So have you spoke to the mother about this?
dont hate you I pity you for your hatred and the hurt you carry with you
I can see why you attacked me though rather than reflected. I doubt anything i say will help or appear as anything other than a goad but it is not meant as such
Umm lol im a lesbian, men are something i try and keep out of my life.
You could have a go at fixing it - if you're prepared to jack anyway you may as well try. You never know, it might work.
So, the daughter plays the 'tantrum/rude' card, you play the 'I'm leaving' card and mum/gf plays the 'floods of tears' card. It sounds as though you all have something important to say to one another but none of you are saying it. I think you should call a family meeting and have an open and honest talk. Tell each other what's really going on, cry, shout, be sad, angry - whatever but for goodness' sake SAY what's on your minds.
If it's not sortable then you can jack knowing that you tried. Good luck ,
Umm lol im a lesbian, men are something i try and keep out of my life.
There's a difference between being a lesbian and a man hater.
I am a man hater but the lesbianism never seems to gain the traction I would hope for.
There's a difference between being a lesbian and a man hater.
lol well maybe im a lesbian man hater. 🙂
I want to make it clear im a lipstick lesbian..
Yeah it's ill sort it and again nowt happens. Back to same old. Spoilt bratt springs to mind. And I'm the mug helping fund it.
But shouldn't it be both of you, not just her, sorting it? I mean, does your partner let you tell the daughter what is what? And if you do, does she stand by what you say?
If so, what's the big deal?
If not, then you should talk to your partner alone about how you feel and about how you need to be able to tell the daughter what is what and she needs to learn that you're her step-Dad and what you say, also goes.
I want to make it clear that I'm a manwhoring he-bitch
maybe im a lesbian man hater.
FWIW I knew you were a lesbian what with the thread about your girlfriend. I dont care about your sexuality but hatred is never a good thing and i challenge your hate just as I would challenge someone who hated homosexuals.
hate is a strong word
hate
Bad grammar is surely worse?
[s]h[/s][b]H[/b]ate[b].[/b]Bad grammar is surely worse?
I would have use proper grammar if I had wanted to make that point.
I want to make it clear im a lipstick lesbian..
Isn't it a little more complicated than that?
Peoples sexual orientation or life choices is none of my business, but by hating half of the human race you're in no position to call anyone a bad human being.
I'm with Hora.
Not *literally*, mind.
And when I say I'm with him I more or less mean I'd like to be man-whoring he-bitch but for some reason it never seems to happen. 🙁
My problem is I don't see myself as a step dad not because I don't want to I just think. Well I'm not your dad so it's not up to me to tell her she's doing it wrong.
Maybe I'm getting stressed over nothing.
My problem is I don't see myself as a step dad not because I don't want to I just think. Well I'm not your dad so it's not up to me to tell her she's doing it wrong.
How long have you been together ?
My step dad did lose his rag once when I was being extremely rude to my Mum. Never caused any issues, I was being an idiot 🙂 To be fair, I think it is within your remit to say it. If your partner was being treated like that by a stranger ,wouldn't you say something?
Over and above that, her Dad is not the only significant male figure in her life; it's not really about rights, you have the opportunity to show her a bit about how to treat other people. If her Dad is a waste of space, then you should be a more positive role model.
Over and above that, her Dad is not the only significant male figure in her life; it's not really about rights, you have the opportunity to show her a bit about how to treat other people. If her Dad is a waste of space, then you should be a more positive role model.
This.
Dads a dick, mums previous boyfriends have all bailed. Don't you think maybe its time that cycle was broken. And maybe you're then man to do it. Not everything is as we would want it. You need to talk to your partner. Tell her what you're thinking. Explain how you feel and tell her what you think should happen.
Buy a house together if that's what you really want to do. At the minute you're some bloke who lives in her house and sleeps with her mum. Her living in your house is an entirely different story.
If so many blokes have left and let her down why should she listen to you. You're just going to do the same. Prove her wrong. Break the cycle.
Maybe your partner would be glad of you interjecting a gruff "that's a little out of order" when it next kicks off. (NB this may not be to the teenager, so choose your moment carefully as you need to support the partner first!)
Being in your partners home also puts you on the back foot when it comes to cleanliness issues as it is subliminally "not your house".
Keeping my daughter and wife civil for years. Teenage daughters can be vile creatures 8)
Just Bail out OP... You know you want to 😉
