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I've read it but am struggling to give a shit. Both seem to get out riding and have kids. How the **** are they managing that!!
How can he look after his family if he doesn’t look after himself?
By forward planning, acceptance of the situation he's placed himself in, compromise where required, and following rule #1.
Lifestyles change; sometimes it's planned, such as having kids, or sometimes it's forced upin you, like illness. But it invariably carries on.
I’ve read it but am struggling to give a shit. Both seem to get out riding and have kids. How the **** are they managing that!!
I am intrigued by those who *do not* manage to get out.
We had three kids under four years old at one point and still managed to hold some friendships, bike rides and walks without kids for both mrs_oab and I. As soon as they were school age we also managed to get a weekend away leaving other half with the three kids. And of course all 5 of us rode bikes, from old enough to hold up their head in a seat or trailer.
And yes we both worked. And did up a house x2.
When we moved to Scotland, the amount of time outdoors as a family exploded, and the amount of time we as a couple or individually headed outdoors for a ride / run / pint with a friend also increased.
I've still not read it.
But I did tell you it was the husbands fault 😎
As soon as they were school age we also managed to get a weekend away leaving other half with the three kids.
Wait, are you saying you managed a weekend away with the mistress while leaving the kids with your other half?
I think I understand now how you managed to get so much done.
I am intrigued by those who *do not* manage to get out.
people who don’t have any family or family close by can struggle to spend time together with young children.
people who don’t have any family or family close by can struggle to spend time together with young children
I agree. In Sheffield family was 45 miles away. In Scotland, 300 miles away.
Yet still we had great family time, some couple time and some individual time.
It's difficult, yes, but maybe it's down to priorities..?
I agree. In Sheffield family was 45 miles away. In Scotland, 300 miles away.
Yet still we had great family time, some couple time and some individual time.
It’s difficult, yes, but maybe it’s down to priorities..?
I think leaving 4 year olds to fend for themselves is frowned upon.
Also, it is OK for it to not be the same as you/it used to be. Life happens, people get older, get wiser, more risk adverse. Just enjoy it for what it is. You don’t ned to be fast or get big air.
This is the response I've been mulling over, I think there's plenty of people I know who once adult life comes along with things like children, a mortgage and career / business to keep on top of, riding down scary stuff stops being scary fun and just becomes scary scary.
Lots of suggestions on this thread feel a bit like they're suggestions on how to "fix" Rachel so she can get back to riding the sort of things Simon enjoys (both from Simon and posters here). But no one seems to want to ask what Rachel *wants* to do. Perhaps they need to talk through what sort of rides Rachel wants and if she wants to do the sort of riding that's more about exploring and spending time together (dare I generalise it as gravel riding?), they need to talk about that and plan that sort of ride rather than heading out to find the gnarr that she really doesn't want to ride down.