Oh my lord. I'm so sorry. I can't convince you it won't be hard, but you and your kids will get through this, because you are one very special dad.
Also happy to help in any way i can.
I am so sorry to read this OP, I genuinely have no words.
So sorry to hear of your loss.
Echoing the above, I am so sorry to read this, it's brought me to tears. Virtual manhugs to you and the kids
So sorry, horrible, horrible situation for your and your kids.
+1 for setting something up, No way you should be worrying about costs at a time like this.
So sorry man
where are you based?
So sorry to hear of your loss OP. Happy to chip in to a fund .
My deepest sympathies and condolences. I can't imagine what you have been going through, I hope things go OK with the kids later.
Make sure you let us know if there is anything that we can do.
So sorry to hear this and my deepest condolences. Go to the school and speak to the headteacher they may be able to help
Hug your kids and don't worry about funeral costs, i have a feeling STW will help you out with some of that burden
Look after yourself, you've held a lot of weight on your shoulders with everything, don't let this break you
Sincere condolences for your loss, keep talking and same for the children too.
So sorry gnusmus, Nothing i write can offer help with the pain and anguish you will be feeling but take solace in your family at this time.
And please try and contact the citizens advice for help regarding funeral arrangements, discretionary bereavement payments, help with funeral costs etc, it will be the last thing you want to focus on at this time but there is financial and moral help available, a friend recently lost her husband to cancer and the citizens advice were invaluable in helping to sort stuff out.
gnusmas this is awful news, and my heart goes out to you and the kids. I am not sure what I write will make much difference, but clearly stw and our little community means something to you, so I hope in some small way it will. Hugs and offers of help are here if you need.
Kids are resilient, and they will have you and great memories of her to cherish.
Hugs.
gnusmas - have I read correctly you are worried about funeral costs? I am more than happy to donate - does anyone have the link to last one we ran?
https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/junkyard-stw
Not sure if it still works. I don't think Junkyard is on here anymore.
My condolences. Like many above, I'd be happy to donate towards the funeral costs
So sorry to hear about your loss gnusmas that really is terrible. ☹️
I have no idea what to say, but just wanted to add my voice and offer my condolences; do take care.
So very sorry G. Nothing prepares you for the finality, even when you know it's coming. Kids are very resilient. You will learn a lot from them.
Go out in the sunshine somewhere nice with your kids when they finish school. I still remember the lovely sunny morning standing in the park the day my sister died, after being up all night with her.
Accept offers of practical help.
My condolences also. I'm not a particularly active poster on here but read a lot of the threads. I remember your last thread and what an amazing husband and dad you seemed. As someone else up there said, for that reason I know you'll get through this. Take your time but don't be afraid to talk about it, even to a load of strangers on the internet. The kids are important but so are you, look after yourself and make sure you're able to be there when they need you (and vice versa). Love and hugs your way
So sorry to hear of your loss and my deepest condolences.
So, so sorry to hear this. Make time for you and the children first and foremost. They're going to need their dad now.
The next few days will be a drain so as others have said accept any offers forthcoming.
Man hug.
Gnusmas I'm really sorry to hear that.
I can only repeat what others have said. Stick around. Its always nice when you enter a conversation and you've shared and offered advice to others on here going through similar problem to yourself.
I have no practical advice to give but remember to take some time for yourself and ask if you need anything.
Can't see properly for tears, but thankyou for your kind words, they really mean a lot. Emotionally i am a complete and utter wreck, physically not much better. Have picked up our 14yo, he is in bits but giving him time, the other 3 kids are being dropped off at 5.30 tonight by a friend to give me some time.
The justgiving page junky started closed ages ago, but thankyou all for your offerings again. You have been more than generous making Mrs Gs remaining time a comfortable one and a nice one, enabling us to have family time together so we have decent memories and photos at least.
Some of you already have my email address, and that is the same email i use for PP and everything else. I personally won't post it up here as i am not begging. Just needed to vent and inform you all after all your kindness before.
So sorry Gnusmas. I've been reading your posts for the last year with increasing sadness.
All I can say is that you're among friends here. And as many others have said, make sure you put yourself and your own needs first from time to time. You've been a great dad and husband and will carry on being a great dad. You may not believe it but one day, before too long, you'll be happy again.
And somebody hurry up and set up a Just Giving page. I've got £25 burning a hole in my wallet.
Sorry for your loss Gnusmus, I can't imagine how hard this is. Thoughts are with you and your family.
Does anyone on here know Junkyard?
He might be able to coordinate things.
I'm just setting up a fundraising page now, give me a few mins
I've got Gnusmas' contact details from last time so i'll coordinate with him when the times right
I'm so very sorry.
I wish I was living nearer to you to help out.
Let your friends and family help out in any way they are able. x
I am so sorry for your loss Gnusmas
Bloody awful news. Massive sympathy to you and your family. Stay strong.
There's not really any words, are there?
But, for what it is worth - I am truly sorry to hear this.
Nothing constructive to add, but sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've followed your last thread and can't begin to understand how you must be feeling. It sounds like you're a hell of a dad to those kids.I can only echo what others have said: accept help whenever you can, take time to look after yourself and trust yourself. Sincere condolences.
Sincere condolences. I will keep an eye out on this thread and offer what little help I can though I have a feeling it'll be at least a fiver 😉
Don't stop the kids looking after you too - support isn't a one way street and you'll all need it at some point.
So sorry to hear your news....☹️
Gnusmas, so so sorry to hear that. I'll donate if needed.
Look after yourself and the kids now mate. Big hugs. X
I have no words other than I'm sorry. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you.
Thanks for setting that up Spawn, I've donated.
Such sad news, con only imagine how you feel right now.
Ring Daisy's Dream, they specialise in this stuff. I've two friends who work with them and have had the misfortune of requiring their services when my Father-in-Law passed away last year and I had to break it to our boys (4 & 6). Hands down it's the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
Kids are tough but they deal with grief in a totally different way and you need to be prepared for that, you just want to sit and grieve but they'll be grieving one minute and then wanting to play football the next.
Don't forget to look after you. You'll spend a lot of time and effort making sure the kids are ok but you need to grieve too, take it all one step at a time.
Thanks Spawn
So very very sorry to hear that. These guys are really good at answering any questions, from factual advice to other support.
https://www.widowedandyoung.org.uk
Again, so sorry.
I’m just setting up a fundraising page now, give me a few mins
Nice one. I for one would not mind if we could raise more than just the practical costs, but extra to help treat the family or at least cushion the financial blows a little.
That's terrible news. My thoughts are with you and your children. Hugs
