MegaSack DRAW - This year's winner is user - rgwb
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Feeling a crap at the mo, three years back my misses of 8 years told me she didn't love me as her husband anymore but just as her friend, well things didn't get any better and back in april the devorce was finalised, we didn't have a bitter " my solicitor is better than yours" and we talk now and then but sometimes I really miss the connection we had and the memories of all the good times havn't faded, it's not as bad as when we first split but it still creeps up on me when I'm tired.
Has anyone else got devorced and not hated their ex? Or am I the only one?
Sorry to hear it fella.
I thnk it's perfectly possible for a relationship to end without accrimony. It's probably a bit harder tho, no angry feelings must make the split more difficult to accept.
Sounds obvious I spose but get out on your bike for a bit and immerse yourself in something positive.
I dunno roverman. I don't think you'd be the only one.
But, cheer up! The weather is great the trails are dry, and we have Easter to look forwards to. Do some roving roverman! 😉
No, you won't be the only one, but do try and look to the future and not to the past.
Sorry to hear your feeling down. I'd take the advice above, go enjoy the weather and clear your head.
Sorry to hear it, I'm going through a 'lite' version of this and can sympathise. Surround yourself with friends and family and keep busy, it's when you're sat on the couch or in bed that you have time to think so it's good if you're mind's thinking of other things. Give yourself little things to look forward to so you don't fixate on a big hole of uncertainty and loneliness, things will eventually and some other lady will likely come along.
I still chat with my ex and we meet occasionally. and have done since we separated. Been divorced 10 years. As you move on it will get easier, but you will still always have those tiny, little "but what if" moments popping into your head. Like anything good, you will miss that connection. But time heals. That "ex wife" shaped hole in your life will get filled with other things and other people.
Oh, but DO NOT try to spend time with her and any new guy she's seeing. I tried that with one, never again. And when she comes round to tell you she's getting re-married, that will hurt no matter where your head/life is at.
Thanks for the kind words, I'm sure the cycling will take my mind off things plus it always looks better after a bit of sleep
You hate 'em, then you love 'em, then you hate 'em.. then you.. just get out and ride....... it gets better, slowly.
Sorry to hear that mate. I got the same treatment in January after 19 years and two wonderful kids.
Its a proper kick in the balls, but life is short you know, you have to get on a live it!
Ride your bike a lot, drink beer with mates and try to move on.
Speaking of which: Fancy getting out at the weekend Lowey? Bikes then beer?
binners... I have the kids from tomorrow night all weekend.
However, tomorrow I'm riding a big old ride around skiddaw involving much carrying and the longest legal downhill singletrack in the lakes!
This'll cheer you up:
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I've ridden that one a few times fella. Its a belter!! Enjoy!!! 😀
Sorry to hear that roverman - having some issues with my missus of 13 years or so at the moment. Getting out on the bike certainly helps though.
longest legal downhill singletrack in the lakes!
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Grum, that would be telling, but I'd have never guessed it if it wasn't for a local.
Roverman,
To put another perspective on it I'll give you my side as I was effectively in the same position as your wife.
I'd been with my ex from being 15, engaged at 17, married at 21, no kids and we just ended up like mates.
There was no-one else involved in the split but I just decided after YEARS of thinking about it to end the marriage it wasn't taken lightly, or done with malice but there was no relationship left from my part and I didn't feel that way about him any more and we led very separate lives.
We're friends again now after 3 years but for a long time it wasn't possible as he still had strong feelings and I didn't want to hurt him any more than I'd done already.
Its a very very very hard thing to do to be the brave one and say its not working especially if the other person would just have continued with the relationship as it was for whatever reason.
I hope I haven't said anything out of turn just trying to say that it takes [b]alot[/b] of guts to let someone go to be with someone that [b]will[/b] feel that way about them and you will find someone just like I did and he did also.
Good luck with everything
xxx