I recently signed up to Facebook and generally just look at it occassionally to see what old mates are doing, don't comment too much.
However, someone who I don't know posted the eulogy below on my page;
'Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you're in need. People who never take advantage of you. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.'
All it was missing was, 'Pass this on or you'll die' underneath and I commentated stating that the idea that I shouldn't surround myself with enemies and reprobates never occoured to me.
Wife is now going mental as her friend, who lost her Dad a while back, was reaching out to her friends whilst I think if she doesn't want people doesn't know commenting, she should sort out her privacy settings.
Now that I feel like a 15 yo having a txt war, is the Wife right or should people expect comments on their unsolicited, Martha Stewart homilies?
Unfriend your wife
I don't understand the problem..
you've got a spam status update and your wife is going mental because her friend lost her Dad a while back..
Tell her to get a grip and carry on with life
Tell your wife that her friend should find more appropriate and private ways of 'reaching out'; is she 12 years old?
Not your wife, obvs..
im so glad im not a teenager anymore
Suggest you consider who you 'friend' allow to post on your page if you are going to get all worried about it.someone who I don't know posted the eulogy below on my page
Personally I'd say anyone who opens their heart of facebook is a bit odd... ...but I do seem to know a few odd people.
Poke her
Post a link to some mental health charity or anger management clinic, I find Facebook needs extreme irony at all times, then everyone unfriends you, other than those who 'get it' and peace returns to your world, oh and post a link to the death clock every now and then, that'll keep them happy..
Thank you, I thought the serried ranks of cynical STWers would agree with me, therefore I am irrefutably right.
Take your pc into the back yard and smash it to smithereens, that'll teach'em !
[i]therefore I am irrefutably right.[/i]
...and have as much chance of a shag tonight as Jimmy Savile!
So, she didn't "post it on your page" - did it appear in your feed? Or did she actually write it on your wall?
And lol, by the way.
Gunz - sooner you accept that she's right, you're wrong and you're sorry the sooner this'll blow over.
I don't get it.... What's happened exactly?
I'm once again left wondering how some people manage to have such complicated and chaotic lives, I feel blessed.
Oops!
As a few others seem to be I am baffled by the op? I've read it several times and don't understand it!
Glitch
post a link to this thread on facebook
Stop talking to her and only communicate via Facebook.
The kind of person who posts that kind of drivel is inevitably going to be upset when others mock it. No need to be nasty, just ignore it. If she does it a lot, block her.
Just delete the comment and lock down your privacy settings.
Social network sites seem to turn decent people into:
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but they are of course full of people who are like that in real life.
Social media LOL!
can you see the irony of sharing the same inane shit with us?
at least she had a genuine reason for posting that drivel, you're just having a flannelly whinge.
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See people do really dull stuff on FB. I can kind of sympathise with you're wife, if it was a friend of mine I wouldn't want my other half to wind them up. You are probably better off just hiding whoever it is that posted. FB politics are a pain in the rear
flannelly whinge
Their second album was a disappointment.
Facebook is not STW. You can't be inexplicably rude to everyone and get away with it.
Grow up, be nice.
facebook is full of cr@p. ignore it.
When it comes to Facebook, it turns people into complete morons.
I noticed the other day that people have gone from generally moaning to their mates about their significant other to overly sweet displays of affection for their Facebook audience. It's gone from "my husband dies nothing" and "the kids are driving me mental" to "my darling husband and my gorgeous little boys/girls and their amazing amazingness"
I'm going old-school, quills and parchment from now on
By the sound of it, she didn't post anything on "your page"
She posted it on Hers, and it appeared on yours because she is in your friends list.
You then posted a comment about it "on her page"
I couldn't really care less, but if I've got it right, I can see why your wife is pissed off with you.
I only really use Facebook for business, so don't really have the same problem.
I find the following three statements useful when communicating with my wife:
1. It's my fault
2. I'm sorry
3. Lets eat out
haha - somebody taking facebook seriously c'mon *shakes head*
I recently signed up to Facebook
I think that's probably where you went wrong
Spam her with unending pictures of your children, dog or status of your favourite sports team.
Change your privacy settings to only allow friends to post. Only friend people you know.
WTF is all this Facebbook stuff? I just go out, lean over the fence and have a yarn with my neighbours; it's far more interesting and you learn relevant stuff about what's going on in your street like planning applications and so on.
I didn't 'get' this yesterday, but having just skim read it again, I understand that the friend posted a message on her 'wall' for friends to see, which included the OPs Wife. The friends privacy settings are either non-existent, or her posts are viewable to friends of friends. The OP/husband is a friend of a friend though his wife, so can see the post.
Wife should be going mental at the friend to change her privacy settings.
Correct?
If you have the timeline look with the big picture across the top, you can type in the name of a friend (or a none friend, such as your wife's friend) at the top and you can then view your profile from their perspective, so you can see exactly what is visible and what isn't.
Facebook is not STW. You can't be inexplicably rude to everyone and get away with it.Grow up, be nice.
this
By and large, those people on Facebook are your social network (if you're using the site for it's intended purpose) friends, family, friends of friends..
People you will see at parties, funerals, weddings, christmas time.. Don't take the piss out of them when they are mourning the loss of a loved one..
What they are definitely [i]not[/i] is a bunch of socially mal-adjusted cyclists who spend half their lives looking for little chinks in your armour so that they can draw attention to it in a vain attempt to feel superior for a few minutes each day.. play nice.. that woman might be helping you clear up flood water next month.. or be babysitting your kids or be offering you a vol au vent at a wake..
[i]Click like if you don't want babies to die/child soldiers/cancer etc
Please engage in my banal life[/i]
Hey ho I'd just kiss some butt and grovel to the wife. Just for an easy life.
The alternative is to not back down and tell her and her friend to grow up.
I seem to be getting a lot of 'click like in 3 seconds if you don't want this baby to die'. Given it takes me on average at least 5 seconds to read what's written above a picture because I tend to look at pictures first (yes I know, no I'm not five) does this mean I'm a baby murderer? These are actually great for knowing who to hide/block.
If you cant be 'yourself' to those you call freinds, then they are not real freinds. Sod 'em.
Just carry on as you are, eventually those that dont like/agree with you will bugger off leaving you with mates who see it as you do.
Or just have real mates you only meet in person.
A friend of the wife's posted a photograph of her still born child on facebook. It was a photo that just appeared in the news stream, without warning or without any choice as to whether or not to view it.
My wife was in floods of tears when she showed me, and I can say that it is one of the most upsetting things I have ever seen.
For my money, this is NOT what facebook is for, especially given that there were pregnant mothers on her friends list.
Anyway, grief makes us do things we wouldn't normally consider. She went on the have a "cull" of all her "so called facebook friends", or "****s" that didn't facebook message her their condolences.
Feel so sorry for her, because she is normally quite rational.
I do find it strange that some people see facebook as anything more than a place to communicate the funny little things that happen in your life.
FB is getting on my t1ts these days. I see far fewer mates using it than in years gone by. There's now only a hardcore bunch that are on there all the time; some post really interesting/engaging stuff while the others witter on with constant "check in" updates (e.g. London Bridge, Starbucks, Yoga Class etc) and all the other mindlessly dull BS.
I reckon the constant barrage of sleep-inducing updates is putting more and more people off using it.
A friend of the wife's posted a photograph of her still born child on facebook.
That's just plain wrong (IMHOOC) on all levels. But that's exactly what FB 'encourages' people to do. I'd go f^&*ing spare if I was the father of that child and my wife did that - you simply don't broadcast that kind of stuff.