I've no worries , she told him exactly where to get off and that he should stay away for a long time for obvious health reasons

Thanks for all the advice Ill make a decision tonight.

the multiple best man idea is good, but weve kind of done it before. There was 3 of us, we had a brain wave during the church service that we should come bearing gifts like the 3 wise men and one of use had to run to the nearest tescos, we got them BOLD, frankfurters and Murr-malade!! (it got a laugh during the speech anyway!) 🙂

Wedding aside, I would wish your ex best man all of the best in adopting. It can't be an easy thing to do and he and his partner may have had a lot of hurt trying to have a baby up until now.
I'd find it difficult to hold this against him, it probably means a lot to him.