[Closed] Hello you orrible lot.

Howdy mate

I tak lots of sox if I go camping

mr cunny funt is here!! yawn

Sounds good! Highway Chile

Hello.

I have a garden that needs a complete overhaul and loads of other work your welcome to have a go at next spring / summer in Sheffield in exchange for accomodation, food, spare parts, ferry tickets and even money if that's what you'd like. Have fun wherever you may find it (Pogo_Stick)

Hello stranger - I've got a flat that needs a bit of general building work in return for accom/food/transport but its not far from you though.

If you fancy north cornwall,1 mile from the coast, im building a house at the mo and always need a hand, got a field and some woods to kip in and a compost toilet (all you need)! Even if you dont make it while im building you can give me a hand landscaping the garden next year (got a massive stone wall to build (bloody planners). Obviously work fits in around riding and surfing.
Allways happy to put people up especially if i get some help/motivation out of it.
drop me a line!

What do i NEED? food and shelter, what else in life do you really NEED?

Love..

Sharki I have a small petrol backpacking stove, yours if you want it. I couldn't bear the thought of you not having a brew in the morning 🙂

If you are near Bilbao, let me know, Ive got spare space.

good luck sharki i spent a year doing just what you are, a voyage of discovery! next time you're in poole/bournemouth there's a hot meal waiting for you.

Sharki, if you're heading through the Alps, look us up, we'll sort you out. Got a few friends of yours here this week!

Hopefully I'll see you in Scotland.

If you're anywhere near Farnborough, Hants at any point, drop me an email (In profile) and I dare say I could exchange your skills (what can you do? 🙂 ) for a bed/food/cash or any combo of those.
Or just drop by for a few beers and dinner if you like.

Seriously, you've very welcome. 🙂

man up and help look after your kid?

Thanks for all the kind offers.

I've spent the last 4 months in the SW and having never travelled and seen anywhere else apart from a weekend in the Peaks, and a few short trips in Wales,i intend to see as much of this beautiful place as i can cram into what life i have.

None of us are immortal and having stood on the edge of death i realise if i'm to live, i need to feel alive and too that i need more than a few weekends away, perhaps a holiday a year and the rest of the time struggling in a job i hate, in a place i despise.

Life can all stop in a heart beat, if not through evil or carelessness of others. Disease, terminal illness, etc.. There's many ways out of our own control where things can happen, and as a result, you never make that holiday, weekend, short moment in time that you saved for and planned you little bit of freedom from the norm..

I can't live in fear of my own mortality, regretting never doing, seeing, trying...and i've failed in normal society, can't keep a job, home, finances, women, etc and quite honestly hate the way things are or apparently, 'have to be'

All these things make me depressed and no amount of medication should make me feel different about it.

I have children like many of you and morally it's wrong for me to not be there for them. However, am i really there for them when trapped in a society and way of life i hate?

Would they rather deep down, want to know i'm happy?

Judge me all you like that's fine, we all have a choice and mine is made up.

A life without money. is a life without greed and complications.

Stevemcd, say hi to Bear, Forky, etc and i'll look you up when i'm heading up through the Alps.

Hear hear Sharki....I'll help you when and if i can, hope to see you soon

I have a few demijohns of sloe gin, and could use a hand to get through it 😉 You'll always be welcome at mine mate.

Hi S, good to see you at the 24/12. Salisbury - bed and food here. For nothing, or in exchange for help with a very overgrown allotment! E-mail address in profile, get in touch if I'm en route Ax

Let me know if you want accomodation or some work in Scotchmerland.

place to stay in warwickshire if you need it.

I live in Glasgow, you are totally welcome to stay with me. We could go riding, and you'd have some pretty primo floor space and hot meals! Give me an email, no worries.

Sorry you can't make the housewarming. Going to say hi anyway this week? Bed here for you if required.

See you soon hopefully.

Would they rather deep down, want to know i'm happy?

speaking as someone who's dad walked out on him, no. I would rather my dad was around.

Have Fun, Wright a book about it as well. People always do and often make money doing it. If you don't want money give it to a charity. 😀

You're not sleeping in my house, you'll molest my dog again...

😉

Shane, I do not believe for one minute that this is really want you want to do. Sometimes we get distracted, for whatever reason/s, and take a wrong turning from the path.

There are some people who really need you, and you need them too, whether you realise it or not.

I implore you to think again. You have my number (or Facebook if you prefer) if you want to talk and of course I will listen and offer support.

C_G
x

What cg said.

Good luck, I can't see it as a bad thing as long as you make a point of sending yr kids letters/the odd thing now n then. Could offer a roof over yr head if your around Wiltshire 🙂

Always welcome in Reading fella. You got FB mail too.

be there for your kids! if your still seeing them! the best thing in your life is to make a big impact on theres, thats what i'm learning! 🙂

Sharki,

Bed available in Witney if you're passing this way.
Also have a 9spd LX rear mech and front mech in the spares box you can have for the 456 if you want them.
If you need a cheap tent have a look at this:
http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/3400779/c_1/1%7Ccategory_root%7CSports+and+leisure%7C14419152/c_2/3%7Ccat_15701442%7CClearance+sports+and+leisure%7C14520980.htm

Good luck,
Neville

What cg and Sc xc said, man up and take responsibility.

sounds like Samuel Jacksons gangster character Jules in Pulp Fiction, giving up the life, and going walking the earth, meeting people, getting into adventures!

Vincent: so you're just gonna be a bum?
Jules: I'm just gonna be Jules, no more, no less.

I don't know your situation so Good luck to ya Sharki! no more, no less!

Rat race, bye bye.

Yet you're asking others who have to be part of the 'rat race' to put you up/feed you etc? To take responsibility for you in some way? Because you've chosen not to? Don't you think that's somewhat selfish?

I don't know what your story is, and I wish you no ill, but I'd say you need to work out what it is you're running away from, because until you do, it'll always be there.

why is every one thinking your a ****ing hero, stop being so selfish and stop crying and instead take your frustration out on trying to be the best dad you can, finish work if you have to but don't ever give up on your kids, get them into biking, do stuff with them, why should they suffer? you will only regret it if you dont bother. 😐

guys - I think some of you have rather got the wrong end of the stick here.

Sharki is not asking anyone to put him up and feed him - he is offering to work for his keep.

Don't criticise a man until you have walked many a mile in his shoes.

He's offering his services as payment in exchange for food and shelter Elfin.

There is a bit of smug self righteousness, bit of envy perhaps, brewing under this one. could be a tasty thread! Perhaps he's not even allowed to see his kids. perhaps he wants to live in a cave. Perhaps he's bonkers. Perhaps he's amillionaire. Who knows.

If you fancy it we've a load of decorating that needs doing in Wokingham, bit of painting, bit of tileing, lots of food and Swinley is down the road in return!

Who knows indeed..

" TandemJeremy - Member

guys - I think some of you have rather got the wrong end of the stick here.

Sharki is not asking anyone to put him up and feed him - he is offering to work for his keep.

Don't criticise a man until you have walked many a mile in his shoes."

are you for ****ing real! you daft ****ing shit! why should his kids suffer for his selfish needs? i have kids myself with an x, and would'nt dream of leaving them for a selfish dream i have, if i didn'nt see my kids every other day they'd never get out of the house! there mother takes them nowhere, they're both now mad on biking and i feel so proud of them! you dont half talk some ****ing shit sometimes tj! you make my blood boil you ****ing dick!!!1 👿

shaggmeister - do you know sharki and his situation?

Don't criticise a man until you have walked many a mile in his shoes

Just 'cos you are full of angst and guilt.

Steady on now...

i realise if i'm to live, i need to feel alive and too that i need more than a few weekends away, perhaps a holiday a year and the rest of the time struggling in a job i hate, in a place i despise.

I dare say most folk feel this way. THe vast majority don't have the option to simply go walkabout though.

angst and guilt"!!! why would i have that you stu[pid ****er!!!!! have you no kids or are you just a selfish **** like him!!!!!!!! 👿

BINGO!! This one will run n run I fear. I suggest letting the guy speak for himself.

Yeah, pity this ain't a Monday Morning thread, or it could run for days.

Now, how long before Godwin's Law is invoked?

if i wanted to i could do what the **** i wanted!, but because i really care about my kids i would'nt dream of leaving them, i understand some people can'nt see there kids for what ever reason, i've been there, but with a lot of perseverence, i got through it all, theres no excuse!!!

are you for * real! you daft * shit!

I say again - do you know the man and his position? Because unless you do you do not have the info to judge him.

I have met sharki a couple of times but I know I don't know him well enough to cast judgement on him. So until I do I give him the benefit of the doubt and as he has been generous towards me in the past I will be generous towards him

Did anyone watch that tv program where some vicar did something similar to this? (the wandering thing, not calling TJ a "**** shit" obviously)

He was a cheating bastard who relied on his dog collar and camera crew to bounce the unsuspecting and camera-struck into giving him stuff when sans dog collar and tv crew they'd have told him to piss off

That program really irritated me - don't be like him.

I like this thread because it has Tj quoting himself quoting someone else already! and it's early days!

if your coming up past the midlands(leicester) and fancing laying a patio and path give me a shout and we can come to an arrangment 🙂

Yes, nobody is in my situation and i hope none of you ever try to take your own life.

If you have, then perhaps you can begin to know what it feels like.

So i managed to stop myself, 3 times in fact, to prevent a 4th and maybe final time. Instead i walked away from the situations that forced me to take drastic and near fatal actions.

Hey! i've sat here for 2 hrs typing a reply in this box, trying to word it in a way you can understand, to put my point across, however..

I know this place too well, to many critiques and experts on everything.

In short my feelings are thus.

For 38yrs i've felt like a caged animal, only being let out on occasions but under the curfew of society and governmental rules, having a routine, being part of the system, well it broke me, i didn't fit in.

When i walked away, i had all the control, no schedule, routine to keep to. I didn't have to be somewhere at a certain time, instead i had all the time i needed.

When i met someone, i didn't have to rush off, i could tell them stories, mend bikes, listen to their problems. Every meeting was a pleasure, every place appreciated.

I had no illness's, flu, no headaches, panic attacks.

Why not? Was it because i wasn't stressed and was so relaxed?

I had time to meet and spend time with amazing people and see amazing things, i walked over 700 miles and never got angry, rarely felt really stressed, needed to raise my voice or cry.

And all without means to depend on money, guaranteed shelter, luxurys.

If that's what it takes for me to be happy what right does anyone have to make me be unhappy?

Sharki, ignore the petty minded fools.

YOU know what's best for you at the moment. Good luck in your travels.

I'm not sure you're doing the right thing and I don't want to be encouraging you, but I've seen enough people living the wife and two kids, mortgage and mowing the lawn on Sunday morning life to know that I couldn't put up with it. I'd have walked out years ago.
I'm in the Wyre Forest in Worcestershire, somewhere on the border between a conventional and an alternative way of life.
If you happen to be passing this way, call in.

Sharky

If you are in the S of France this winter then pop over the border into Liguria, Italy.

I have spare apartment where you can stay in exchange for some trail building help...or driving the shuttle bus...guiding even...

Ciao e buon passegiata

Oh dear - all very judgemental. Room at Inners in exchange for a bit of decorating.

I'm with the MTFU crowd on this one; part of being a grown up is doing stuff that you don't want to do, like getting a job, like accepting responsibility, like looking after children.

[i]If that's what it takes for me to be happy what right does anyone have to make me be unhappy?[/i]

I suspect blaming other people for your unhappiness is not going to help.

Anyway, you have a great time, we'll still be here, doing the shit that you're not doing.

I do not know you Sharki, but do what you have to do mate!

I do agree with some of what you have said about being part the system, it stinks!

If you need some bike bits or anything else, and i have something you need you are welcome to it (email in my profile).

People have helped me out in the past, so i always help others when i can. 8)

HI Sharki - have a wicked time mate.

To be honest I'm of the belief that he's more use to his kids alive than dead, maybe one day the wanderlust will go but the choice between seeing his kids grow up and living on the road would never be an easy one to make and to me he's clearly had a long time to consider his options and his choices are his to bear.

I say again - do you know the man and his position? Because unless you do you do not have the info to judge him.
I have met sharki a couple of times but I know I don't know him well enough to cast judgement on him. So until I do I give him the benefit of the doubt

This little pearl of wisdom came from TandemJeremy the very same man who only a couple of weeks ago was rather active and very spiteful on the Elbry threads, a man, I suspect, Tandemjeremy has never met.

For what it's worth if Sharki wants go off on a big wander and his kids/family etc are all happy with it then as far as I'm concerned so be it, but can we not have anymore of the Howies style justifcations for it please?

richiethesilverfish

Its hardly the same situation. Sharki is not claiming things that are clearly untrue

[i]I say again - do you know the man and his position? Because unless you do you do not have the info to judge him.

I have met sharki a couple of times but I know I don't know him well enough to cast judgement on him. [/i]

and you also don't know him well enough to know what he's really thinking.

i know shane well enough. i'm not going to discuss my thoughts on here as he knows them.

No I don't aleigh - which is why no judgement.

then you need to get under the surface to understand why, not just encourage the situation

Don't save up to go travelling like the rest of the world would...

...and, without meaning to be cruel or judgemental, don't worry about paying anything towards the society that you exist in, the sanitation, the healthcare, the education, the legal system, the searchers who spent time looking for you..

It's fine, we'll take care of all that while you find yourself.

(I'm aware that this is coming across in a less than pleasant way, but it's meant as a kind of antidote to the 'Yeah man, you go and find yourself dude-ness above.)

To be honest I'm of the belief that he's more use to his kids alive than dead

Amen to that. Not everyone is wired up the same, you can't just tell someone to MTFU and take it all because there are so many unknowns to a persons psyche. Having read Sharki's posts its obvious he cares enough about his kids and life to choose a longer path back to happiness. So to all the people who think he's just copping out or whatever take a look at your own kids and think to yourself, if you just couldn't cope anymore and felt like ending it wouldn't you do everything in your power to remedy your situation by any means necessary?? Sure it seems harsh leaving your kids and opting for a nomadic lifestyle but in years to come his kids will be pleased he was man enough to accept a life that worked for him and didn't leave them fatherless.

Sharki - we've never met, but we have a vague connection - you used my 24/12 place last year when I couldn't make the event.

MrNutt sums up my view best. Plus the world would be a very dull place without people realising that the daily grind is not for them. There's plenty of room for a few people to live a little differently.

Doing your own thing, being happy and passing on this happiness to your friends and family through letters, emails, phone calls and occasional visits seems to me to be far better than carrying on in a situation that has taken you to some bad places.

Whatever you end up doing - good luck.

[i]Sure it seems harsh leaving your kids and opting for a nomadic lifestyle but in years to come his kids will be pleased he was man enough to accept a life that worked for him[/i] [b]and went walkabout while someone else paid for them and fed them and brought them up and wiped their noses and disciplined them and made their school dinners and washed their clothes and read them stories and bought them sweets and tucked them into bed and helped them to become people.[/b]

Fixed it...

[i]So to all the people who think he's just copping out or whatever take a look at your own kids and think to yourself, if you just couldn't cope anymore and felt like ending it wouldn't you do everything in your power to remedy your situation by any means necessary?? [/i]

yes, it's called getting professional help, something i know about

and went walkabout while someone else paid for them and fed them and brought them up and wiped their noses and disciplined them and made their school dinners and washed their clothes and read them stories and bought them sweets and tucked them into bed and helped them to become people.

Fair point, but what would you do in his shoes?? Carry on your life as is and end up killing yourself or blissfully anaesthetised at the bottom of a bottle, either way being of no use to your kids. Maybe leaving your kids is the same as that but you can come back when you're able and still be a part of their lives, better than nothing.

I know about professional help too and it worked for me, what i'm saying is everyone is different and surely we cant judge a man for finding his own happy medium however selfish it may seem to the rest of us.

Sharki - my Mum and Dad i am 100% sure will welcome you in the cottage in teh Peak. Dad is a carpenter and needs some help as do the laydeez of the village. Give me a shout when you get up here. Unfortunately our house is now a little full 🙂

Fair point, but what [s]would you[/s] did I do in his shoes??

Gritted my teeth, took my medicine, went back to work, acted like a grown up, paid my taxes, paid for my children.

Sorry, but running away and leaving the rest of the world to the job that you should be doing is wrong.

****less dads are ****less dads, whether on a council estate or a mountain bike forum.

If I were you sharki, I'd bite nasher's hand off, That's an offer of a lifetime right there ^^^^^^^.

Oh and ignore the negativity on here, I'm sure you will anyway.

[i]Fair point, but what would you did I do in his shoes??

Gritted my teeth, took my medicine, went back to work, acted like a grown up, paid my taxes, paid for my children[/i]

same for me

edit - it's not negativity

Well I'm glad that worked for you. I'd second what The Doog and trailmonkey said.

Sharki I'll pm you my contact details over there

[i]I'd second what The Doog and trailmonkey said.[/i]

if you don't have kids and haven't suffered with depression you would