Being single

Anyone else just can't be arsed doing anything about it!? I've got two dates this week, both smart, funny and attractive women but I'm just not bothered. It seems too much like hard work compared with seeing friends, going out for food, the gym, riding my bike etc.

I actually think having quite a stressful job is dampening my desire to make any sort of effort after work, excepting the above mentioned easy and familiar things.

Ironically I'm 32, would like to settle down and definitely want children sooner rather than later.

I've got two dates this week, both smart, funny and attractive women but I'm just not bothered

time for a gay phase ??

or learn to love yourself but please keep the curtains closed during…

Sounds fine – you're not desperate so when you meet someone you'll be ready.

No point in spending time doing something you don't wnt to.

I can send you 2 kids if that helps. 13 & 11 don't eat much 🙄

Same boat mate.

I've been on three dates in the last two months, one im still talking to and will see what happens.

How did you meet them? I met two from internet dating sites and it just weird. There always awkward pauses and the situation always feels forced and un-natural.

try eating some viagra before you go on the date – its like dating when you were 18 again

at least you make it to date stage…I havnt had a date in years 😳

MTB_rossi – one's from an internet site (embarrassingly it was my mother who begged me to join up because she's desperate for me to find someone!) the other is a friend of a friend.
I agree with your comments about weird and un-natural. But that aside, I just wish I had more enthusiasm for it!
I think Cynic-al is right. I'm not desperate so when I do meet someone it'll be easy. It's probably the pressure from others thinking I should be dating etc.

can definately relate to the stressful job part…. think the trick is finding someone with an equally/more stressful job than you, they dont tend to blabble on about inane stuff all the time, are just as up for chilling and doing nothing and equally understand when you want to get out on your own 🙂

Jonah – not a good idea! The little fella hasn't lost any of his enthusiasm!

The trick is not to think you 'have' to do anything. If you're having fun dating, good for you, if not, stop trying so hard, who cares? Being single isn't inherently wrong.

The pot of suitable avalible women must get smaller each year you get older. After all age takes its toll on the body and the brain.

Do something about it soon or you'll end up with a haggered, mad old cow. Or alone

The pot of suitable avalible women must get smaller each year you get older.

I have found the reverse – as I get older I find older women more attractive, but I still like the younger ones too :o)

Do you find that you the older you become, the less tolerant you become of people in the whole dating thing ?

Or perhaps its just me…! 🙂

Do you find that you the older you become, the less tolerant you become of people in the whole dating thing ?

no 🙂

I have found the reverse – as I get older I find older women more attractive, but I still like the younger ones too :o)

this is true. I wonder if it reaches a peak at some point? or do you think when you're in your ninties say, you lust after any female including the 'old dears'

Mounty73- I'm just less tolerant of everything. Being newly single after 6 years the thought of jumping through hoops and putting up with all the bs of dating makes me think I really can't be bothered with it. My only regret is i didn't dump the silly cow sooner- might be a few anger issues and transferrence going on here!

Penrod – I sincerely hope that was tongue in cheek!

Mounty – I agree, but it's not my tolerance causing me problems here, I'm just not fussed about getting out there, whereas my family/friends think I'll be stuck on a shelf if I'm not careful!

I do agree about the older woman thing, the last couple have been older women… 🙂

I think dating is what you make it, it can….. and should be fun, otherwise why bother, but then that should apply to most things in life, IMO.

simonfbarnes – Member
I have found the reverse – as I get older I find older women more attractive, but I still like the younger ones too :o) I'll **** anything.

😀

nature's beer goggles 😆

I have found the reverse – as I get older I find older women more attractive, but I still like the younger ones too :o) I'll **** anything.

do you mind ? Speak for yourself! I'm very selective :o)

the last couple have been older women

2 at once ? Respect 🙂

2 at once ? Respect

If only…………….it's what dreams are made of……zzzzzzzz

I'm in the same position as the OP. Had a few dates over the past couple of months but just dont seem that bothered about it – although the idea of 'meeting someone and settling down' does appeal in many ways!

You're an unhappy toad OP and you want to marry and have kids?

Do you want to be depressed forever? be happy first!

BTW how did you meet these two ladies?

Meeting someone and settling down is appealing?
Err what appeals? being a grump and married???

Where is the STW romance and bliss/soul mates etc?

Presses lever of toilet… 😆

Well, I'm going out with a preety, inteligent ( as far as I can tell) girl tonight… I just got a text from a few friends who are going to ride a skatepark after work… It says alot that I thought damn, I can't ride, I'm going on a date… I'm just not fussed at all really at the moment, although at the same time, I think 2 years is long enough being single…

do you think when you're in your ninties say, you lust after any female including the 'old dears'

If I can remember what to do with it in my 90s I'll be chuffed!

I'm just not fussed at all really at the moment

I pity your date 🙁

or do you think when you're in your ninties say, you lust after any female including the 'old dears'

I think that will rather depend on their (and my) physical condition 🙂

There's definitely nothing wrong with being single and I agree with simonfbarnes, the older you get the broader the range of attractive women seems to get.

The way I look at it, is that I have plenty going on in my life and I'm really enjoying everything I've got going on. So I'm not going to spoil that just for the sake of meeting someone else's social expectations or to fulfill my Mum's grandchild quota.

Life's to be enjoyed – not to fit in 😀

Haha, me too…

Frankenstein – hang on, I never said I was unhappy or depressed. I'm a very happy and content person who loves their life!

I was simply asking if there's anyone else out there that isn't particularly stimulated by the whole dating thing but does actually like the idea settling down.
From the other responses I can see that a few others empathise with what I'm saying.

Lyons/Lexiekay – exactly how I feel!

jimmer himself – Member
There's definitely nothing wrong with being single and I agree with simonfbarnes, the older you get the broader the range of attractive women seems to get.

The way I look at it, is that I have plenty going on in my life and I'm really enjoying everything I've got going on. So I'm not going to spoil that just for the sake of meeting someone else's social expectations or to fulfill my Mum's grandchild quota.

Life's to be enjoyed – not to fit in

Rightly said!

OP so you're happy!

just not excited about dating but still happy-then go and enjoy yourself but make sure these women want the same thing or you'll be dating women who want to get married etc

Tick the box that says fun! but you never know where that will lead!

You'll have to post how the dates went and if you're scored!

My friend (a girl) gave my number to one of her mates she worked with, who's a 42 year old care worker from the Phillipines. lol. Now im being text stalked. I've not replied but its getting annoying.

Where is the STW romance and bliss/soul mates etc?

Got this text from my girlfriend this morning who had just seen yesterday's ride pics:

Hi – I loved the photos. You really must be happy with the opportunity to be riding in so beautiful a place and freely.

There really wasn't much dating involved at all – just hit me out of the blue, but its worth hanging on in there till you do meet someone special 😀

Who cares what your family & friends think? If you don't want to date, don't do it. It's your life, not theirs

Having said that, I wouldn't know where to start if I found myself single again. Down the gym I think…

not to fit in

I quite like the fitting-in part :o)

I can send you 2 kids if that helps.

Well I can do that plus i'll even throw a wife in for nowt if you like….

Jimmer himself – my sentiments exactly!

Frankenstein – I appreciate your comments about letting the women know, I'm definitely not out there to lead people on! I've got a date tonight, I'll be sure to let you know tomorrow how it went!

Maybe it's because the last few dates I've gone on have just been a bit poor, so I'm expecting them to be like that, whereas when I went on a first (blind) date with my last gf it was great fun and we ended up seeing each other the next night… But to meet someone like that again I have to put some effort in…

It sounds to me that you aren't ready to settle down, even though you think that's the case.

I met hubby when I'd really had enough of men and decided I'm going to go out and do all the things I've ever wanted, that's when it accidently happened, miles from home in California.

And yes he settled for a mad old cow. 😉