[Closed] No kids & Having the snip

I don't know what age you are Houns but do you really need to do this?

Surely DIY is easy, couple of bricks and a stiff drink.

36 and yes.

If you go with Footflaps idea (and why not) mind you thumbs or you will not get the desired effect but half flattened nads and sore thumbsI had to convince them it was a good idea as i looked young back then and 3rd daughter on route!even the cats are female ... i look a lot older now 🙁

I had heard that you need some sort of counselling if you're under 40.

Poor fella

I'm just wondering if they'll refuse to refer me as I don't have (and don't chuffin' well want) kids

Hmm, I need counselling for many things but not for this 😆

Could you not just put it off for a few years? It's a huge decision and, in this life, one never knows what's around the corner.

I wouldn't do it. I nearly backed out of mine, despite having 2 kids. The guy says to me: "are you sure about this", and I'm "yeah, of course, the wife and I have discussed it and-"

"Wait a minute" he says. "Your wife? What does your wife have to do with it?"

"How do you mean?", I said.

"Well", he says, "she might not always be here, despite what you think. What if, for example, 2 years from now she dies, and you meet someone else younger. How would that person and you feel about your inability to have a child?"

It really sat me back, and meant I had to go and think about it for half an hour. In the end I went through with it. But with no kids- why?

I've known 20+ years that I don't want children. My mind is certainly made up. You're right that you don't know what's around the corner, and by having the snip I'm ruling out one nasty surprise

I'll get my shears...

I wouldn't progress any relationship with anyone that wants kids. If they did then they certainly wouldn't be the one for me (and I certainly not the one for them)

*unzips*

(You're fine with just a pair of nail scissors)

That's a pretty strongly-worded statement, why so anti?

cinnamon_girl - Member

Could you not just pull it off for a few years?

it would keep him occupied, certainly 😉

sorry CG my modification of your post was how I read it at first

You can get it done privately if the NHS are insistent on counselling etc. ~£400 at Marie Stopes for instance

yeah had it done about age 35, no questions from the doc, referred me to the local NHS hospital and all was straightforward. the wife and I always knew we didn't want kids so it wasn't a tough decision, certainly easier than my wife going through the whole sterilization procedure.

cinnamon_girl - Member
That's a pretty strongly-worded statement, why so anti?

Where shall I start?! Actually I won't, I'll leave it at that

Thank you Oz, just what I wanted to hear (thanks woody for mentioning that option too)

That's a pretty strongly-worded statement, why so anti?

Why so pro? Let the man hack his junk.

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we've no kids and have no plans to have any. It's a bit late for us anyway. Mrs DD not keen on me having the snip, although I'm happy to. I've left it up to her...
I understand the OP's thinking 100% regarding kids.

yup done it at 40, GP was fine, few questions and on the day surgeon asked again, never want/wanted kids, and not thought about it since really.

same boat houns, as im sure we discussed before, always knew i didnt want kids (now stuck with two steps (19/20) after getting married a couple of years back i decided to take the plunge and was generally made aware that the GP might be a little cautious, but that with the wifes backing, it wouldnt be a NO, I was the same age you are now.

eventual stumbling block was the wife - no idea why, but shes dead against it? bought shares in durex instead which is my pension plan.

Reassuring, again thanks

That's a pretty strongly-worded statement, why so anti?

Have you see children in the flesh? Horribly snotty little things making a noise and messing everything up.

Yeah, my wife and I don't want kids.
Not gone as far as getting the snip though - in our early 30s, so things ...could.. change.

When you tell people you don't want kids - have no interest in kids even, they just don't get it. Some people get really annoyed actually! Not like I'm asking them not to have any...?

The look on their faces when I tell them must be the same look on my face when they tell me they want kids

Kids are for skids ...

It would be like having a gun and only firing blanks, no danger no point!

Don't do it!

It'll not be an issue they'll ask you are you sure they do anyway, because they should after all it's a procedure and they do get people coming back for a reversal, then they'll let you choose and book a date.

houns - sorry, I wasn't prying. Kids obviously don't suit everybody but such finality?

i wish you good luck houns.

i also have no desire to have children either (am 39).

just never had the desire to be a father tbh.

Yeah, I don't want any little accidents

I had the snip in my 20's for various reasons.
My GP was fine and didn't have any reason not to let me have it done.....in fact he did it himself.

They say you can have it reversed though not a 100% success rate.

You could always bash a few out and keep them in the freezer anyway, just in case, any excuse for a tommy......

There's no reason why I'd want it reversed/keep a stash. Want the room in my freezer for chicken dippers

I had it done at 33, after my third was born.

If you are married/relationship then your GP will require her to agree.

Paid less than £100 at a local GP's.

But single and under 40, why would you?

If you are married/relationship then your GP will require her to agree.

Had it done in my 20's. No hassle, no problems and certainly no counselling.

Me 'I want the snip, I have 3 kids don't want any more'
Doc 'What if something happens'
Me 'They are kids not animals, if one of them dies I won't be replacing them and if me and the mrs split up I will be crippled by the CSA so won't be able to afford any more anyway'
Doc 'fair enough'

Job done inside 6 weeks and I even got to choose if I had a general or local anaesthetic. General FTW!!

Good luck.

Voluntarily having any sort of surgery let alone on my bits is something I can't comprehend.
It doesn't sound as if the OP is in a stable relationship so perhaps should be using precautions.
There's a lot worse things than babies out there.

Houns, just do it. Dunno why people say 'are you sure, what if, I can't understand why people don't want kids' etc etc. I know how you feel, I've even told my kids NOT to have kids ffs!
Fekin hate kids me.

[i]There's a lot worse things than babies out there.[/i]

NO THERE ISN'T.

I'm 34 and if I could have the snip without surgery, i'd do it at the drop of a hat 😀 Don't have kids, never plan to have them, same with the missus 😆

Never bought into the whole you must get married and have kids lark!