Indeed and sometimes you have to be the person who makes sure your kids do this for their mum and sometimes she has to make sure they do it for their dad as they kid is only 4. its about being a parent basically and not having a war with an ex with a child as the ammunition.
ding ding ding ding ding
you have to make sure your kid shows up to school with a packed lunch. you have to make sure your kid shows up to the pool with a cossie. you have to make sure your kid has a raincoat when they go to the zoo. you have to make sure your kid shows up at the other kid’s birthday party with a pressie. you have to make sure your kid has “chosen” a present for their other parent’s birthday.
it’s not about the other parent’s feelings, it’s about making sure a kid that’s too young to do it for themselves has the right gear for their activities and about teaching them the life skills of foresight and preparation.