[Closed] Disciplining your child whilst out

A tazer? And maybe some gorilla tape

Choices and see them through...

The world is full of naughty steps/corners...

Use a verbal version? It might take a go or two to visualise it, but they'll get it.

Our MO is to warn that they're being naughty (sometimes they just don't know) and there will be consequences when we get home - otherwise they invariably learn that they can act like a dick in public because Dad won't tell them off in public - or maybe Mum, Dad it seems isn't a afraid to embarrass them.

Was really impressed with a couple, who were in a group, in Ullapool. Young lad was being boisterous, they calmly put him on a naughty seat explained he was not being as good as he could be. Kid had cry. All sorted.

I use pepper spray on Funk Jr, works a treat. Don't tell the social though 😯

Waterboarding?

Rachel (doesn’t have kids)

Three coloured ribbons to tie round a wrist as a reminder what level he's at?

We had a square of red fabric as a portable naughty step. Works anywhere. But re p-jay, just wait till I get you home works for the older ones but for younger it's all in the moment.... so develop a thick skin to be able to take action there and then irrespective of who's looking. If people can't accept a child being appropriately disciplined frankly it's their issue.

Clip round the ear and kick up the arse!

...or do what you do at home, if it works there it should work anywhere - unless your home tactics aren't sociably acceptable. 😀

How can you discipline other peoples kids, without them realising theyre a bad parent.

Waterboarding?

Rachel (doesn’t have kids [b]any more[/b])

FTFY

I'm of the old school (being 61 this month) & must admit to having the odd whack from my Mum, but rarely Dad, which gave me massive respect for both of them, but no way could it be ever be called abuse as todays do gooders call it.

My 2 lads were never 'whacked/smacked/clipped round the ear' from me or their Mum cos they never really needed it. A very stern 'OI' from me seemed to do the trick for some reason.
My stepdaughter used to give Caitlyn a 'flick' of a finger round the ear if she was misbehaving in her early years & now she just has to say, 'do you want a flick?' & Cait (now 12) says, 'no Mum, get lost with your flicks'!

Nowadays she just withdraws Caits phone/tv etc.

*Stepdaughter is a teacher, 14-16yr olds near Doncaster BTW*

Limpet mines.

My Dad used to torture me with these if I was naughty.

How can you discipline other peoples kids, without them realising theyre a bad parent.

We had 3 boys in the shop who were far from being naughty just amusing themselves.
Mum deemed them to be mucking about and on the word SIT they dropped to the floor like they'd been shot and sat in complete silence.
What went on in that household I don't know but it ain't healthy.

I genuinely don't gaf, who's kids they are, sisters, sister in laws, friends, my own kids friends, if they misbehave in or around me they get told whats what.

Hope it's not grammar <upside-down smiley>

I genuinely don't gaf, who's kids they are, sisters, sister in laws, friends, my own kids friends, if they misbehave in or around me they get told whats what.

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Shock collar for dog training? Maybe not legal though. Big or multiple zaps for red, medium zap for amber and just a wee zap for fun or green to keep them on their toes.

I neither own a child or dog.

Start dancing and you'll only stop if they calm down.
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I really hope the Irish family that were in the apartment upstairs from us on holiday find this thread.

5 kids. At least one crying and/or misbehaving at every waking minute. Zero attempt from the parents to address the situation at any time.

What on earth are you all talking about

Start dancing and you'll only stop if they calm down

Our neighbour threatened this - for his sons 18th.

Things got out of hand at 2am with some extra visitors.

He calmly walked into the lounge and broke out the running man....and carried on with every disco move possible until son had cleaned every visitor out the house. 😆

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Zip-ties and duct tape, it's the only way to be sure.

Once, when I was little, and didn't want to go to bed, I threw a hissy-fit at a turn in the stairs and kicked my mum on the leg.
In return I got a really hard kick on the leg, that shocked me into silence.
I never did it again.

Green, amber, red.
Back of hand, front of hand, fist. 🙂

A shock collar is a really good idea - every parent of a child in a public place needs to have a charged up shock collar on, that is triggerable over wifi.

"Actually we're not really like father and son, more like best friends"

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"Aww, Timmy, stop annoying a room full of people with your anti-social behaviour, pur-lease ?"

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The parents need to be trained to take responsibility for being parents, long before we worry about training the kids to be well behaved.

tell me more about the traffic light system??

tell me more about the traffic light system??

dissonance - Member
tell me more about the traffic light system??

Doesnt work if the kid is a cyclist. They just keep jumping them allegedly.

You won the thread 😆

@Mahalo We have green smiling face, yellow not happy or sad face and red unhappy face, all laminated and on the wall in the living room.

TheLittleRed's smiling picture is placed onto relevant face depending on behaviour.

Usually used with the phrase "it's good to be green" cos they will probably hear that at school too.

TheLittleRed seems to be more Visual & Kinesthetic if you go in for VAK so it works a treat in the house, he really dislike's being on the red face.

@Mahalo We have green smiling face, yellow not happy or sad face and red unhappy face, all laminated and on the wall in the living room.

Bloody hell. You lot are WEIRD!!

Does Tarquin not sometimes rebel?

DrJ has it

The traffic light system is used, in some form, in every primary school I have visited ( got to be into 3 digits).

We have a marble jar at home and do daily (well we try to) reviews of their good and bad behaviour during the day and add/take away marbles accordingly - so not only are they punished for bad behaviour but rewarded for good. If they play up whilst out somewhere we just remind them of the jar waiting for them back at home.

Once the jar is full they get to choose a treat such as a day out at the seaside or go out for a family meal.

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thered - good idea, something we've thought about with ours for when she gets any realisation that she has actions and consequence!

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We use 1-2-3 in/out of our house.

In the house, you get to a 3, into Time Out you go.

Out of the house, you get to a 3, something gets taken away be it electronics or pudding. (you tell them the penalty when they get put on a 1)

Works surprisingly well on my 7 and 9 year olds.

Certain behavior will earn you an immediate trip to Three town, this is generally dick kicking, or throwing shit. Pretty rare in my household.

With 3 kids under 6 and us both working it's sometimes a case of loose the battles win the war. 😆

We could do things a lot better but usually when the 5yr old has "a paddy" or the three year old has "a strop" just do the count to 3 and they are in trouble leading to either the naughty step or "time out upstairs to think about it" after explaining why they are in trouble which may also lead to no lego for 24 hours etc etc. Film quoting "its my will against yours and you will loose" or "mess with the bull young man, you'll get the horns" to the eldest and he knows he's pushing it 😀 Luckily don't really have issues when out and about.

Doesn’t really matter what the system is as long as you are (both/all inc grandparents!) scrupulously consistent with it.

Oh - and don’t threaten a punishment you are not prepared to follow through with. 🙂

Rachel

Traffic lights and levels of warning ??!?? Whats that all about. Kids aint daft and they will know they can do something wrong with out really getting in to trouble.

Step out of line and its the slipper or a good whack around the back of the head.

Oh come on stw you are missing the obvious

[b]NO PUDDING [/b]

Warning then mine get the EYES 👿

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(Im not as hairy... but do at times have emergency sandwiches for my daughter or me when out.)

Thats normally good enough but after which, if they continue, they're lead away promptly by scruff of neck for a good telling off. And a further warning that if they continue I'll embarrass them in front of their friends.

Bloody hell. You lot are WEIRD!!

Dude, you have no idea.

I've got a 2 year old.

Can you just explain how this discipline thing works to me? 😆

All joking aside a stern look and firm tone works on Funk Jr (he's 3) and Mrs Funkmaster just uses "do you want me to tell daddy" or other variants

which may also lead to no lego for 24 hours etc etc.

I've got a 2 year old.

Can you just explain how this discipline thing works to me?

Have your tried jar of marbles.

Jar of hearts

Started trying with my 2 year old. Count to 5. Little tike now takes the piss and joins in with the counting, when he is a real pain he gets sat on his own in the conservatory to calm down.

Now, what about disciplining someone else's child? I need some tips. On sat was in a playground and a slightly bigger boy, I'd say 4, came over cracked my boy in the face and dragged him backwards off a toy jeep). He got a maximum volume "NO YOU DO NOT DO THAT" followed rather embarrassingly by a "WHERE IS YOUR FATHER". No idea what I was going to do if he had been there.....every parent stops and stares at me.... But still it got the attention of his fat chav mum who was smoking a fag the other side of the park....who made some sort of vague attempt to tell the boy off. Later on the same boy cracked one of our friends kids too, so clearly had a problem and shouldn't be allowed to play unsupervised....my wife also saw his younger brother spitting in his grandmas face when she tried to get him to leave.