Don’t do any of that, it will just make things worse
A few observations as a parent of 2
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Ignore the STW hardmen saying they would ‘knock him out’ that’s insane and typical of this place
Kids need calm and consistency and love, nothing else. I grew up in a house that was full of shouting, threats of suicide from my mum. Multiple hidings and even being told off for making a mess after my brother stabbbed me.
All of my sisters went on to be in relationships with men who abused them. And my brother ended up in psychiatric care.
The cause of this was that there was never any peace, quiet, calm, quiet conversations or love. Rules changed every day without notice. And stuff that would be let go one day would catch you a hiding the next.
As a parent , the amount you influence what sort of person your children turn into can never be underestimated.
Be the type of parent you needed as a kid
We have a lovely daughter who since starting puberty is sometimes a massive pain in the arse. This makes me and my wife feel like shit parents. However, because we are are still together we have the benefit of being able to parent together.
You are in what seems like a worse situation and are not able to co-parent with his mum - who seems like she is pretty awful to you anyway. So you feel like a shit parent and can’t work together to tackle it. I imagine she will be trying her utmost to take advantage of the situation based on how you say she’s behaved in the past.
So of course, you feel like a shit parent. You sound to me like a good parent. Setting boundaries and establishing standards of behaviour, taking steps to address poor behaviour and quite clearly caring deeply about the situation and your son.
YOU ARE NOT A SHIT DAD!
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+1. I'm a parent btw.
Kids need calm and consistency and love, nothing else
I was told this about puppies, but I think it's true of children as well.
It's not easy being a parent.
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Dunno about that. Nyour average 13 year old is capable of producing a spring or two, seriously doubt they'd have !uch to offer as parents though.
Equally a child psychologist/ social worker without offspring are probably going to be sources of pretty good advice. Would you trust a doctor who hadn't actually had the disease you've got?
Otherwise, you give pretty good advice. Kids also need boundaries and structure.