so I'll tell you.... my brother was found dead outside his flat in Baku on saturday night, its all been a bit of a blur since then
Shit. Nowt that can be said really apart from that. Must be absolutly horrid. My sympathies for what little it is worth
do pick up the phone to your mates. They will and can help.
Holy shit- sorry to hear this. That place can be pretty crazy for muggings etc. You've done the right thing not keeping it to yourself. Do you have to go over there? Feel free to pm if you want a chat- I have a friend over there also.
Oh God, I'm sorry to hear that.
My thoughts are with you - try to bear up.
Can you just call one mate & ask him to rally the troops to look after you?
Best wishes.
that's so immensely shit, really sorry to hear. you should call a mate though
Jesus, that's horrendous.
Not surprising you feel a bit odd, you'll be stressed and stress is very good at incapacitating you. Best advice is talk to someone (anyone, even STW) as sharing how you feel will help.
Hopefully sharing your sad news here will help you along the path to speaking to your mates.
😯 Sorry to hear
What TJ said + 1
can't think of anything else to write as it seems banal and a bit rubbish...
I had a similar experience not long ago, and feeling disorientated and overwhelmed is not unusual I don't think.
Just take things at a pace that is suitable for you, and talking to someone probably will help.
For what it's worth my condolences, and try to remember the good times.
So sorry for you.
Go out for a walk and get some fresh air, ring someone as soon as you return. You really do need your friends.
Sad news thoughts are with you.
My sincere condolences. My sister died quite suddenly and unexpectedly ten years ago. Obviously the circumstances were different, but this was a huge loss to me, as your brother is to you, and I can relate to some extent, especially when you talk about a blur.
And do not worry about not being able to telephone friends. I could not do the same, but one friend telephoned the others to let them know. I do not know if anyone can do this for you, but I am sure that your friends would want to know in the coming days, so that they can be there for you and be supportive.
Take care. With the emotions, I was told by doctors that it is good to go with the flow. I was all over the place so just try and hang in there.
Take care
i'm so sorry to hear that.
i tried to deal with something traumatic in my own life last year without any support from friends, and I can honestly say that I wish I had contacted them sooner. I made a lot of ill judged decisions while i was grieving that I have to live with now.
Contact your mates, they are there for you, that's why you're mates.
Can't add anything to the above comments, except don't hold it in and bottle it up. That's a real shitter.
Email me if you want to talk to a sort of stranger.
Awful. So sorry to hear.
Second contacting one person to tell others.
I know (of) someone who had to tell people her 14 month old son had died suddenly. She couldn't face talking, so posted a short message on facebook.
But talking will help. We're all here.
That has to be a headf##k of the biggest order. Don't try and work it out now, you'll just melt. Small steps first, evrything else can wait.
I can't imagine how you must feel, get in touch with you're friends when you are ready and it'll really help. But don't worry if that itself takes a while. Follow whatever feels like the right thing to do, you are bound to be dealing with more than you are consciously aware of. It kept hitting me in waves when a friend died committed suicide in November, but time really does heal. My thoughts are with you.
it is odd how hard it is to say the words and saying them aloud somehow makes it more real.
Chin up and deepest sympathies
OMG that's just terrible. I don't know what to say.
Phone your friends, now! They'll be immensely supportive, you watch.
that's horrible.i can only add my condolences along with everything said on here.you should talk to one of your friends though (i found it good for me to see some of my friends when my grandfather died from a stroke) good luck mate.
I'm so sorry to hear that. Be close to the people who care for you. Please look after yourself.
So sorry.Phone at least one person who is near.
I'm so sorry.
So very sorry for you, please phone or call on a freind, you need company .
Well I have told a few people now. Dont worry all of you I'm not on my own have my partner and 5 month of baby for company. She was out trying to get the little man a passport as my brother lived in NZ when not in Baku and his body will be going back there. Never thought I wouldnt want to visit NZ.
With a 5month old you've probably not got much head space anyway. Not the best positive, but it's a start goddammit. Remember to pack calpol and jnr.neurophen.
I've nothing to add but best wishes
I can't begin to imagine what you're going through, but offer my sincere condolences and best wishes.
You'll be fine, in time, but all you can do is go with the flow and don't bottle stuff up (sounds like you're not).
So sorry for you.
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My condolences to you and your family.
Sorry but I really can't think of anything more to say
My heartfelt condolences AA.
So sorry to hear that. Sincere condolences.
Had various visits and calls today, cant say I feel any better but suppose it takes time. On the plus side baby now has passport but no news on when he's being repatriated
cant say I feel any better but suppose it takes time.
It'll get worse I reckon - something like this takes a while to sink in. We can't quite believe it's happened, and we wake up in the mornings only to be reminded that it wasn't a nightmare but real. The funeral will bring some closure, and people are often too busy with the arrangements leading up to it to allow themselves to grieve. After the funeral can be a difficult time.
Dreadful news. Be strong.
It will take time to feel better - weeks/months not day more than likely but there is no right or normal reaction, you just react as you do
Do consider professional help - it really can help you to recover
good luck