freddyg - Member
All money is paid into the joint account from both if us (I earn 2x MrsG's income). We also have a budget account which is drip fed by standing order (or whatever it's called) from the joint account. This covers the mortgage/utilities/car expenses etc. What's left in the joint account is for our disposal - we save some, invest some and spend some. I haven't got a problem with MrsG buying herself something and she hasn't got a problem with me doing the same - neither of us take the p*ss. If we want something a bit more expensive, then we have a natter about it.
Simlar for us, married 21 years now. Our salaries are paid into a joint account and we pay and play from that. I now earn loads more than she but was about equal when we first got together.
I'm happy that our combined earning power provides the lifestyle we like and don't begrudge her spending anything so long as it doesn't take us overdrawn. Oh, and I'd quite like to have a few quid left if/when I wish to buy something
It all gets a bit like trying to value 'contibution' if you get too anal about it and I just can't be bothered with that....