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  • benos
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    I’ve been through palliative care at home, during my dad’s cancer, and I think you’ve done the right thing. You’ll get quality time with your wife and not be continually exhausted by the work and lack of sleep, keeping track of meds, and the constant anxiety of not knowing what to do. I was broken afterwards.

    Cancer is brutal, as you say. Hopelessness in slow motion. You’re a good father and a good husband, so take time to remind yourself of that.

    If I can suggest anything, it’s to take photographs with you when you visit. Those are my best memories of my dad’s last few weeks – we looked at pictures of the people, places and pets he loved. He smiled a lot at that.

    grahamt1980
    Full Member

    So so sorry to hear this, no words other than come in here to vent if you need to

    matt_outandabout
    Full Member

    I am so sorry to hear that. Your wife is in great hands, and you have done all you can. I hope you can find peace in the time you have.

    scud
    Free Member

    Enjoy your time together, and I think that if there is anything you or your son need, please make sure you reach out on here, there will be somebody who can no doubt help, not religious in the slightest, but you’re in our thoughts.

    tjagain
    Full Member

    This is so hard. I can only echo what others have said.  Pictures is a good one – Julie and I sat thru a few slideshows of our adventures in her last week

    Remember I have both professional and personal experience of this. I am here if I can help

    Poopscoop
    Full Member

    fgk, I dont know what t to say.

    I hope you enjoy some precious moments together at this incredibly difficult time.

    fgk
    Free Member

    My wife passed away on Saturday morning.

    She fought bravely and with determination for the 7 weeks she was in the care home. Her deterioration felt both too quick and agonisingly slow at the same time.

    Although we have known this moment was coming for more than 18 months nothing can prepare you for it. So sad.

    grahamt1980
    Full Member

    So sorry to hear that, please reach out for help if you need it

    finbar
    Free Member

    I am so sorry. I’m welling up at my computer having been lurking on this thread throughout.

    bails
    Full Member

    I’m so sorry fgk.

    mrchrispy
    Full Member

    virtual hugs fgk. take all you need dude.

    soobalias
    Free Member

    I hope you and the lad come through this ok, look after each other.

    horrible situation.

    stwhannah
    Full Member

    So very sad. Hugs and supportive vibes to you fgk.

    nickc
    Full Member

    ****, I’ve been dreading this update.

    I’m so sorry for your loss @fgk, take acre of yourself and your son.

    lowey
    Full Member

    So very sorry for your loss mate. Look after yourself and your lad. Thoughts are with you both.

    Sandwich
    Full Member

    My condolences and a huge man hug for your loss. Make sure you can get some time for you from your friends and family. Your son will need his dad to have a chance to bend in the current storm rather than break apart.

    All the very best.

    elray89
    Free Member

    Every condolence to you from a stranger and relative newcomer to the forum like myself. It’s been heartbreaking to read through this thread and I cannot begin to imagine the scale of emotion you’ve been feeling over the past couple of years. I am sure that you and your son can find the strength to support each other through this next period alongside other family members and friends. I’m very sorry to hear this.

    blokeuptheroad
    Full Member

    So sorry to read this, I’ve been following since your first post. I can’t begin to imagine your sorrow, sincere condolences.

    duncancallum
    Full Member

    Thoughts with you mate.

    toby1
    Full Member

    Balls, **** cancer.

    The day before I went away 2 weeks back I heard about an old school friend, the year below me, who recently went with bowel cancer, it’s so hard to process that people younger than you are no longer around.

    Fgk, please rant on here more if you need to, some people (not me usually) are incredibly helpful at times like this.

    Poopscoop
    Full Member

    What words can we say?

    I’m so desperately sorry for you and your lad. There must be a huge casm in your world at the moment. I hope you can both rebuild your lives and only remember the good times over the years to come.

    We are all here for you mate.

    Mintyjim
    Full Member

    Absolutely gutted for you. A brain tumour took my amazing dad in a similar fashion.

    My thoughts are with you and your son.

    freeagent
    Free Member

    So very sorry for your loss. Life is cruel and unfair at times. Take each day as it comes – nobody expects anymore from you right now.

    willard
    Full Member

    So very sorry to hear this. Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss.

    benos
    Full Member

    I’m so sorry. My condolences to you, your boy and the rest of the family.

    uggski
    Full Member

    Thoughts are with you mate.

    Bunnyhop
    Full Member

    I’m so very sorry.

    there are no words. Take care and share anything you like on here.

    Massive hugs.

    bunnyhop x

    oldnick
    Full Member

    Very sorry to hear your news, please keep venting on here. Your updates read like a “best practice for spouse and parent”, keep trusting yourself and looking after you and jr.

    Hugs

    ernielynch
    Full Member

    That is truly tragic fgk, and it has been such a very long and horrendously challenging time for you and your son. I hope that you can pick up the pieces and focus more on yourselves now.

    markoulini
    Full Member

    Words have failed meI can’t begin  to imagine how you feel. My condolences to you and your family. I hope that one day the future is brighter.

    jamj1974
    Full Member

    So sorry to hear this.  I can’t imagine how you both must feel.

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