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No probs here. Had mine done in Jan. was back on the bike a week after with no complications. Very small aching but no issues. I did bang my balls on the seat on last nights ride (need a dropper) but ok this morning. Just waiting to check my load for any swimmers then I can shoot freely without worry.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 2:44 pm
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2 years ago almost to the day. No majors for me other than the urologist doing it running late and me having to make her count to 5 before she started. My quips and jokes didn't really get any traction either.

I was really sore about 4 days after but it passed in a day, no majors since. Occasional twinge but it all works fine. I did see a noticeable uptick which sounds like the exception, just don't tell my wife ...


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 3:49 pm
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Had mine done 25 years ago , bit of pain for a day then back at work the next and on the bike pretty soon after .

This doesn't sound too good

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20 years, no issues, no pain to speak of, back on the bike in a week.

20 years and still not back on the bike 🙂


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 5:53 pm
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So what you're saying is, it didn't really make a vas deferens?


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 5:59 pm
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Had it done a few months ago.

Op went great. I guess. I found myself more than usually squeamish with someone poking a miniature scalpel around inside my nutsack.

Great, that was, apart from the post-op infection I developed in the right nad. Size of tennis ball. Had three flavours of antibiotics before it was halted and reversed. Any further and it would have been into hospital as the infection was spreading outside the nads. Still, that can happen with any operation.

Small amount of on bike pain for a month or two, just a bit achy after 30+ minutes in the saddle.

And then sometime later, the trip to a cheerless side room of a not very close by hospital, with a folder of "adult material" to supply a sample.

Otherwise all as per promised, and it's now open season on rumpy pumpy.*

Although I do get the impression that doctors underplay the post op effects. And the frequency of long term pain.

* no, wait, we still have two nippers running around the house - so actually nothing has really changed...


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 6:07 pm
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So what you’re saying is, it didn’t really make a vas deferens?

Good work 🙂


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 6:15 pm
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Been thinking about this on and off for a few months now and bottled it.

Who went NHS or private? And if NHS how long did you wait?

Seriously thinking of just cracking on with it so going to book an appointment with gp but it will need planning around work for the op. My time off this year is already accounted for and I really don’t want to be at work in pain/distracted.

Also, how long before you can get back to it? Obviously still chance of pregnancy if not careful at first/until all clear given. Do you have to wait a certain amount of time?


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 7:00 pm
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I went NHS, but my local NHS Trust outsourced it to Marie Stopes anyway - so quite a long wait to get to the top of the NHS list (few months) but then one day I got a letter asking me to phone to make an appt, and after that was just the same as being private.

Or at least as private as it's possible to be when you've just walked, naked from the waist down*  across the room under the gaze of three strangers, climbed on to a table, and then a nurse has just pulled your cock and balls through a hole in a sheet and is now merrily painting them (yes, with a brush) with iodine solution.

* but leave your socks on dear, the floor's cold - great look!

As I said afterwards - after that they could have done what they wanted as long as they were quick, accurate and didn't make eye contact.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 7:35 pm
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Funnily enough I’ve just been on their site and it actually says you can ask your GP to refer you to them in some areas.

£500 private. There at least.

Timescale and flexibility will be key for me so. Need to book in with GP and start the ball rolling.

Awkwardness will be high I’m sure.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 7:52 pm
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No regrets here either, the pill had started disagreeing with Mrstaxi and other methods weren't really satisfactory ☹ so a no brainer really.

"Mine was fine, the only side-effect being that I can’t have children  

“But if what you meet the right woman?”

If she wants to have kids with me then she’s not the right woman…"

Just curious on this. Did you have it done on the NHS ? I got the impression that they weren't keen on doing vasectomy's on single men without children. My consultant wanted to see Mrstaxi and the whole thing was very much a joint enterprise.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 8:23 pm
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No problem with mine about 15 years ago.  Only regret is I had it done after having a child and not before.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 8:36 pm
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Had mine done last Thursday, proccedure was ok, a bit uncomftable but nothing too serious. Post op Thursday wasnt too bad, Friday was ok, saturday was fine... Figured that I should "clean the tubes" so to speak as i was curious if id see blood. And if jt all still worked. Thankfully it did and no blood 😀

Coached mini rugby on sunday morning and man do i regret the little running i did. My right nut is waaaay more bruised than the left, and did not appreciate being bounced around an under 7's rugby pitch.

Nowhere near as bad as it could have been, radio 2 playing ace of bass, all that she wants (is another baby) as the doctor was just about to make the cut however wasnt needed.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 9:05 pm
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Taxi25- I had mine done on the NHS at age 30 and childless, wasn't single, had been with the same girl since 21, which was when we started asking but despite neither of us wanting kids they wouldn't do it. Then when at age 30 we moved to Scotland they said yes. No idea what changed.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 9:19 pm
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Done on NHS 25 years ago. Tender for a week. Otherwise no issues.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 9:29 pm
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flexibility will be key for me

Usually it's rigidity that's preferable. 😜


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 9:30 pm
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Then when at age 30 we moved to Scotland they said yes. No idea what changed.

Didn't want to risk more English people?


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 9:31 pm
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They [i]did[/i] seem keen now I think about it. Actually I'm not even sure it was [i]me[/i] that asked [i]them[/i] now.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 9:50 pm
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Need to book in with GP and start the ball rolling.

Any balls start rolling and the cut was too deep.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 10:20 pm
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@matt_outandabout and @Sandwich

Veey good, I guess I walked straight into those!

Talked with missus not long ago. She’s not fussed either way. Neither of us want more kids though. Seems the best way forward to me.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 10:29 pm
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20 years, no issues, no pain to speak of, back on the bike in a week.

20 years and still not back on the bike

Took me a while to see what you were getting at.

But yes, I'm really looking forward to it. They say you never forget.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 11:16 pm
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Had mine done 16weeks ago and now waiting to get the all clear letter.  No regrets what so ever.  I took it easy for the first 2 days and then went back to normal work, but not lifting much.  I booked a weekend at BPW for 10 days after the op and had no pain on a bike what so ever.  I did have a small crash on 50 shades and feared for my sack, but all was good.  I had no swelling or bruising at all and no issues 16 weeks down the line.


 
Posted : 20/02/2018 11:26 pm
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My consultant wanted to see Mrstaxi and the whole thing was very much a joint enterprise.

Let me get this straight.  Your consultant wanted to see your wife regarding your vasectomy.  WTAF!  Surely, your reproductive rights are yours alone?  If as men we can’t oppose the abortion of our own child (Pro choice for women BTW.), what the hell has a choice men make about their fertility got to do with their partner...?  I’m all for consideration and making a joint decision, but the consultant had no right to check.

In the opposite situation, when my wife had a caesarean, she was asked if she wanted to be sterilised - no one checked with me.  Not that I think they should have - but it should be a level playing field.

Strewth!


 
Posted : 21/02/2018 12:30 am
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"Let me get this straight.  Your consultant wanted to see your wife regarding your vasectomy."

Yes he certainly did. As far as I know it's still the same. The whole process was us being seen as a couple, and it being a joint decision. For me it wasn't a problem because it was exactly that. But I get your point I've never heard of men being involved with their partners sterilisation or hysterectomys. But perhaps their more often done on medical grounds not just as a means of birth control.


 
Posted : 21/02/2018 12:52 am
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3 years ago and no issues and was snowboarding ten days afterwards. Knocked one out the afternoon of the op too. 😉


 
Posted : 21/02/2018 7:57 am
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My consultation didn't involve mrsmonkfinger. The consultant did ask a few variations on the question "what if you or her want kids in the future".

Not sure how they would have rolled if we'd been childless or if I was single, but I'm with jamj on this, my nuts my choice.


 
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Vasectomy any regrets? - yes, I wish I had it done when I was 18 years old


 
Posted : 21/02/2018 2:45 pm
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Knocked one out the afternoon of the op too.

Good effort. I hope the op had finished by the time you did that though


 
Posted : 21/02/2018 2:48 pm
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Testosterone slightly increases after the op actually.

6 years or so here, no problems beyond a day or two of discomfort and ribbing from the Mrs along the lines of its nothing compared to childbirth

All clear took ages as they kept losing the samples. I feel sorry for the courier mainly.


 
Posted : 21/02/2018 3:02 pm
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My time off this year is already accounted for

Don't you get time off for hospital appointments, rather than having to book it as leave?


 
Posted : 21/02/2018 3:14 pm
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Who went NHS or private? And if NHS how long did you wait?

NHS, although the procedure was done in a different GP surgery on a private basis, the 'theatre' looked like a broom cupboard.

How long did I wait? From getting the nod to the knife going in was 5 days, I remember being told and being a bit shocked, I was hoping for a nice long NHS style 6-8 week wait to get used to the idea... shame.

Getting the okay took months, it's not terribly efficient - phone up GP "I'd like to be neutered please" okay, you'll need an appointment - 3 weeks.

3 weeks pass...

Walk into surgery "hello, what can we do for you today" "I'd like to be Neutered please" Okay - 5 min chat about it, easy to do, hard to reverse, NHS won't reverse it, blah blah blah. Come back with your Wife so we can all chat about it.

Another 3 weeks.

Wife and I both walk in - "what can we do for you today"... okay, they'll make the referral to the guy who actually is going to do the biz.

Another 2-3 weeks, this guy knows why I'm coming - although he nearly turned me away, because I'd got the sign-off from the wife at the previous meet I didn't think she needed to come - he asked me 3 bloody times to confirm yes my wife knew I was getting it, no I didn't want any more kids (I didn't want the 2 I've already got) yes I've got once of each so I wont come back crying because I want the full set - finally he agreed to do it, only because my wife would be coming with me to have the op and actually made a note to remind him!

5 days later - bosch. Done.

As above, yes, you pretty much have to have your partners permission to have the op, it really annoyed me, if the roles were reversed there would thousands marching the streets with pitchforks and torches, but I guess that's the way it is.

As for the post-op test. I had to 'produce' a specimen and get it to the hospital before a certain time, 10:30 I think, gave me a few hours, no need to race across town with a tube of jiz in my pocket. I drove in a rather relaxed way actually, I don't know why... I was meant to give to specimens a month apart and despite promising I would, the Mrs took the piss so much I didn't bother with the second.

I'm not sure if it's different for private clinics, but you're not actually allowed to produce a specimen on-site, not in South Wales anyway. They don't have a Masturbatorium on-site and it causes all sorts of legal issues if you pop to the toilet to bang one out.


 
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So what you’re saying is, it didn’t really make a vas deferens?

Well done, not sure how you pulled that off..

I had mine done 4 years ago, no real issues with the procedure but still occasionally get an ache, like I've just been punched in the balls. It can last a few minutes, a few hours, a day sometimes, no apparent rhyme or reason, I also know surgeons who won't have it done.


 
Posted : 21/02/2018 3:21 pm
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I'm surprised about about the amount of people who have been asked for wifes consent, this seems very old fashioned and unfair.  My GP ask if I had discussed it with Mrs but that was it.  We do have three kids so I wonder if I would have had more of a grilling otherwise


 
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I wonder idly whether age makes a difference - you're more likely to be asked "are you really sure?" if you're 20 than if you're 55 maybe?


 
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We do have three kids so I wonder if I would have had more of a grilling otherwise

I have three kids and had to get my wife to sign off on mine and attend a "counselling" appointment.


 
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I’m surprised about about the amount of people who have been asked for wifes consent, this seems very old fashioned and unfair.  My GP ask if I had discussed it with Mrs but that was it.  We do have three kids so I wonder if I would have had more of a grilling otherwise

Agreed.

The 'sold' to me as a chance to let you both know all about it, but I learned when I turned up alone that really they want sign-off from both parties.

The reason they gave to me was that a reversal was painful, difficult and not always successful (success rates are as low as 30% in some cases) so they want you to be sure, but then went on to say that it wasn't available on the NHS and "we've had Men come in to have it done without telling their partner" so really they want you both to be sure.

Like I said above, I can't imagine having to pop along with the Wife to give my consent for anything, nor should I have to.


 
Posted : 21/02/2018 3:49 pm
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I’m surprised about about the amount of people who have been asked for wifes consent

I was about to suggest "tell them you're gay" before realising the flaw in that argument... 😳


 
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I wonder idly whether age makes a difference – you’re more likely to be asked “are you really sure?” if you’re 20 than if you’re 55 maybe?

Yes it does - I don't know if there are hard and fast rules, but when we went for the consultation age came up a lot - I was nearly 40 at the time, two kids and still broken from the last one (who was under 2 at the time) so that was fairly straight forward, my wife was only 33 though, I think she was asked "are you sure" more than me.

I couldn't prove it, but if you turn up at 20, no kids you've got no chance of getting it on the NHS.


 
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It should either be available for everyone on the NHS or not.  If they are going to have an age restriction, then it should be just a straight yes/no based on your birth date.  Counselling sessions and interviews shouldn't be part of it.

They are not the ones to decide based on their own moral judgements.

I think one knows themselves by the age of 30 - this could be a good line in the sand.  If you want to get it done after that, then that's up to you, not the NHS, not your spouse, not some random bod in an interview room.


 
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Mine swelled up and was not much fun for a couple of weeks but it eventually went down and I’ve had no other issues. It’s not exactly the most pleasant experience of my life but it is a way from being the worst. The anticipation was worse than the actual event. Makes sex way more straight forward and the good lady doesn’t need to be pumping herself full of birth control and we don’t need condoms. So it’s a double winn


 
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Had mine done about 3 years ago. Soon enough after our second was born. Not that there's anything wrong with him but we knew that 2 was a good number.

I walked like John Wayne for a couple of days but I had kenoids removed from my ballsack at the same time. I had the tubes tied and a good section cut away. I was sure I was done wanting babies and wanted to avoid any need for a second op or having a surprise baby.

Riding a motorbike to the hospital was a bad idea. I could ride it home, just putting a foot down was pretty sore.

Within a week I was on the mountain bike.

I think worst part was handing over a 'cup' to the nurse for testing post-op.


 
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Regrets - no but it was a thoroughly unpleasant experience. The procedure was ok and carried out at the local health practice by a nice chatty doctor and a nurse. As I hobbled out of the room the nurse said “don’t worry, it’s not as bad as childbirth” which was nice and things went downhill from there.  It was extremely painful from the get go but I thought hey my balls have been cut open so this must be normal - how foolish.  After a week of shuffling about in extreme pain I went to see the gp - let me see the she said, oh that’s normal I will give you some antibiotics to deal with the infection (my plums were well plum coloured and heading to buster gonad size). After another day things got worse and I could fry an egg on my tackle and my penis had just about disappeared- I went for a second opinion with a different GP - the look on her face! I’m ashamed to say I haven’t had that reaction by anyone looking at my manhood before and I basically got rushed into hospital for an emergency operation to remove the infection and stop the bleeding. On the plus side I used to be quite body shy but my testicles were quite a draw to all the consultants, doctors, junior doctors, nurses and anyone else on the rounds - Don’t care anymore. Me balls now are a strange shape due to the surgery but all good and happily sperm and pain free 5 years on!


 
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I have three kids and had to get my wife to sign off on mine


Writing on a rounded and wrinkled surface is quite a feat.


 
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bag of pigeon decoys

I want, no, NEED to know what this means....

The only miserable part of the process was having to knock out a sample while locked in a small hospital room a few weeks later.

What's it like? Consistency the same? Build up/Intensity? Same feeling of loneliness and self loathing?


 
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There happened to be a gun shop on the way to the hospital, just two random events on the same day.


 
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Writing on a rounded and wrinkled surface is quite a feat.

Depends what size the pen is.


 
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