Parcelforce will leave your parcels at the local post office if you ask them, they make collections from there anyway as you can use parcelforce instead of royal mail.
I had a great experience last week, knew I’d missed a delivery due to the tracking system, was working near three depot and didn’t fancy driving home 40 miles, then making an 80 mile round trip the following day.
As expected, the item was still out on the van, but they called the driver and got him to leave it at the post office. they will sometimes leave at the post office without being asked, sounds like the OP’s driver is just bit unhelpful by taking it back to the depot after two missed deliveries.
PS note post office, not sorting office where you normally collect stuff 🙂