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[Closed] 6yr old daughter behaving like a stroppy teenager... How to handle this?

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You might be Princess Amelia, but I'm king daddy and I'm telling you to sit down and eat your breakfast.

And the conversation ends there.


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 10:24 am
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This isn't real, is it? This made me laugh as much as I would have laughed at little miss if she had behaved in the same way. Have your tantrum sweetheart, just keep the noise down!

oh its real all right...but having said that we never had any problems with our eldest...no tantrums and no bad behaviour...it was like it was almost too good to be true
so i suppose after having it really good and easy for 5 years when little madam turned up she was going to make up for this.
the youngest also doesnt have any tantrums...but he is a mischievous little git...and does it with a cheeky grin on his face

to be fair she's only started doing this in the last 6 months and isnt a regular thing. most of the time its just sulking and a bit of whining and its over in a couple of minutes
she really gets going though when the little one winds her up...and he enjoys doing that...i'd say shes feisty more than anything but her behaviour is still easy to manage

as for the breakfast and stairs examples she didnt scream and shout...but she did say it in a sulky voice which actually made it funny...but she still refused to eat her breakfast so she went on the naughty step for 10 minutes

she knows i own a pair of these
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so she knows not to cross the line

If the above is real, you need to ask yourself some serious questions, you are doing the worst for your child by bringing her up as you are doing.
I thought the whole point of parenting was to do your best

oops...supernanny is onto us(!)


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 10:49 am
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Saw a kid in the supermarket the other day having a full-on screaming meltdown tantrum. The reason for his malaise, "I WANT A MINION!!!"

I saw a kid having a meltdown in a supermarket, it's always in a supermarket, and was sorely tempted to get down on the floor to have a bigger tantrum, get up and walk away without a word. Just to see.


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 12:26 pm
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What happened to if you don't want to eat you just go hungry?

But then i also literally got my mouth washed out with soap if I was rude to adults, so might have had a more traditional approach applied.


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 12:48 pm
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We're not discussing asking them to do things, [b]it's about stopping these silly little temper tantrums which if unchecked now WILL lead to issues later [/b]when they don't get their own way with fiends\colleagues, at best they'll just lose friends at worst it could escalate into dismissal from school\work.

You know this how?

Anyway, stopping tantrums means asking children to behave themselves. That may be achievable because they are scared that I will hurt them, but that's not the kind of person I wish to be.


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 12:51 pm
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That may be achievable because they are scared that I will hurt them, but that's not the kind of person I wish to be.

I'm pretty sure my lad doesn't think i'm going to hurt him, but doesn't tantrum.

Can you not still be very assertive without them thinking you're going to batter them ?


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 12:53 pm
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I'm pretty sure my lad doesn't think i'm going to hurt him, but doesn't tantrum.

Can you not still be very assertive without them thinking you're going to batter them ?

I think so, but some people upthread seem to think the appropriate course of action is violence.


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 12:55 pm
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but some people upthread seem to think the appropriate course of action is violence.

Potentially the threat of violence... well, i guess it depends what you class as violence really. I've smacked the back of my boys hand twice and the back of his legs once in the past.... Are we classing that as violence ? lol.


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 1:00 pm
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OP and Gonzy, please look into [url= https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oppositional_defiant_disorder ]Oppositional Defiant Disorder[/url].

No, it's not just another label; my eldest went through so much of what you both describe, and we were at our wits' end. For all I had mental health care experience, it was nothing I could understand.

Then we heard about ODD, and it really helped us begin dealing with the issues. Thankfully, they're not deep. It's more a matter of helping kids work through the things that bug them in a positive way.

Anyway, do some research on ODD and don't despair. If you want any more info, email is in profile.


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 1:02 pm
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I would recommend reading [url= https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1848123094 ]How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk[/url]
I found it helpful


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 1:09 pm
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Potentially the threat of violence... well, i guess it depends what you class as violence really. I've smacked the back of my boys hand twice and the back of his legs once in the past.... Are we classing that as violence ? lol.

Deliberately hurting children through the use of physical force? Yes, I think that meets the definition of violence.


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 1:26 pm
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Deliberately hurting children through the use of physical force? Yes, I think that meets the definition of violence.

LOL sure... that's exactly what it is 🙂

I think i'm done... enjoy.


 
Posted : 11/10/2016 2:12 pm
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LOL sure... that's exactly what it is

I think i'm done... enjoy.

It's your business how you justify it.


 
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