So, as the chemo was leaving me feeling rubbish and wide open to further infection etc it was time to revisit a conversation Sharon and I had had before. Quite simply 'quality or quantity'. Quality was kind of a known position - appetite better, not as tired, generally feeling so much better in myself. Quantity - bottom line is, no one knows how long I'm likely stick around, chemo or not.
Decision made, we spoke with our oncologist. He agreed with us.
So, there you have it.
Big decision made but, I've not been this happy for a good while. I get scared I every day. I'm happy every day...
Life is as good as it can get.
The support of a truly amazing wife, family and friends humbles me every day.
As for the NHS, Macmillan, Kirkwood hospice etc etc I do not know where to start....
Chris
Shit. Not much else I can say about that one, pretty much sums it up.
(Edit: best wishes obviously to you and your wife, but that just sounds a bit weak when hearing of your decision.)
Not much to say, but you've made a decision, and who can say that isn't right?
Thinking of you and your family.
Again, I find myself feeling very humbled by your courage. I admire and respect your decision, as your wife and family do too.
Wishing you love and continuing happiness.
None of us can say how we would deal with such a situation til we were faced with it, you've made a decision that's right for you and your family - which is all that truly matters.
Trying to find something inspirational to say that isn't trite, the truth is i can't. Its all been said before & by far more erudite people than myself.
Hope the sun shines on you and your family for as long as it can.
It is a hard, and very brave, decision to take. I wouldn't like to be in your shoes, but having watched my Mum loose the fight with all the medical treatment being thrown at things earlier this year I think it is very probably the right decision taken for entirely the right reasons.
Quality of life is paramount, and with limited chance of any kind of success from a pretty debilitating process you are as well enjoying what time you have left to the absolute best of your abilities... and leave everyone with good memories when the time comes.
So sorry for you that I really don't have the words - but my thoughts are and shall remain with you and your family.
We've had reason to think through a similar choice here too and for what it's worth I think you've probably made a good decision and I wish you the best of health for longest possible time.
Chris, i feel so so sorry for you mate. such a brave choice to have to make.
keep positive mate, and all the luck in the world to you and you family.
Hi, I'm both sorry to hear you have had to make this decision but also very much admire your decision and choosing to be open about it. I hope you are able to make the most of each day with the people you love.
Take care,
J
the bravest of us take hold of our own destiny. I hope this doesn't sound trite and it is meant with great respect. all the best for you and your family from the vaders
All the very best to you. A very hard decision.
Good luck to you.
That's a brave decision you've had to make, MM - I can see why making it has taken a weight off already.
Is there anything "we" (I can only really speak for myself, of course, and I live a while away from you, but still...) might be able to do to help ? Anything you need, or wish you could do but don't have the assistance to make it possible ?
All the best to you and those who love you. Make some (more) great memories !
I don't think I could ever imagine the strength it must've taken to come to that decision. I have the ultimate respect for you and wish you and your's the very best.
There really isn't much that can be said but well done for taking charge of the bits you can. I hope you are able to continue making the most of things as long and longer than you could possibly imagine.
I think you've just slipped into my New Bravest Family slot, Chris, created specially for you.
Thoughts and prayers are with ya big fella- xx
all the best, thoughts with you.
Aye, all the best from us as well. Hope you have many wonderful family experiences from now on.
*hugs*.
We'll see you soon, hopefully.
Anyone else find themselves swallowing saliva and taking a deep breath before they read that last update?
*sigh* Damn. I wish there was more I could do in situations like these. Maybe STWers could organise a yearly ride somewhere central that would raise funds for charity.
All the best Chris. I'm going through a pretty shitty time myself at the moment but you and a person at work make me realise that I haven't got it that bad. Stay strong buddy.
EDIT: I also echo scaredypants post about anything we as a collective can do. In the fire service when one of our guys got hit with the bad news we done a whip round (bit more than a whip round) and got some £4K to pay for him and his wife to have a holiday of a lifetime which they'd always wanted. Felt great to be a part of that.
Just ask!
bradley - Member
Anyone else find themselves swallowing saliva and taking a deep breath before they read that last update?
Yep, and some deep breaths and whatnot afterwards too.
This is the first time I've seen this thread and it hits a chord with me having lost my father some years ago to the big C.
I sincerely hope you manage to keep your standard of life as high as possible for as long as possible (that's what we all want really), if there is anything that can be done to help/take mind off then I'm sure like many others will gladly lend an ear (or eyes to read),
As to a bit of find raising what about a STW pootle where each rider donates a bit. No doubt quote a few would donate a bit of cash in exchange for a ride and possibly some cake 🙂
🙁
Thinking of you and your family mate, and the good rides I've been on with you.
Wishing you all the best Chris. Take care mate.
Chris - you have made the hardest decision of your life. That takes incredible courage.
Everyone who knows you (and some who don't) is thinking of you and as scardypants says above, if there is anything you need or we can do, just ask.
J. xx
Sounds like a sensible decision that was well made.
Had 2 mates go through a similar thing recently. They and their families all felt it was the right decision.
Stuff they found helpful was getting some advance planning done through Macmillan and agreed with GP, Making sure partners e.t.c and you have access to some form of counselling, which they may not want , but having someone they can off load to can help. Going out + doing stuff. Spending time with loved ones. Laughing, lots. Doing some meditation / relaxation. Doing whatever makes you feel good, is good for you.
No-one can predict what will happen or when, so living each day as fully as possible, what ever that means, is the call.
Chris, I don't know you but have followed your thread. Your post is upsetting and inspiring and I wish you and your family as many happy times together as possible.
My wife's uncle went down the treatment route and spent his last months in chemo hell (the treatment got him in the end) so I think you have made the right choice.
good luck mate.
Never met you Chris but I send you all the best wishes. I watched my Dad go through a similar thing and I always said I would make the same decision as you (who knows if I would ever be brave enough to actually do it).
I know you will truly enjoy the time you have with you loved ones and make this time count.
All the best, stay strong.
Matey, your fortitude is inspirational. My thoughts are with you.
That must have been an incredibly tough decision to make.
Hello old friend,
I read your post earlier today, and it has taken me until now to come up with something in response. For those that don't know, Chris was the photographer at my wedding in October 2009; six weeks after I had a tumour cut out of my heart, and four days before we found out that the cancer had metastasised to my bones. Folk might already know that he was the photographer, but what they won't know is that he offered his services free of charge, refusing payment and travelling hundreds of miles to record our special day.
You were remarkable then, and you are remarkable now. Truth be told, your decision reflects everything I've ever felt about you; compassion, kindness and great strength. I feel very proud that you offered a hand of friendship to me, and am sure that I wouldn't be here without you and others like you. So thank you, and if possible I'd like to pop up at some point and buy you the cup of tea I've always promised you...
Best wishes,
Mark
Big decision made but, I've not been this happy for a good while.
You have taken control. I guess for months things have been very much out of your control but now you've regained control, which must be a very positive thing.
None of us know the day or the hour but for you Chris it takes a special kind of courage. Do enjoy the here and now, the moment.
[i]"That nowness becomes so vivid to me now, that in a perverse sort of way, I'm almost serene, I can celebrate life. Below my window, for example, the blossom is out in full. It's a plum tree. It looks like apple blossom, but it's white. And instead of saying, 'Oh, that's nice blossom, looking at it through the window when I'm writing, it is the whitest, frothiest, blossomiest blossom that there ever could be.
Things are both more trivial than they ever were, and the difference between the trivial and the important doesn't seem to matter -- but the nowness of everything is absolutely wondrous.
And if people could see that -- there's no way of telling you, you have to experience it -- the glory of it, if you like, the comfort of it, the reassurance. . . . Not that I'm interested in reassuring people, you know. The fact is that if you see the present tense, boy, do you see it, and boy, can you celebrate it!"[/i]
Dennis Potter
My uncle made the same decision as yourself with his cancer about 3.5 years ago, sadly he passed shortly after the closing ceremony to the Olympics. I had the upmost respect for his decision on the matter as I do you even though I have never met you. Best of luck and enjoy living each day.
Chris, I've never met you, but i didn't feel I could read this thread without posting something. Your decision must have taken some incredible bravery. It certainly puts my day into perspective!
I wish you and your family all the best.
I've been staring at this thread for about 20 minutes now, reading all the comments and thinking about someone I've never met. Tried to find the right words to type but struggling to put into words what I'm sure many of us are thinking. I'll settle for a simple " hang on in there" but I'm sure you'll realise there's a lot behind those four little words.