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robbo1234biking - Member

I drive around 600-700 miles per week mostly on the motorway. I have noticed that no one says thank you anymore for courteous driving i.e. letting someone out into your lane, moving over a lane to let someone out etc etc. Even lorry drivers dont say thank you anymore (I assume they are fed up with all the idiots)

Even in shops if you hold the door open if you are lucky you might get a grunt but most of the time they look at you like your a piece of crap on their shoe. This extends to older people as well who were probably (sweeping generalisation) brought up with better manners that most youngsters today.

Is everyone in the UK really annoyed with everything that is going on? Have we turned into a nation of unsatisfied grumpy people?

More of an observation than a rant btw

Posted 1 year ago #
allthepies - Member

Thanks for posting

Posted 1 year ago #
thepurist - Member

Thank you for pointing this out robbo.

[edit]Grunt to allthepies.[/edit]

Posted 1 year ago #
robbo1234biking - Member

Beaten to it purist but thanks for the thanks!

Posted 1 year ago #
MrSparkle - Member

No, no. Thank YOU.

Posted 1 year ago #
allthepies - Member

No THANK YOU.

We <heart> you

Posted 1 year ago #
TooTall - Member

Do you drive an Audi / BMW?

Posted 1 year ago #
robbo1234biking - Member

Do you drive an Audi / BMW?

No a Ford Mondeo - proper rep-tastic but didn't really fancy the extra cost of the BMW/Audi with a lower spec for the badge.

Posted 1 year ago #
Drac - Moderator

I do but you probably can' hear me as I'm in a different car.

Posted 1 year ago #
thepurist - Member

www.youtube.com/watch?v=qa3vzkNUVa0

Posted 1 year ago #
theotherjonv - Member

I do, and plenty of people still thank me. Do you live in a horrible thankless town?

One thing amuses me (and I do it too)

When someone gives way to you for example and you decide to thank them, why do you mouth 'thankyou' almost silently (barely above a whisper) when the sound has to overcome the sound of two engines, two radios, and usually two panes of toughened glass.

You should really be bellowing THANKYOU! at the top of your voice.....

Posted 1 year ago #
uplink - Member

Dragged up rather than brought up I would guess

Posted 1 year ago #
mintimperial - Member

Have we turned into a nation of unsatisfied grumpy people?

What do you mean "turned into"? We have a strong and proud tradition of being utterly miserable bastards, and spent most of the 17th, 18th and 19th centuries imposing our virulently joyless outlook on the rest of the world through a combination of military and economic might and religious intolerance. Did a pretty good job of it too, just look at the place. We didn't say thank you when we built the empire, we didn't say thank you when we took it apart, so I see no reason why we should start saying it now!

I'm sorry, don't know what came over me there. I was woken up a bit early, and my son is inflicting Thomas The Tank Engine on me again. I'll try another cup of coffee...

Posted 1 year ago #
ernie_lynch - Member

I have noticed that no one says thank you anymore ......

It's in direct relation to getting old, going deaf, getting arthritic, becoming daft.

Soon you'll be pointing out how in your day you could understand every single word a singer sung, but now they just make noises and scream.

HTH but no need to thank me.

Posted 1 year ago #
oldgrump08 - Member

I find most people say thank you if I make way, even some audi/bmw drivers - although usually they just pull out without signalling

Posted 1 year ago #
ernie_lynch - Member

why do you mouth 'thankyou' almost silently (barely above a whisper) when the sound has to overcome the sound of two engines, two radios, and usually two panes of toughened glass.

I find that mouthing the word "bollox" gets a more interesting response.

Posted 1 year ago #
mudshark - Member

This is another thing Americans tend to do better than us...not New Yorkers though, they're more like us. Probably Thatcher's fault.

Posted 1 year ago #
The Southern Yeti - Member

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUqOEkANIdQ

Posted 1 year ago #
philconsequence - Member

still relatively polite here... make an effort to help another driver and most say thank you.

exceptions are the majority of bmw/audi/repmobiles and frustratingly an increasing number of motorbikes.

bikes i will always move over as far as safely possible to let them feed through the traffic, gone are the days when most of them would indicate their thanks with a small hand movement or wave, now its less than 1-2 out of ten

we've got 2 different bmw headquarters type places nearby which means there's a HUGE amount of brand new spanky bmws with drivers who dont pay for their own insurance on the roads... they appear to have been told by bmw that its illegal to use indicators and that bullying your way through traffic and endangering other road users is a great advertisement for the company.

Posted 1 year ago #
The Southern Yeti - Member

its illegal to use indicators

They use their windscreen wipers Phil. You just have to understand their language, they're not wrong or bad, just different to you.

Posted 1 year ago #
philconsequence - Member

damn, i thought i had my racism under control!

if they want to drive on my roads they gotta drive my my rules, if they dont like it... i'll pack their bags, stealing our jobs mutter mutter

Posted 1 year ago #
rewski - Member

Probably the same reason for the lack of correct grammar.

Posted 1 year ago #
mastiles_fanylion - Member

I always say thank you when I am driving. When I ride my bike I wave a thank you if I think a car driver has been especially courteous in their consideration for me too.

Posted 1 year ago #
stratobiker - Member

Plenty of thanking going on here in France.

It's customary to move over and let motorbikes through. They thank you by taking their right foot off the footrest.

Even the police do it! ....and, when I was out on my Motorbike t'other day and came up behind a police car in traffic, he moved over to let me through. I thought it would be rude not to so I did, then gave the customary foot wave. No problem.

SB

Posted 1 year ago #
mastiles_fanylion - Member

On the moving over for motorbikes thing... Is it just me or does anyone else think that it is dangerous?

Example - car moves over, bike assumes it is safe to overtake, turns out it isn't and the driver just wasn't really concentrating and the bike ends up head on with a central reservation/pot hole/lorry etc.

I always make sure I keep clear road position when driving with a bike behind - let the rider decide when it is safe to overtake.

Posted 1 year ago #
molgrips - Member

I have noticed that no one says thank you anymore for courteous driving

They do, all the time. Do you drive a BMW perhaps? *d'oh too late!*

Posted 1 year ago #
stumpy01 - Member

I tend to notice people not giving a quick nod/wave/indicate when on the road as much as they perhaps used to.

I've also noticed over the last few years that people seem to scythe down slip road paying no attention to who/what is on the main carriageway and try to join regardless. Woe betide you if there is a car overtaking you, while Mr Jonny Big Bollocks attempts to join the main carriageway from your left hand side and wants to use exactly the same space that you are occupying! I did wonder for a while whether the Highway Code had changed to give those joining priority.

As for people in shops, don't get me started! I did wonder if it was just me who thought that my primary job when shopping was to hold the door for feckless minions who then wander through as if it's your duty to allow them free passage, without so much as a glance.

I have also wondered whether I am getting grumpier in my (not particularly substantial) old age.

Posted 1 year ago #
grum - Member

Plenty of thanking still goes on round here. Let me guess, you live down south?

Posted 1 year ago #
molgrips - Member

The OP should spend some time in Germany. That'll make Southern England seem like a hippy commune.

Posted 1 year ago #
mastiles_fanylion - Member

I did wonder if it was just me who thought that my primary job when shopping was to hold the door for feckless minions who then wander through as if it's your duty to allow them free passage, without so much as a glance

+1

Kill them all.

I usually sing a happy 'no, thank you' at them. My wife hates it when I do that

Posted 1 year ago #
philconsequence - Member

i've dramatically given up holding doors open for people after some woman said "what do you think i am?! disabled?!!! i can work a door myself you rude prick!"

she wasnt disabled, she was carrying several bags of shopping and i was under the impression my actions would've been polite and thoughtful.

now whenever i see a woman coming i hold the door shut and shout "i dont want you to think i'm sexist!" through the door

Posted 1 year ago #
rocketman - Member

A lot depends on where you are. Where I work many people are dyed-in-the-wool-salt-of-the-earth types who view outsiders with suspicion and distrust and you really have to work at it to get even the faintest flicker of recognition, never mind an audible acknowledgement.

Back home everyone kids themself they live in a quaint market town and it's all after you, no you first, no i insist, oh thank you it's a lovely day isn't it? etc

Posted 1 year ago #
aracer - Member

When someone gives way to you for example and you decide to thank them, why do you mouth 'thankyou' almost silently (barely above a whisper) when the sound has to overcome the sound of two engines, two radios, and usually two panes of toughened glass

Saves effort.

Posted 1 year ago #
grum - Member

i've dramatically given up holding doors open for people after some woman said "what do you think i am?! disabled?!!! i can work a door myself you rude prick!"

Really?! What a tool.

Posted 1 year ago #
elaine anne - Member

yeah people are dead ingnorant arent they.. i always let people out but ruddy no thanks you get thats it from now on im going to be evil

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