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Just curious what other parents on here do about pocket money for their kids.
My daughter is 11 and is really chomping at the bit for regular payments of cash being handed out to her. At the moment she has any birthday money she receives to spend throughout the year.(Although some of it is put into a saving account)
If I take her shopping I give her some cash to spend for herself. I tend to buy all she needs, and sometimes things she wants! 😉
Now I know she has to learn how to take responsibility for money etc. I'm not sure about the whole paying-for-jobs-to-be-done-around-the-house thing as I do expect the kids to help out for free!!
(I think I'm really struggling with watching my hard-earned cash being chucked at Claire's Accessories every Saturday! 😯

So...any advice really welcome.
I'm totally open-minded about this so am really looking to find out what others do.
Thanks in advance.
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Posted : 20/09/2009 11:26 am
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My Daughter's 10 next month and she gets £1 a week , so does my son who's 7 1/2. Most of their friends get about the same.

We also put £25 a month into a savings account for each of them but they only use this a spenidng money for holidays (about £20 for a week).

Both of them tend to save for things they want rather than buy stuff but they're a bit younger so I've probabl;y got that to look forward to.

I agree completely about them helping out for free around the house


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 11:34 am
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hmm i was thinking more like a fiver, at least that'll buy her a pack of fags 😉 why not do something fun rather than house jobs but also teach her something, so say scrabble or maybe she could do 100 star jump to get the cash


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 11:46 am
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My 10yr old daughter gets about £1 a week,it's not set & some weeks she gets more,some weeks nothing.My teenage lads just get their phone contracts paid for(£20 a month each),but htey hve to do paper rounds for their own money...
Everyone helps around the house as & when it's needed,they all moan about having to do it though.......


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 1:11 pm
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Our 12 yr old gets a fiver
It's maybe a tad much but I never got any as a kid so could be compensating a bit, I dunno


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 2:14 pm
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My 10 & 12 year old daughters get a fiver each a week, but it is made clear that if they have 'pocket money' then they don't have any more spent on them that week, so if they need school stuff, or clothing they get jack. They also do as their told around the house, that's a given, no incentive there, they know they have to do as their told.
They are much to much into fashion for their age though, & spend unfeasible amounts on things like bags (£70 for a school bag anyone?), but I guess thats part of where we live, & thats my fault rather then theirs.


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 3:18 pm
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They also do as their told around the house, that's a given, no incentive there, they know they have to do as their told.

When 2unfit2ride is around 😉

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Posted : 20/09/2009 3:36 pm
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My 8 yr old gets a fiver and I expect several chores done for the money, room clean and hoovered, helps with the dishy, takes his own clothes to the washroom etc. Failure to do chores loses cash as does bad behaviour.

Works well. A quid really doesn't buy much these days, IMHO a fiver is a good incentive.

Having said that I tend to be a big soppy thing when it comes to the boys.


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 3:45 pm
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No need to hide around the back of the sofa, I'll find them regardless, so that would be a waste of time ;o)


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 3:47 pm
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At 13 my parents told me if I wanted money to get a job, so I did. Most valuable lesson ever.


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 4:03 pm
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alwyn...I too had a Saturday job at 13.
BUT my kids are younger than 13 and I really don't think they'd find any suitable employment!! 8)


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 4:05 pm
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Yeah that is true, maybe small payment until then. In fact it might even be until they're 16. Apparently it's pretty hard to get a job at 13 now.


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 4:17 pm
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When my daughter was younger (27 now) we gave her weekly pocket money and she also had 'her' family allowance (as it was then) as soon as we drew it for her... (I think it was paid once a month ?) cannot remember now.
It worked well, as we also obviously brought her clothes and paid for any other school bits and bobs that were required..
But she always had money in her purse.. (and she saved)


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 4:46 pm
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at the age of around 13, I got £20 at the start of each month. it meant that we had to manage our money for the entire month and didn't buy snacks or sweets because I wanted to save it up for something special.

we didn't do anything particularly for it - helped out around the house, doing dishes, mowing lawn, hoovering, keeping tidy etc. we would have still done those things even if we didn't have pocket money though. no way would we cross our mum!


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 7:04 pm
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Well, I think a pound sounds a bit tight really. It wont buy you anything to be honest. I was allways bitter, as that is what i used to get, whilst my mates all used to get at least 5 pounds. WHich meant they could go to the cinema etc when they wanted, but it would have taken me 7 weeks to have enough money to do that.

Im (luckilly as im only 22) not a parent though, so my opinion isnt really valid


 
Posted : 20/09/2009 7:29 pm
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My two nieces get £3 each per week (12 and 11 yrs old) - they get that from their nana. Their mum and dad don't give them anything, although they are spoilt rotten at birthdays - they got iPhones each this year, but still have another phone as they 'can't take the good phone to school'!!!!


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 8:25 am
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Wow, is £5 a day the going rate?

*Wanders off to look at vasectomy brochures


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 8:32 am
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oh the pain of trying to mountaibike on pocket money:

i want a rockhopper (400 pounds on a bike, thats insane!) = a year and a half of saving to get about two hundred quid before the parents cave in and top up the rest

ive broken a wheel = aaargh, ive only got twenty quid, thats another two months of saving before i can ride.

a whole summer of paper rounds at 11 pounds a week got me enough to buy a specialized mountain man helmet

thank god for mbuk stickers and lizard skins for cheapo pimping.


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 8:34 am
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i want a rockhopper (400 pounds on a bike, thats insane!) = a year and a half of saving to get about two hundred quid before the parents cave in and top up the rest

ive broken a wheel = aaargh, ive only got twenty quid, thats another two months of saving before i can ride.

a whole summer of paper rounds at 11 pounds a week got me enough to buy a specialized mountain man helmet

Well done, kid, that's the spirit!
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Posted : 21/09/2009 8:47 am
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My eight year old can earn £3 pound a week. 1 for keeping her room tidy and putting her dirty washing away. 1 for putting her fresh cloths away and another for not leaving a trail of her clutter through the house. It took a few weeks for the penny to drop but now I have a easy life and she has money.


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 8:51 am
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a year and a half of saving to get about two hundred quid before the parents cave in and top up the rest

Get around to your neighbours & see if you can pick up some odd jobs - careful of those frustrated housewives mind


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 8:57 am
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I used to get £1.something a week, but anything worthwhile was paid for by the parents, eg cinema tickets, bus fares, dinner money, clothes (invariably from matalan) etc.

I'm 23 and didn't buy a anything with a recognisable lable untill I was 22! Although saying that primark/matalan jeans/t's etc are a false economy, the t's shrink and fall apart, the jeans just dont last. TK-tothe-MAXX baby!

£2-£3 a week, linked to housework sounds fair. I got £5 a month mowing the neighbours lawn (it did take a whole afternon though!) and got a job when I was 16, no point pretending you were a hard pressed yorkshireman on your way to your first million by the age of 13, there are pretty much no jobs below that age (can't work with machines, money, school days, and the minimum wages are shockingly poor even if you do find a job you can do, if your working alongside someone earning 2x what you are for the same job, and they get fag breaks, it doesnt give you a good impression of work!)


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 9:18 am
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My two (7 and 8 ) get a fixed £2 on a Friday. They get this whatever, but if they've been naughty or refuse to help round the house (if it's needed) then it is revoked.

Occasionally, we will pay them to do more unusual jobs around the house (especially if they are saving for something worthwhile or we're going away on holiday).

It works well, and if we have withheld the weekly payment on the Friday, then they have the opportunity to earn it back through good manners and behaviour over the weekend.

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Posted : 21/09/2009 9:27 am
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On a related note, a couple of my son's footy team get a 'prize' of £5 per goal that they have scored.

I can't believe that they do this - some of them are earning about £15 a week! I think paying your kid to play a game they like is warped somehow, but it would be nice to get paid to ride my bike.....

Ben


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 9:32 am
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think the going rate is £1 per cart of coal hauled or bag of loom lint removed...


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 9:36 am
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I give my 12 year old son £25 a month (just gone up from £20) and his gran gives hime £10. His mum also gives him a fiver a month for keeping his room tidy, etc.

He does save most of it though, saved up last year for an ipod touch in fact. So it does give him a sense of what money is worth.

And I got **** all when I was a kid so I'm happy to 'spoil' him.


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 9:41 am
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Can find work at 13?

Some people still have Chimneys you know! 😉


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 9:42 am
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When I was little, many moons ago my brother and I used to get 50p or something (can't really remember) but we also got a raise every birthday. 10p on your own birthday and 5p on your brothers. Would consider something myself once the need arose. Relied on doing your jobs on the jobs list (polish school shoes, empty bins, hoovering etc) but if we were saving for something specific (and big) we could usually get away with saving/earning half and parents matching it.


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 10:25 am
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When my daughter was 11, I opened a child bank account for her, and pay her pocket money directly into that. It means that she has to actively take money out if she wants to buy anything. She’s been quite happy to let it mount up, and pays her birthday and Christmas money into her account.

She’s now 14, and gets £30 a month, plus £30 clothes money. She buys all clothes except school.

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Posted : 21/09/2009 10:47 am
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Can find work at 13?

Paper round


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 10:57 am
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I got a quid for every year of my age given to me on a monthly basis to budget with until I was sixteen and at collgege thirty miles away whereupon I got £50 a month to budget on- buy clothes, lunches etc.

Alowing for inflation maybe £2.50 for every year of age paid monthly?

To be honest I still use the budgeting it taught me now with all my monthly DD's coming out on the same day and a big online food shop being paid for having built it up over the previous month which has me living off £150 a month for any other expeindture such as dinners at work or bike bits.


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 11:12 am
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I can't remember the figures for pocket money however when I was a kid from the age of 12 I had to buy EVERYTHING I wanted except for things relating to school (uniform, pencils, bags etc). I think it started about £8 a week (Not sure though as it was a while ago.. 30 now!). I was expected to do certain chores around the house for free, tidying up room/washing/drying dishes/laying dinner table etc. However I had the opportunity to earn extra by doing other chores every now and then, mowing the lawn or washing the car.

I remember the first thing I ever saved up for was a Tom and Jerry furry rug for my bedroom when I was 8, I remember it was £8 and took me a good few weeks to get the money. When I had enough Dad took me there and I was so chuffed I could afford to buy it, Dad even mentioned to the guy at the shop I had spent weeks saving so he gave me a 50p discount! I thought I'd well lucked out I was so chuffed!

At 13 I got into MTbin and spent 18 months saving up for a Kona Fire Mountain which at the time was £400! went to buy it so super excited and Dad surprised me saying since I'd saved the money he would put £100 towards the cost! So it taught me the value of saving up and then was rewarded for making the effort by a bit of parental support. 16 years later I still have that Kona ... on it's last legs not but so much sentimental value there.

I am a firm believer it makes kids aware of the value of money and think my parents taught me some valuable lessons. At 16 I got a christmas job in BHS on £2.11 an hour doing 16 hours a week for maybe 6 weeks in run up to Christmas. Didn't stop me pis**ing a lot of it away on booze at uni and getting an overdraft! however I certainly worked my butt off after unit to get rid of it and certainly value money now and not wasting it!!!

I don't have kids though but it's worked out well for me.


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 12:09 pm
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I had regular pocket money from much younger than 111 but reallly small amounts. Raised with age and after my parents knew what I was doing with it - ie if I saved it or used it for something other than sweets.

a 15 the money went up greatly but I was expected to buy all closthes and so on with it.

My guess would be to start with a couple of quid and see how it goes - increase it if she uses it well.


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 12:42 pm
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Our 2 (7 & 12) get a mix of the above.

12 Year Old - £5 per week paid monthly. But it is school and home behaviour linked. If he manages to get £20 then he also gets £10 top up for his phone. He doenst have to buy his clothes unless he wants somehting specific. It pays for CD,s sweets cinema etc.

7 yr Old - £4 per week but he gets the option each week to have the cash or "mum to hold onto it" he has invariabley worked out that the returns of leaving it with mum are far greater!


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 12:48 pm
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I started working in a bike shop aged 13, can you say child labour...


 
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I had two paper rounds and got butt all in the way of pocket money. I did get paid for doing jobs round the house, but they were always the ones that my mum hated.

Usually things like cleaning the oven or valeting the cars - mum was very pernickity though - everything hoovered and polished - all the windows cleaned on the inside etc...

Stepdad once paid me a fiver (untold riches!!) to climb into the tiny spaces in the attic and fill them with fibreglass. My hands itched for days but I spent the cash on a couple of Miniature Russian hamsters, one of which immediately killed and partially ate the other.

[/Monty mode on]Oh the joys of youth[Monty mode off].


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 1:32 pm
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£30 pocket money + £30 clothes money per month at 14!!!

That's
a) the disposable income I had at uni to pay for bike parts, beer and clothes, i.e. everything after rent, food and utilities.
b) as much as I earnt doing an 8hr a day Saturday job at 16!

Even allowing for 8 years of inflation, do you not think that's a lot?

Then again I never bought a walkman, diskman, pogostick, yo-yo, tamagochi or pokemon card instead i saved up for about 5 years to buy a laser dingy for £250 matched by another £250 from my parents at 14, and a Honda CG125 with £800 of my own money saved form about 2 years of saturday jobs when I was 17 (toped up with another £500 from selling my moped which was bought by my parents).

I always thought my youngr brother got more than me, and;
- he has destroyed 5 mobiles, i've still got my original nokia somewhere and the upgrades were generaly forced by technology/networks.
- he's crashed his scooter multiple times, parents picked up the bill for the repairs, then he sold it.
- he's broken 3 creative Zen's, in that time i'm on my first secondhand 5th gen ipod i bought in my 3rd year of uni.
- he's now asking for an ipod touch for his birthday

On the plus side they just sold me their car for a bargain price, despite me offering to pay the full ammount they'd advertised it at (which i actualy though was on the low side already!). On the downside my brother will still get a new ipod, he will break it, he will get a new one next year as well. And they'll buy him a car at some point, he will crash it, be skint, and they'll pick up the pices.

I'm just saying................


 
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They should update the prodigal son bit in the bible with your story Spoony.


 
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I give my 5y.o. and 3y.o. a pound each per week to put into their purses. They don't know what a pound's worth, or what it buys, but they both really enjoyed having a tenner each from Grandad for their holiday earlier this year and are enjoying putting it into their purses and saving up for something they want.

In return, the eldest has to 'keep her room tidy' (ie: don't get all the toys out all the time, and help to put them away at bedtime when asked) and they are both expected to 'make their beds' (another token effort will do here of course) and turn their night lights off in the morning when they get up. Just like the long thread of training a 5 monther's parents not to pick her up every time she cries, I believe that at 3 and 5 they don't particularly understand the value of money or what it buys, but the concept of helping around the house and being rewarded for it does mean something and will help them to understand better when they are older.


 
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(on the down side, if I leave my loose change on the side in the kitchen it's not just my wife that raids it for car park money nowadays)


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 2:11 pm
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£100 a month into a long-term saving account. Any money from grandparents etc goes into another saving account and is used for holidays, books and stuff. She also gets £10 a week from me - but that has to pay for a horse riding lesson and for juice etc. when she is at the Riding for the Disabled Association 3 or 4 days a week.


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 2:21 pm
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Thanks all!
So TJ...just how old are you exactly? 😉 Really glad to hear you got pocket money before hitting your century!!!

Think I may well start the child bank account and put some money in every month. If she has to actually go and get it out herself she may think twice about blowing it on rubbish!! There again, she may not...

8)


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 3:53 pm
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Never used to get pocket money. Things like cds and cinema etc used to get paid from birthday and christmas money.

Used to get a pound a day for dinner money in secondary school, eating cheese, rice and salad cream everyday for lunch meant I could save 3.75 a week - woo hoo!


 
Posted : 21/09/2009 4:22 pm