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A disgusting schmaltzy insincerity designed to shift flowers, chocolates and hotel rooms that should be banned for the good of humanity ?Blokes only drag out the flowers when they have misbehaved or are about to, so at least it has that going for it.
Women are easy to please just listen to them, talk honestly and don't be a ****, buying flowers is the cowards way out.
Oh yeah and edit to above, they drag out the flowers etc when they want to do something they have seen on t'internet.
Not that you're bitter, right? Good! Because I'd hate to think that you'd tar all men with the same brush hels. 🙄
Does it feel like a match made in heaven?
Well the first 3 months were great, then she got flu, which meant no romance for 2 weeks, just a continuous supply of tea and drugs.
Then things were fine again, then I mentioned that I'd applied for a job in the midlands, and she went ballistic about how I'd made the decision to move to the other end of the country without even telling her, etc etc etc.
Then things calmed down (I just told her to her face she was being utterly unreasoble) and everything was great again.
Now she's determined to drag me away on a holliday I've absolutley no interest or enthusiasm for. And keeps saying "I dont mind where )or when) we go, you chose" then every suggestion gets met with "hmmmm, no" because she want's to go on a seaside holliday to a chavtastic caravan park in March!
and...?
He obviously wasn't doing something else quite right. IF I'd done that for a girl she'd be feeling so [i]romantic[/i] I'd need a sh1tty stick to fend her off.
thisisnotaspoon; Best is to find her a chav, introduce it to her and send them to that chavtastic caravan park in March.
They live happily ever after.
On a serious note, I think you need to be honest to yourself.
She doesn't sound like an inteligent, reasonable person to me.
If something like this would've happened to me, I'd probably would've said goodbeye.
Romance is different for everyone, but for me it's making time for each other, remembering why we fell in love in the first place and making sure our relationship is always fun.
I don't need my bloke to buy me flowers, it's enough that when he goes to the shop he buys me a chocolate bar that he thinks I'll like. He finds new ways to tell me he loves me and if he ever thinks I look good, he'll tell me.
It's the little things that matter 🙂
"Then things were fine again, then I mentioned that I'd applied for a job in the midlands, and she went ballistic about how I'd made the decision to move to the other end of the country without even telling her, etc etc etc."
This is an impossibility as the midlands are in the middle on the country.
Thisisnotaspoon : Do you really think you've got a future with this girl? Doesn't read like you have to me.
Romance is very different for me, Spouse isn't on that wavelength but on the odd occassion he's bought me a book that I've loved and an artisan piece of jewellery. I don't seek materialistic gestures but it's the little things that matter when you least expect them, like the time he bought me my current bike! Ok, someone will say thats materialistic, but it was to make life a whole lot more comfy! He thinks I'm romantic tho' as I made him a gallon of Piccalli, he loves that! A labour of love?
Thisisnotaspoon - sorry to be blunt but you are not crap at "romance" your lady is just not a nice person.
Kit - I'm not bitter, cynical and realistic, the rose petals fell off my eyes many years ago !
southern yeti - I didn't say what I did after I had had my peace and quiet 😉
Well then Ms Alpine, you've confirmed that my simple brain just doesn't understand women haha!
TINAS - sounds like you have fundamental differences there.
Some while back Cosmopolitan did a survey to find out who women thought would be the best England goalkeeper. They found that most women preferred Seaman to Flowers.
Just a thought.
I once let a "patient" of mine gnaw halfway through her restraints before replacing the ball gag. She had beautiful eyes, I think they may be still around here someplace?
MrNutt - I hope you were singing;
'I wanna know what love is, I want you to show me....
Personally, romance is definitely not about being given gifts (unless there has been real thought behind them) (or it's a new DH bike ).It's more about being made to feel wanted....so to be grabbed and kissed passionately in public, brought a cup of tea in bed in the morning, being allowed to be who I am without criticism....that's romance for me.
I think we must be twins!
Definitely not typical 'romantic' stuff like flowers and chocolates and not necessarily large gestures. A look, a word or a touch can be romantic especially if it evokes another past shared moment that meant something between you. Being made to feel wanted physically and spiritually, attractive and valued for who you are are the elements that need to be captured for something to be romantic.
*sighs* When can I get me some of that?
Leaving yourself wide open there jojo - this is STW 🙂
.... I'm in a relationship.... *sighs again*.
Hey this is my thread and you've started making me think about touching twins! I'm trying to escape my smutty past and become romantic and maybe even a bit sensitive. You've just ruined a day of good work!
For now though I'm more than happy to [s]grope[/s] grab twins public or private I don't mind!
For twins, I'll even drop the no relationship rule, how's that for romance?
Romance is NOT about giving flowers. MrfC used to give me flowers after a fall-out and then they would just sit there for a week reminding me of the row.
Romance is not about giving wine and chocolates; it's more about remembering the exact favourite bottle.
[i]Well the first 3 months were great, then she got flu, which meant no romance for 2 weeks, just a continuous supply of tea and drugs.[/i]
Are you mistaking romance for sex??
Being looked after when you are ill and look and feel like sh1t can feel really romantic.
One of the most romantic things I find is that MrFC can choose the exact book I would like to read. He knows exactly what I'll enjoy.
Romance is a shared look of naughtiness when the kids are around. It's about still holding hands walking down the street after 15 yrs of being together.
I think that romance is like beauty; it can sometimes only really be felt by the receiver. So when MrFC buys me a book he just sees it as practical, whereas I see it as quite romantic as he has taken some trouble and made me feel really special.
Romance, as many others have said is different things to different people.
For a friend it would mean the whole slap up meal, flowers and a gift on Valentines day.
Myself, just a walk or mtb ride in the countryside with him leaning over to kiss me when looking out over a hill at a favourite beautyspot would make me quiver at the knees.
I'm a big old romantic at heart, and my favourite thing is notes. I've left them in her purse, behind her credit card so she finds them when she's at the checkout, in her dressing gown pocket, in her makeup bag. I've sent her off to work with some lunch in a tupperware tub so when she opens it she sees a note saying "I love you more than lasagne its self"... things like that.
She tells me it's romantic because it makes her smile when she's busy or feeling tired and fractious first thing in the morning.
And I put toothpaste on her toothbrush if i get up first...
And I've just broken up with her and I'm utterly devastated. Romance f*****g sucks.
Romance is getting off the bus or train and seeing your partner there waiting for you- when you didn't expect them to be. (that's never actually happened to me but it's something I can dream about..)
The 'sweetest' things my ex did for me were buying me a chocolate pudding. or cookies at a reduced price. he also once gave me a flower that someone had left stuck on his windscreen.. I was touched by all those gestures. I don't consider them romantic, but they told me he was thinking about me when he wasn't with me
nope, although there was none of that either!Are you mistaking romance for sex??
Being looked after when you are ill and look and feel like sh1t can feel really romantic
nope, eventualy resulted in me getting an earfull for doing the housework.
And I've just broken up with her and I'm utterly devastated. Romance f*****g sucks.
🙁
miaowing_kat - from those comments you come across as remarkably low-maintenance!
Shibboleth - maybe she heard about the little cute client doing some overtime for you and flicking the kettle on?
for me it's when a guy is really thoughtful, makes me feel really attractive and who will do anything for me....not to the point where i walk all over him i hasten to add 😉
Tribalchief, that was long before she came along. Weeks in fact...
the one thing i've learned from this thread is that women really ARE obsessed with chocolate.
CK - I wouldn't claim to be low-maintenance at all.. Whilst he might not have been romantic, he was always there for me in a crisis (of which there were many)
The fact that he bought me a burger and chips for my 21st birthday doesn't matter. and besides, the quickest way to my heart is food 🙂
Romance - pah! 😆