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Regular-ish poster but different login (sorry mods). She knows who I am on here so discretion required!!

Met a customer at work about 4 years ago who I really fancied. Unfortunately she was married at the time, so just kept it all professional. Found out from talking to her that her husband was a control freak who really didn't appreciate her and that she was thinking of leaving him. We talked about this regularly so got to know her really well throughout this period and her subsequent rebuilding of her life, which is now heading where she wants. I held back through all this as it obviously wasn't the right time, just helped out where I could and helped her get things off her mind as her now ex-husband had turned all her friends against her. They divorced two years ago.

For the record I did not suggest the split or knowingly become the catalyst for it.

Fast forward to April this year. All seemed to be going well on her side so plucked up the courage to ask her out. Didn't see her for a few weeks so went for it the next time I saw her. All was fine until I asked her, at which point she said she really couldn't right now as she had been served an eviction notice on her rented house that morning after her ex had done the dirty with the letting agency behind her back. She didn't mention this before I asked her out (we'd been chatting for 5 mins or so), guessing she was putting a brave face on it. Didn't say no and said she'd let me know when things have settled down. Her boss told me she was gutted at the timing, probably should give her a few weeks. Unfortunately our paths didn't cross for a few weeks so couldn't follow things up or give her an opportunity to take the offer up.

Present situation: She is settled in a new place, has started a college course to re-train in her original chosen career. This has meant our paths don't cross as often as they used to as her college day is on one of the days we used to meet regularly through work.
Saw her for the first time in ages yesterday and she seems in a much, much happier place. The course is going well, has made a few new friends there and has done the whole make over thing. She now looks absolutely stunning and is the happiest I've ever seen her. Not that she was ugly before!!!
So I really want to ask her out again, but also don't want to disturb her new-found happiness by putting her in an awkward situation. I really care for her and want her to be happy, whether that's with me or someone else. I also don't want to make the situation at work awkward either. My mind is completely scrambled (my day is a let down if I don't see her when I was expecting her) so need all the advice I can get. I've never been very good at this kind of thing anyway, definitely not a smooth operator!!

I've never met anyone who ticks so many boxes for me as she does. The only fault I've found so far is that she smokes one or two a day when she's stressed, not a deal breaker. And I vowed never to date a smoker!! Other than that I'm completely smitten.

What do I do!!! All MTFU's etc appreciated!!


 
Posted : 08/10/2013 4:37 am