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10 month old. Loves the bitty.
Was 100% tongue tied at birth. Not spotted until we left hospital and the health visitor saw him.
The midwifes were foul and insisted that we kept trying before we went home. Poor kid couldn't latch on.
My wife expressed and fed him off syringes and bottles. The hospital midwifes still insisted that we had failed and said we had chosen to bottle feed him.
Anyways.
Baby has had two tongue tie snips. It came back after the first cut. My wife has successfully fed him on the boob from 3 weeks old. There was no confusion for him over teat vs nipple. He took/takes both happily.
It is worth it. Breast is best. Plus its free.
But I wouldn't loose sleep over it.
Why should being discreet be the worst kind of fence sitter? There's a compromise to be had between confining yourself to a corner under a shawl versus making a big show of it. A hungry baby doesn't have to be fed the very instant it starts crying, it's not a medical emergency. You can spend 5 minutes finding somewhere to sit that's not in everyone's face.
A hungry baby doesn't have to be fed the very instant it starts crying
If he or she starts crying you've already left it too late.
making a big show of it
"It". Brilliant. A thing so terrible it shan't be named. A baby sucking a woman's breast for nourishment. There said it. Boobies. Big swollen engorged boobies. Coming to an ostentatious spot in a CostaNeroBuckSpoons near you.
[nope, edited. No point going further with this one]
I try to encourage breast feeding but my mum said "**** off, you're 35".
aaaaaand that's my entire contribution to the thread.
There's some massive tits on this thread.
IGMC (although it is true).
I can empathise with your situaiton, we had the same with our boy. The pressure of breast feeding from all angles (NHS in particular), tongue tie, breast pumps, breast feeding coaches all ended up with my wife hospitalised and on a drip with chronic mastitis and feeling like a failure.
For our second kid she tried again but started to see similar issues so told everyone that she would be using a bottle and if they didn't like it they could **** off.
Lesson - your wife should do what she wants. Both are perfectly viable ways of feeding your baby.
Thanks for all the great advice, support and comments. Really appreciated.
Update: came home Tuesday, on a mix of pumped breast milk and formula. Breast fed for the first time successfully this morning.
Has gained 7 ounces since Sunday morning.
Happy.
Alex
when pumping try and relax (I used hypnobirthing techniques) and think about your baby/look at a photo of baby to stimulate the right hormones.
Now I'm a man, obv, but as an outside observer it seemed to be a little bit like sex in that if you're stressed and not in the mood it doesn't work very well. I think (and it is just a casual observation of course) that the thinking of loving babyish thoughts is quite important in success.
Of course, these thoughts are sometimes far away from mothers' minds.. post natal feelings and responses are a bit of a minefield.