I stiull don’t see how my post would upset a rational victim
I doubt very much whether anyone who has been abused as a child, whether it be sexual, phsical, mental, emotional etc, will be able to think ‘rationally’ about it.
I think the desire for revenge is a very natural and to some degree, a positive emotion; it’s about being angry with someone and being able to engage and understand that anger is all part of a process. Of course, actually carrying out the revenge act would be problematic for all sorts of reasons, but thinking it, feeling it, expressing it, even desiring it, all that’s probably a completely natural, very human and therefore ‘healthy’ emotional response.
Feeling nothing is where the problems start.
I also doubt very much whether anyone whose been abused wouldn’t need help, whether they were expressing a desire for revenge or not.
I’m speaking as someone who was the victim or pretty bad and very long term mental abuse as a child. It was never physical, but it was sustained over a period of six years and it was purpetrated by children and teachers and it had a profound effect on me.
It took me a very long time not to want enact revenge and I needed a lot of help to get over it.