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Posted : 15/05/2017 11:05 am
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willard - How can it go from "She's the one", pregnant and then completely over in 6 months? Surely you can try something to fix it?

I've been put in a difficult position. I could change, could choose to become what she wants in a person, but it would be a lot of hard work and would mean changing my personality. It would also be changing for her. She's said she wants me to change because I want to, so I'm in rather a catch-22. It just seems that there would be a lot of compromise on my part and relatively little on hers.

Nickc, we'd been courting for a long while before we got together. II told her a lot about me, but because I have never really pried into people's pasts (figuring they'll tell me if/when they feel they want to) never really found out much about her. The trouble is, she wanted me to ask so that she felt I was interested in her. I just never picked up on that.

Yes, I know that the kid will be a hook into me. But, it's going to be a person and I need to support it.


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 11:47 am
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You can't change your personality :/

What with the obsession with narcissists Ed? There are plenty of other disorders that cause people to behave horribly/weirdly.

What's ever worse is that narcissistic parents raise narcissistic children.

As well as co-dependents and real screwed-up messes.


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 12:01 pm
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Not to the extent that I think she wants. I've not asked her to change in that way, so it's an odd compromise to make.


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 12:03 pm
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The Hot Crazy Matrix reminded me of this:

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between Men's and Women's brains[/url]


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 12:17 pm
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Crickey, very worrying. I'm going through a divorce at the moment and when I read things like this I start to think that perhaps buying a boat and going sailing would be a much better idea than trying to get back on the dating scene again.


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 12:24 pm
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What with the obsession with narcissists Ed? There are plenty of other disorders that cause people to behave horribly/weirdly.

There's no obsession. The umbrella term to encompass these toxic personality disorders is 'Cluster B'

Crickey, very worrying. I'm going through a divorce at the moment and when I read things like this I start to think that perhaps buying a boat and going sailing would be a much better idea than trying to get back on the dating scene again.

Learn the red flags. Lack of empathy, grandiose and entitled attitude, extreme charm and (superficial) confidence. They're easy to spot when you know what to look for.


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 12:32 pm
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The umbrella term to encompass these toxic personality disorders is 'Cluster B'

Is that where the term 'cluster****' comes from?


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 12:35 pm
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@edward2000 thanks, some good reading in the link above. Definitely some common traits.

@willard Chin up dude.


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 12:43 pm
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Learn the red flags. Lack of empathy, grandiose and entitled attitude, extreme charm and (superficial) confidence. They're easy to spot when you know what to look for.

Well that's put the dampers on that lady on fitness-singles that has just agreed to meet me !

Can the type and number of selfies they take be used for diagnosis of disorders ??? Plus categorising yourself as "very attractive".

There are a lot of women with seemingly huge levels of confidence on these dating sites, judging by the way they describe themselves.


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 1:27 pm
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That Hot Crazy Matrix reminds me of Archer...


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 1:40 pm
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Lack of empathy, grandiose and entitled attitude, extreme charm and (superficial) confidence.

Ohhh, you've met my soon to be ex wife then.

Problem is they suck you in and you only start to see their true side after you are well and truly caught up in it all....then you spend years wondering how this happened and how you can survive it....


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 1:42 pm
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^ abdolutely. And nobody can really empathise about the emotional damage they cause unless they have experienced it themselves. It does get better through, the key is knowledge as knowledge is power and with the benefit of hindsight it's the best thing that's happened to me.


 
Posted : 15/05/2017 3:09 pm
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Lack of empathy, grandiose and entitled attitude, extreme charm and (superficial) confidence.

That's CFH down to a tee, isn't it...

😉


 
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