[Closed] Dividing joint items after a split - determining the value

We just searched ebay and took an average.

ask her mum she will be the one making all the decisions

half retail less 10% per annum?

Whatever you do will be wrong anyway.

Being in this situation for the first time I'm uncertain on how to value the items. Go for the split of the original value or go for a split of the current value.

Imagine that you will go out and buy a used replacement for each item, and get half of what it will cost you to replace everything she keeps.

What they cost new isn't relevant, because none of it is new.

If you can afford it, just walk away, it's probably <£500 which in the grand scheme of things, probably isn't worth the agro.

Give them to her. They are just things.

Yup, same as scaled. I just walked away. Took my bikes, records and clothes and that's all. Not worth the agro

double post, idiot.

it's probably <£500 which in the grand scheme of things, probably isn't worth the agro.

I did the same seven years ago, half of everything in the house we had lived in for almost 10 years was closer to £10k than £500.

scaled - Member
If you can afford it, just walk away, it's probably <£500 which in the grand scheme of things, probably isn't worth the agro.

Not when you start considering Sofas, Beds, etc - it all adds up rapidly. Trying to furnish a new place from scratch (which you will be) will take a lot.

I'm sure there are items you could do with, which she doesn't necessarily need/want and vise versa. anyway slight of tangent. b r's idea seemed sensible, though i'd go 30%, then 10%.

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project - Member

ask her mum she will be the one making all the decisions

This, basically. Glad its not just me project. Well... I'm not glad it happened to you, but you get the idea.

But its much easier to do what scaled suggests. Thats what I did. Took my bikes and some artwork. Its just stuff. Your sanity is more important. Choose your battles.

Get a chainsaw and cut everything in half - will make you feel better 😈

When I split with my ex, I just said, 'either we sell the lot on ebay and split the money 50/50 or you leave it here as you're the one doing the splitting up'

As above, with a slight twist; when me and the former/first MrsIHN split, she was moving out and we were going to agree a price for the stuff she left (again, sofas and the like). In the end she said she didn't want anything, as any haggling would seem a bit churlish and we wanted to keep the split on good terms.

Take only the stuff that's *you* (bikes/surfboards/clothes/cds/whatever/etc) and walk away from the shared day to day stuff like sofas, beds, TVs, etc, etc.

Seeing them will just remind you of the relationship at a time when you really don't need reminding of it.

It's difficult to get a proper fresh start when you're still surrounded by your old life.

I walked away with just my personal things (stereo, clothes, bikes etc)
My ex was to continue living in the house until it was sold and I wanted as little disruption for my kids as possible. This was after her having an affair with a colleague and leaving me for him.
She was kind enough to throw in the spare set of cutlery.

I wasn't really in a fit state to be [s]arguing[/s] negotiating but I don't regret it a few years down the line. It helped me get a clean break and buy a TV of the size I always wanted!

It was a bit sad on the first night in my new flat sleeping on the floor with a sleeping bag though and don't underestimate how much it costs to re-stock. It's not just the obvious things but pots and pans, utensils and so on.

Thanks for all replies - I'm not actually taking anything joint, just taking the cash!

Sore point here, if you can be amicable then half new, otherwise make sure you are not screwed over.

Within reason - half new. One of you has to replace all of the items not being taken with them.......
Ask the other if they want to sit/sleep/eat off secondhand stuff?...

On the flip side of much of the above, me and my wife have just bought a new house, it's being furnished with the beautiful furniture I bought with my ex but got to keep as she walked out on me.
Nice furniture is nice furniture and I don't look at it and think about my ex, I think crumbs I'm glad I have that to furnish this house as there is no way I could afford to buy it now.

Come out of it with as much as you can is my advice 😉

The only thing I'd take is my favourite sofa. TV etc can be bought agaun and **** keeping the marital bed. A girl at work kept EVERYTHING including the house excrpt pc/stereo. **** that. I'd want a new start not memories.

OP just did a similar excersize. We used current values, sensible estimates (whcih generally means a lot less than 1/2 new price). If you cannot agree the formal divorce procedure is to auction them and you divide the proceeds less fees.

I would suggest you do a spreadsheet and she does one and you exchange

Also what @numbut says, re-stocking isn't cheap so you should balance that out and perhaps you might want some stuff.

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