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I'm on low to aerage money for where I live the in the grim north but it's not great when you have big bills or a need for a big shiny new bike...
How many of you have a 2nd job to fund the hobby?
Or do I just try to find a job that pays proper money?
My OH is getting understandably irate that I want to spank a fortune on a new bike... but as it's my only hobby I'm keen to spend it.
She earns more than me n objects to the fact she pays a bit more to living expenses than me. And wants more from me. If I do that n purchase the bike i break even with no additional funds a month n I'd like to be able to save some £.
I have an Ebay shop as well as the day job. Takes a few hours a week and the idea was to make enough over the year for a family holiday rather than putting it on the credit card.
Or do I just try to find a job that pays proper money?
If you can't live the life you want working 40hrs a week then it's time to find a new job. How about investing the money you would spend on a new bike in yourself instead, and get training/qualification required to move up a level or two in what you are doing?
Sounds more of a relationship issue than a second income issue. If she earns more, she should contribute proportionally and it doesn’t give her the right to complain about how you spend your spare cash. Or at least that’s how it works in the 90% of relationships when the male partner earns more.
(With the obvious caveat that all relationships are different and get more complex with kids etc).
That said, second jobs are tough going, you would have used all your tax allowance in your main job so you’ll be paying 30% deductions at least, also part-time jobs are usually poorly paid in the first place - so something like take-away deliveries at Min-wage are going to net you £5.50 an hour, how many evenings or weekends do you want to give up to earn a few hundred more a month?
If she earns more, she should contribute proportionally
It would appear she already contributes more. Our rule is simple - if we don't both think we can afford something, it doesn't get bought.
It would appear she already contributes more.
But objects to it, according to OP. And wants him to contribute more
I think you have to split this, as it appears to be 2 issues. One, she resents putting more money into living expenses than he, even though she earns more. That's going to be true if you spend money on bikes, football, beer, whatever, or not. Deal with that issue as that's going to have the greater impact on your relationship.
Everyone needs something that gives them pleasure, it is what makes them nicer to be around. Does she spend on herself in the form of hobbies?
You could get a better paying job, which you might like less than your current, which will make you miserable and she will not want to be around you. Or you could get a part it job in a bike shop and get a discount into the bargain. Of course not spending time with your other half probably won't be good for the relationship either.
Everything has a downside as well as an as an upside. The two of you need to figure out what's more important to each of you. A happier partner, more time together, more money coming in etc. Like the faster-cheaper-better pick two conundrum
What percentage of your wages do you both put in ? I'll bet it's closer than she thinks.
Get rid of missus
Get new bike
Be sad and lonely, but at the top of the hill 30 secs sooner!
