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my dad died last year, it wasn't a major surprise given he had terminal cancer but the level of collateral damage he decided to do was unforgivable. I didn;t speak to him for a couple of months before he died and while i suppose i maybe shoudl feel bad about that quite simply I don't. I spent my whole life trying to live up to his high expectations and then found out he was a completely twisted lying evil person who had done some despicable things. That, when you live in a smug bubble of the 'perfect upbringing and family' was like a large punch in the c0ck to me. I'm a reasonably sane, rational person but this completely stumped me, i had to seek some professional help to try and talk through how I felt and not end up a bit of a basket case. I spoke to my mum at length, almost like the first time in my life as an adult and able to freely express my opinions and be me. One day it dawned on me (as i rode my bike up a very long painful hill actually) that he was a very negative impact on my life and that I needed to put that all on a box, concentrate on me, my wife and the rest of my family. Be a better person and make a lasting impact on those that i love and love me. So far so good but it was a year long voyage of discovery.
It was a good ride and slowrider came out with his bloody nice dad!
It was a good ride and slowrider came out with his bloody nice dad!
It was a good ride and slowrider came out with his bloody nice dad!
Really sorry to hear of your loss and the feelings that your having to deal with.
I'm 'estranged' from all my family and have been for 3 years and its stories like yours that makes me think about re-considering my decisions about them and getting in touch again. Cant help feeling that the emotions in doing so would probably be harder than having to face up with a death.
Was also surprised how so many on here are also in a similar situation with their families, makes you wonder....
Take care....
Epo live life with no regrets. Even though I had every right to never speak to the fella ever again I regret not showing him his Grandson.
Sorry to hear about this. Sounded like a difficult relationship which must make it hard to "know" how to feel.
Seems like you're taking it remarkably well. I will be a total wreck when my dad expires.
I will be a total wreck when my Mother goes.
No matter how poor my Mum was she has always found money (or offered help) to others.
That money should have been hers.