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What a mess.
For balance, I think midlife's post was fair. Harsh, but fair. You can never tell what's going on with another person unless they open up to you. And that includes texts, bookface and emails. If you go down the keylogger route, there's a whole pile of crap can be spread around your life.
mmm don't fancy the keylogger route to be honest. Once you open that can of worms were do you stop? Her phone contract is actually in my name after transferring her number to one of my accounts a few years ago so if I wanted to I could prob check her call / text history.
I don't really feel the need though. I still trust her and if I start to question that theres not going to be much left.
gravitysucks
I just want to say that I feel for you and I know what you're going through because I've been there, and I'm afraid in my case things didn't end well.
I'm also going to say that I agree that midlife's post is harsh but fair - but it doesn't mean that it applies to your marriage
In my case it was pretty obvious there was other stuff going on - I didn;t need a keylogger to tell me, and if you know your wife I expect you don't either
Poking around and being suspicious just makes you feel awful - and ultimately it won't change anything. Best thing to do is try and get her to councelling with you
I didn't manage it - it felt at the time like we were in a car together, but she was in the driving seat - and had taken her hands off the wheel and was just waiting for the car to crash. I was trying my best to keep the car on the road but couldn't
As you mention above though 800 pounds is a drop in the ocean compared to the cost of separation (financial and emotional), so don't let that be the reason not to go. I think relate do let you opt to do it for free as well.
Another point - it can take a while to get seen/ get a slot - so don't wait. Call them now and get booked in.