Tough times Stany – very tough times… Nothing other people will say can change what has happened, but as other people have indicated, it happens to a lot of people so you are not alone. Once most people find out they are are pregnant they invest emotionally in the baby and if you love something and lose it, feelings of grief in all their complexity are completely normal – including anger!
I sometimes think it is harder on the partner as they not only suffer the loss but often support the mother in getting through this hard situation by providing physical, practical and emotional support, leaving looking after themselves last. I believe you are doing the right thing by looking after Mrs Stany, acknowledging your own feelings and also looking for some help for yourself here.
Take care chap, my thoughts are with you (Even if I don’t really know you so to speak…)
J