[Closed] Did i do the right thing?

ah right, thought so - i just thought id check!

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from a journalistic point of view, his description of an Asian lad just adds detail to the story, as does him specifying the location.

He could have just said "I was being, and something happened", would that have been easier?

Your own perception of what he intended to mean reveals more about you than it does him in my opinion.

Pook, good point - well made

Whoever wrote "bombers" in the tags is being a bit stereotypical.

**** me Pook thats far too much insite for STW readers! Good point though...

Rudeboy the food was stunning. It was very Bollywood when the bride to be came in, glamour, cameras flashing (over-flashing to create a Popstar entrance effect). I was the only Gora in the place!

Pook - Not at all. I agree anyone who shoulder barges someone deliberately is a plonker. I'd also agree it's not wise to rise to the provocation, so hat's off to the recipient of the provocation - you did a good thing I think.

I kinda thought that the guy's colour is entirely irrelevant other than he's a plonker for doing what he did.

Subsequently I've learned from this thread that many asians have gangsta culture fixations, carry knives, will attack mob handed, are virgins, etc.

All useful background info in case I ever meet one of these asian types in a similar situation.

Has nobody mentioned shreck should've gone and learned how to type proper English before posting?

Anyway, similar thing happened to me a little while back, bloke bumped me with his shoulder when I was walking along with MrsDezb. I turned and looked at him and he looked like the local drunk. He was giving it all the "come on"... I pissed myself laughing and carried on the way I was going.

Thing is, only YOU know if you've done the right thing, cos only you are in that situation at that time. There is absolutely no point in posting the question on here. (Especially if you can't write proper)
Even if you think afterwards, I should've done this, or that, or said this, it doesn't matter, cos you react how you react and the moment's gone.

It wasnt a shoulder barge it was a hand out push in the shoulder.i mentioned his race just as part of the story nothing to do with been racist.

You did the right thing, I reckon.

As for the whole race thing, just because it was mentioned the guy was asian.....what a load of toot.

From the sounds of it, what happened to you is the kind of thing that happened to me on a weekly basis where I grew up in Wembley. Groups of asian blokes stopping you passing in the high street - occasionally a group of black kids would do the same. It was always groups of blokes showing off to their mates - and I never had a white person or group do it to me....does that make me racist for saying that?
I agree with rudeboys comment about the showing off to girls/mates thing. I had numerous run-ins with asian blokes at uni who thought they were being big and clever in front of their mates, with the safety net of numbers to protect them. One guy tried to trip me up in a club while I was carrying 3 pints. I managed to save the beer (yay!) and turned round to see who had done it. This bloke started squaring up to me laughing at what he had done, until he realised his mates hadn't found it as funny and were walking off - that was it.....apologies all round and 'yeah, safe man.....' all that crap.

The older I get, the more I realise it's safer to leave these morons to it. One day they'll do it to someone who will absolutely massacre them.

[i]It wasnt a shoulder barge it was a hand out push in the shoulder.[/i]

Hence the words [i]similar thing [/i]

from a journalistic point of view, his description of an Asian lad just adds detail to the story, as does him specifying the location.

You mean it adds a bit of colour to the story, don't you?

Jamie - I was aware of the context the tag had been added in, I was just playing off the word's normal meaning.

Picking the OP up for saying "Asian" is a red herring here. Now if he'd said "****"...

Why is it some folk try so hard to find racism, when it isn't even there??

Of course it was relevant, he was Asian and it was outside an Asian takeaway. If it had turned ugly and staff from the takeaway had come out, chances are they would have sided with the 'bruva'.

And they have sharp knives, not to mention those electric shaver things that they cut kebab meat with. Shrek could have ended up on a spit, being slowly peeled and grilled at the same time!

In answer to your question yes you did the right thing. In this day and age you can't be too careful and confrontation really isn't worth it!

What happens if it had been a Taff? Or a jock? They have plenty of sexual frustration and like a good punch up. Or am I just stereotyping again?

Just to chuck a small grenade into proceeding how do we know this was not a racially motivated attack ?

Rudeboys comments really to hit the nail on the head – and somebody who used to work in inner city Bradford have observed similar behaviour and experienced low level racist abuse from young south Asian men

I find that the PC brigade tend to completely discount the fact that all races and cultures have the capacity to feel hatred and discriminate against any other race and culture

"In this day and age you can't be too careful and confrontation really isn't worth it!"

What day and age was it OK? 😆

Or a jock? They have plenty of sexual frustration and like a good punch up

" angry scots pervert bams someone up in front of takeaway "

🙂

[i]What day and age was it OK?[/i]

depends what era you're from 😉

I dont get why people are over-liberalising about the mention of the persons origins. If a Scottish lad had done the same, the OP would have mentioned 'Scottish' as he would have heard his accent.

Its relevant possibly due to the area the OP was walking through and background from previous observations not mentioned on here. Stop Liberalising folks. We all know if someone was racist on here we'd all kick off.

[i]does that make me racist for saying that?[/i]

I wouldn't say so, does it make the groups you descrice racist for doing what they did?

As for the OP being racist because he described the potential attacker as 'Asian' - utter nonsense. I was used purely to add a descritive element to the story.

You done the right thing walking by as you do not know what he was all about but he was very conident about bumping you.And as was mentioned he could have had a weapon or mates at the ready if it kicked off. As for the racist comments (what a load of cr^p) If he was fat and bald you would have mentioned that,if he had one eye you would have mentioned that, it just so happened that the thing that made him stand out was he was asian( no racist comment he just stated the facts). Some folk on here need to get off their high horse.
Oh and on a slightly worrying note I seem to have agreed with Tandenjeremy

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DezB - Member

Why is it some folk try so hard to find racism, when it isn't even there??
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If a Scottish lad had done the same, the OP would have mentioned 'Scottish' as he would have heard his accent.

If he was fat and bald you would have mentioned that

if he had one eye you would have mentioned that

How do you know he didn't have a Scottish accent? How do you know he wasn't fat and bald? Did he have two eyes?

[i]if he had one eye you would have mentioned that[/i]

That makes sense, he bumped into the OP as he couldnt see where he was going? 🙄

That makes sense, he bumped into the OP as he couldnt see where he was going?

If it was a fat, one-eyed Asian, was it Abu Hamza?

I wouldn't retaliate v Abu Hamza - word on the street is he's got some hard mates

i can't help but reminded of Avenue Q...

I wouldn't retaliate v Abu Hamza - word on the street is he's got some hard mates

I don't think it was him. He's not bald or Scottish.

Maybe if he was coming out of McDonalds when he barged someone we could deduce he was Scottish?

"partially-sighted baldy Jock pervert feels up man outside take-away with his one good arm"

Abu-Hamza, bystander, declined to comment

I could write for the BBC

Shrek if this happens again please for all our sakes tell us he was of Asian origin probably Indian as he was wearing a turban, he was also Fat, Bald, had 2 eyes of which one was turned inwards, smelled of beer, spoke with a cornish accent, had love & hate tattoed on his Knuckles and mentioned he voted for the liberal party. 😉

If he voted liberal Shrek should have decked him. Liberals are not famous for being hard. Well apart from Paddy Ashdown who was an assassin for the SAS, but then he hasn't got a cornish accent.

Did i not say he had quite a big nose?

Maybe you shoudl fo busted some moves like this guy shown here to protect his girlfirend in what would seem to be a slightly different situation:

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=6rjJ5lBObC8

Yet on the other hand, I think what you had done was probably right in this situation as from what I have read from rudeboy's posts (especially the long one) rings true.

I also disagree with the comment about if he was scottish, then he wouldn't of mentioned he was scottish.
As people from different cultures, including welsh have different temprements, - is that racist?

Anyway, stop questioning your manhood, - if you were in a different situation i.e. someone was getting mugged, - you would probably have stepped in, I would of thought/hoped as any decent person would.

Thing is with another comment on here saying that they will get their come-upence one day and that someone else will deck them.
If everyone had that attitude/way of thinking then the little bastewards would get away with it time and time again no?

Did i not say he had quite a big nose?

He was Jewish?

Yeah you did the right thing.

The bloke is a **** and will get a kicking from some crazy bloke he trys it on with im sure.

Statistically Asians have the smallest penis'of all races.

I would have smugly reminded him of this fact.

MM

You were barjeed in the shoulder by a young man and it must have hurt,but as difficult as it must have been to walk on...its the best thing to do.

I believe in good korma!

I'd have fallen over, but then I'm on crutches at the meoment.
A big Moari fella did the same thing to my brother once and must have been very confused when he came round. Mind you I expect my roughty, tufty brother has been beaten up more times than me so I think the walking/running away is the best option.
I was walking home pissed with a bag of chips a few months ago when a massive bloke came out of a phonebox which he had just been kicking and shouted at me "DO YOU WANT A ****IN GO?" my reply of "no thanks do you want a chip" seemed to diffuse the situation.

Yes shreck you did the right thing - sounds to me as if the assailant was something of a nutter.

And thank you for mentioning that he was Asian.

Had you not, I would have automatically assumed that he was white. And it's nice to know that not all nutters are white.

A few years ago, I was in a situation where I said nothing and walked quietly away. I still feel bad that I didn't stand up for myself.

Last November I had a confrontation, didn't back down and got a broken cheekbone.

Hard to know the right thing to do sometimes.

Should have weed in his shoes

..Nah, you did the right thing.

Yes, you have done the right thing.

In fact it would even be a waste of time even to give him an answer.

Bear in mind the person might have mental health problem.

😯

you need to add all the facks into the desription, if the guy was asian then you need to say so , you did the right thing mate , could of been worce, E.G keen cyclist attacked , by a bloke, that desription would not help anyone, ffs what is going on , its not a rude comment or owt,

You did the right thing. Unless you're Steven Seagal 😉

I probably would have called him a W@nker and turned and walked on.
If he'd have come at me I'd have done my best.
If my family was with me and I felt threatened (i.e. he was bigger than me) then I would have had a good go at ripping his arms off and feeding them to him.

All in all, I guess I'd have handled it badly.

Mind you, over here there's still that local spirit (in most places around here) that if it had kicked off and someone had witnessed it they would have stepped in on the agrieved party - all good so long as I didn't start it.

shreck - Member

Did i not say he had quite a big nose?

[url= http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=XiDmMBIyfsU ]Big Nose!![/url]

Once many years back me and my mate were driving through Fartown (Huddersfield) and as we passed a takeaway something bounced off the side of the car (turns out it was a billiard ball). Mate stopped the car and both of us jumped out to confront the slighly younger 3 WHITE idiots. Mate of mine (6ft 3 ASIAN), me 6ft2 WHITE) As we approached the 3 idiots all produced knifes and said 'come on then'. We turned, legged jumped back in the car and floored it. There was a nice dent on the doorframe where the billiard ball had hit. Jesus, what would have happened if we couldnt get into the car intime?

A few years ago, I was in a situation where I said nothing and walked quietly away. I still feel bad that I didn't stand up for myself.

Last November I had a confrontation, didn't back down and got a broken cheekbone.

Hard to know the right thing to do sometimes.

well, if you can't draw a conclusion from those two experiences, there's not much hope is there?
100s of people end up in hospital every week because they can't walk away. if they're lucky they don't also end up in court. life's too short.

you need to add all the facks into the desription, if the guy was asian then you need to say so , you did the right thing mate , could of been worce, E.G keen cyclist attacked , by a bloke, that desription would not help anyone, ffs what is going on , its not a rude comment or owt,

The fact it was a bloke narrowed it down to just over 50% of the population. 60% of the Earth's population live in Asia, with many more of Asian descent living outside the continent. So that fact it's an Asian bloke narrow it down to something like 2 billion people, which is a big help.

Back firmly on topic. Shreck, you did the right thing. Even if you won the fight, where do you stop? You'd end up a very very angry man doing exactly the samething to others, thinking the world is against you.

So that fact it's an Asian bloke narrow it down to something like 2 billion people, which is a big help.

So there is 2 billion Asians in the uk then?
I would say in Scotland Asians would make up no more than about 5% of the population