[Closed] Trust?

I'm encouraging him, and anyone angry on his behalf, to put the personal slight to one side, take a step back and breathe.

I definitely misunderstood you so my apologies also.

Indeed sage advice.

I still find it impossible to believe that there is a malicious snitch, I'm rather more inclined to believe that it's an innocent interraction that's been misinterpreted.

That's my hope anyway

I still find it impossible to believe that there is a malicious snitch, I'm rather more inclined to believe that it's an innocent interraction that's been misinterpreted.

Yeh that's my thoughts, just part of a general conversation, not a specific phone call from the parent police to say [i]"We have been informed by one of our agents that your child was found to be crying on the way to school this morning. Daddy tried to hide the evidence by wiping away the tears. Before we launch a formal investigation please interrogate your spouse for an explanation. Please do not reveal the details of this conversation to your spouse."[/i] Or something like that.

Edukator - Reformed Troll
How would you know, I don't communicate it on here
You do, regularly.

You might want to examine your notes that you keep on people in internet forums and post up the evidence.

I dont deliberately discuss my relationship on here with a view to me or anyone else forming an opinion of it.

With all else in hindsight Im grateful for Graham S advice as i believe its most appropriate. But yes, i do wonder how as an engaged and loving father someone else feels fit to "report" this based on what they know about me. The view ive been given is that the comment was not mentioned in passing, but a specific phone call was made to my wife asking the question.

I see no reason why the person in question could not have asked me the same question while inwas presumably a maximum of 20ft from her.

At the same time im upset that my actions have caused my son to be upset. Hes quite sensitive and i come from a background of poor relationship with my parents, which I dont want for him.

An apology will be forthcoming for the way I expressed my emotion with him, together with a clear explanation of why I felt his behaviour wasnt appropriate.

I'll forget the ladies in the playground, again based on Graham S perspeciltive.

I don't need notes, but if you really want examples I'll trawl your posting history.

What did you think of my constructive suggestions then, Kryton ?

Good man Kryton.

Glad my own misadventures could lend some perspective to yours.

At the same time im upset that my actions have caused my son to be upset. Hes quite sensitive and i come from a background of poor relationship with my parents, which I dont want for him.

Have a man hug buddy - being a parent is hard, being a dad particuarly so. We all fail at some point but your motives and aspirations are what count.

I see no reason why the person in question could not have asked me the same question while inwas presumably a maximum of 20ft from her.

To be fair the parent may have been in a car driving away and couldn't stop, they may have had to rush off to some important engagement - gym session or a latte with a friend perhaps 🙂

Perhaps they were just phoning your wife to say 'saw <insert name here> crying this morning, just wanted to check he's okay', rather than 'that terrible husband of yours has been upsetting <insert name here> again, do you really need any more justification for turfing him out.'

And to be even fairer to them they've probably heard about those gas guzzling cars you dream of buying and don't want any drug dealer/gangsta wagons lowering the tone 🙂

Have a man hug buddy - being a parent is hard, being a dad particuarly so. We all fail at some point but your motives and aspirations are what count.

Here here. Group hug?

No, I'm not that type. Believe it or not I'm blue/green on the spectrum - a passive negotiator and don't enjoy confrontation.

That's only because they were the available colours on a ZX81.

Children cry all the time because children. The whole wife's friends spy network is a bit scary though. What else could they be watching you doing? Is nowhere safe for you? They are the real questions here 😯

I can't believe that someone would call the mum simply because she saw the child crying when he was with the dad. Surely there must be more to it than that?

The view ive been given is that the comment was not mentioned in passing, but a specific phone call was made to my wife asking the question.

Johndoh there isnt, like I said i cant think of any reason why any of the mums that know my wife - and me - would do that.

You could have just let the lad keep the £20 !

Did you use the old ' I'll just look after this for you' and spend the folding on sticky buns with your cycling mates?

This place is slipping. In 5 hours no one responded to:

dirtyrider - Member
^^ this, however the chance of my missus answering an incoming call on her mobile is approx 50000000/1

With:

She does to me, when you are out

Seriously though, I would be annoyed at not being trusted with the name of the person who reported you to Mrs K. I also agree that nastily some people like trying to sow discord in others relationships and equally like the gossip this could give rise to. I've seen it all too often at the school gates and it is despicable.

Ive spoken to Mrs K and the kids anyway - on the phone as im working til 8.30.

Seems she bumped into said lady on the train whilst taking my daughter to a show, and the comment was a "was junior ok i saw him crying on the way to school this morning..." so perhaps not malicious.

Junior is fine, has had a good day and is looking forward to his last day at school tomorrow out of uniform.

Ive explained to Mrs K that the tone of this mornings explanation did not help my interpretation of events. Although thats now resolved, i have also just clicked that the timing isnt great at this point of the month - i dont mean that disrepectively for any ladies reading this, but its a potential factor.

Ahhh good.

All is well in the world

Seems she bumped into said lady on the train whilst taking my daughter to a show, and the comment was a "was junior ok i saw him crying on the way to school this morning..." so perhaps not malicious.

See there you go. No intended slight towards your parenting at all, just one mother hen clucking to the other, letting her know she's looking out for her chicks. 😀

All meant with love and the best of intentions - even if it caused you grief.

GrahamS - Member
It's a type of maternal virtue signalling contest that I just can't get involved with. Nice as it is.
Yep, broody mother hens all clucking away, reassuring each other that they are all watching over the chicks.

It's a nice thing. Sign of a good community.

You can understand why they don't want a cock messing it up.

That said - who knows, maybe they were driving by in their Chelsea tractor and saw it and couldn't stop. Maybe they didn't think anything really of it but then were talking to the wife about tomorrow's prosecco and Ann Summers party and [b]the new range of magnetic devices[/b] and mentioned it in passing?

So everything was alright and this was just a little bit of everyone not communicating properly and/or jumping to some conclusions? Like normal life?

Well, that's very disappointing.

I was rooting for you to confront the other woman and scream abuse in her face. I don't come here for everyday tales of normality, you know.

Nah. I reckon Mrs Kryton has stolen the OPs login details and poor Kryters is currently under the patio.

Aha, good to hear all is well.

Well, that's a lot more positive. Excellent stuff.