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I am exhausted arguing ! My boy (13 years old in 10 days) Just will not go to bed without a fight !
Whilst I appreciate he is growing up, during the week he has a busy school day and homework etc. I am bored with hearing that his school mates all stay up partying until the early hours and that we are being 'Victorian' in our parenting.
What time do you, a) Send your children to bed ? And, b) What time do they GO to bed ?
7pm and 7pm for the 2,4 and 6yr old.
7 year old = 7:30pm
9 year old = 8pm
11-years this week = 9pm
All are in bed on time unless deemed a late night / treat etc. It can be a battle (eldest is worst), but worth it. All are fast asleep already tonight.
3 yr old 6.30
7 yr old 7.30
Been lucky in that never had any bed issues with ours, both go to bed, stay there and sleep through the night. The 3 yr old does get into our bed in the middle of the night on occasion but its not the rule.
Our son will be 14 in January and he goes to bed 930pm latest in the week and later at weekends. However if he is really tired he will put himself to bed earlier. Teenagers, where do they get their energy from!
9yr old at 8pm during the week and 9pm at the weekend.
NOT insisting on watching 'I'm a celeb' then !
2 yr old - usually 7-7.30
5 yr old - usually 7.30-8 depending on above
11 yr old - 9 on school nights, later at weekend if there's something particular on
Arguing? They wouldn't dare...
EDIT - UPDATE - 2 yr old has this second appeared wondering how he fell asleep at Thea's house and woke up in his bed.
16 & 14, 10:30 on a school night and whatever time they like on a Friday and Saturday. 16yo takes full advantage of this a quite often sits up to ridiculous times. 14 yo rarely lasts past 1am
My 21 month old is normally in bed by 7.15 but has been tired out and in bed by 6.30 lately.
My 7 year old gets sent to put his PJ's on at 7pm and we do stories till 8pm.
sometimes we have a later night at the weekend but only as a treat.I reckon we have another 3-4 years before the oldest starts kicking off about bedtimes.
7.30 school night can be as late as 9.00 at weekend but only occasionally. That's for the eldest (seven)
3 and 5 year olds both at 6 and they need it as they sleep until at least 6am. We have tried putting them down later but they still wake at the same time but grumpier.
OP what time do you tell him to go down? At that age I was supposed to go down at 10 but was allowed to stay up to watch the news and went to bed immediately after.
EDIT: That makes me sound like a barrel of fun doesn't it...
I am doing something very wrong I can't get mine down before...
2.5yr old - 7.30
4 yr old - 8-8.15
Little ****s are up at 6.30am. Cannot get them to regularly get down earlier. Don't sleep in the day either!
Some are easier than others, 9pm was the threshold during school years, still is, but our last daughter is a nightmare, that and the advent of pc's, Skype and tablets even when she goes up, it's a skype fest with her school chums, but if there's still any noise going on at 10.30 during school days, I get a mard on with her, she's now 16, just.
To answer. During the week I've tried for 9.30, but tbh I rarely succeed for one reason/diversion or another. It's not that I am intending to be over zealous in this it is simply that I feel that the later he gets to sleep, the more difficult the next day will be. By that I mean with getting up, attitude and, I believe, ability to deal with the day.
8 year old - 8:30 school nights, up to 10:00 Friday night
18 month old - 7:30
Eldest always finds something he 'really really' wants to want at 8:15 and he has been wanting to watch it for 'ages and ages'. It does not work though.
7 and 9 yr old girls.. both good girls high achievers at school respect thier parents. get loads of treats. bed at 8.30 and 9 during the week weekends they can stay up till 9.30/ 10 if thier behaviours warrant it.
from playground chats with the MiLFS this is about mid table.. some kids viewing though is totally unaccepatble to me and mrs tts. the exorcist for 8yr olds? three (female) class mates of the 9yr old have already been caught viewing hard core porn at one of thems home. much s****ing by parents but thank goodness it wasnt my kids.. although our youngest cant stop talking about david hayes naked in the shower..
our 4 year olds go to bed at 7, but the whole routine is rarely over by 8 and they are often awake talking and playing until after 8:30pm
Almost 6 year old - 7-7.30 in the week, 8-8.30 weekends and holidays
9.5 year old - 8 in the week, 9 at weekends and holidays
Both resist, both know not to push it with me, and also that their mum will let them get away with it a little.
Mind you, it's 10.15 now and that's late for me....
We have 9yo triplets.
Bedtime is 8pm school night, 8:30pm weekend/holiday.
There are exceptions e.g. parties.
In fact our son needs less sleep than his sisters and could probably stay up later but that would be seen as [i][b]unfair[/b][/i]. And, with triplets, it's all about being seen to be fair.
7pm for our two year old, earlier if he's tired.
OP try 10 being his bed time the mental factor of it being double digits is a huge factor. Even if he is up at 7 he will have had at least 8 hours sleep.
Also try and sell it too him with extra lateness on a Friday and Saturday night. Make him responsible for his own bedtime, he will soon realise he is useless with minimal sleep and then go down earlier.
I fully understand and appreciate your thoughts about him needing the sleep as my two are so grumpy after a bad night's sleep. I'm not looking forward to them being teenagers! I'm almost fully grey now and I'm only 30, bring on the Diazepam in 6 years!
My 12yo has lights off about 9 if I'm around, weekends are later. I also have the rule that reading in bed for 30min doesn't count towards this. SO 9:30. My 15yo is later, normally as a result of some homework crisis.
Weekends are always later. But it's how they get up in the morning that matters.
5yr old twins. Go to bath and bed 19:15 - 19:30 story and then lights off by 20:00 at the latest. Unless its a special occasion.
Most of the time they go to sleep but when they're of a mind to they can tear the place apart mucking about until bollockings ensue. Always up between 05:30 and 6:30 irrespective of what time they go to sleep.
Oh for a lie in!
9:30 for our 8 yr old, 11:00 for her elder 12yr old sister...
Seems to be a big cultural difference between the UK and Spain on this front...
12yr old 9-9.30 in the week, 9.30-10 at weekends. If she's having a sleepover we just leave em to it.
11 year olds - 9pm on a school night, later at weekends
2 boys, 3.5yrs and 5yrs both get ready at 6.30 story etc in bed by 7 asleep by 7.15/30 weekends the same no exceptions (unless their cousins are in town)
We have been strict from the start with bed times it means we both get an evening of course as they get older times will change...
12 yr old - 9pm weekday and 10.30 Friday & Saturday.
8 pm for our 10 year old since the day he was born, never had a fight about it as its routine I guess so he just accepts it
I made the rule as otherwise me and the missus would never get time together
Nothing to do with me but for those of you letting your kids go to bed at 10.30pm you should Google 'Sleep, cognitive performance, adolescence'; you may start putting your foot down a little more
2 & 4 year olds here, both go to bed at 7-7:30. They couldn't be more different though, 4 year never wants to go bed and wakes a few times most nights. We've tried everything but he just does not sleep through, he gets up at 5;30-6 ish every day. 2 year old goes bed no problem and sleeps through till 7:30 every night!!!
7 yo boy 8.30-9pm. 11 & 13 yo sisters that share a room 10pm at latest. used to send the girls to bed earlier at 7 yo but the boy doesnt need as much sleep.
Nothing to do with me but for those of you letting your kids go to bed at 10.30pm you should Google 'Sleep, cognitive performance, adolescence'; you may start putting your foot down a little more
Now googled it, according to [url= http://www.bat.uoi.gr/files/animal_physiology/2011_list_projects/18.pdf ]this meta-analysis[/url] "children and adolescents require an average sleep time of approximately 9 hours/night", seeing as mine get up at 8 I guess 11pm is a reasonable time for lights out.
The boy asks to go to bed at 1900-1930 (he'll be four at Christmas). The girl (12 in March) hates the thought of sleep in any circumstance but will go about 2100 if threatened with death.
I understand it gets worse as they get older.
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Now googled it, according to this meta-analysis "children and adolescents require an average sleep time of approximately 9 hours/night", seeing as mine get up at 8 I guess 11pm is a reasonable time for lights out.
Are you sure that shouldn't read "the average child and adolescent requires a sleeptime of approximately 9 hours/night"?
If I can get my 18 month old in bed and asleep before 8pm I am doing well! I had it down to 7pm but he just won't go that early now. Hopefully we can start to bring it down over the next few weeks again.
Oh god, who knows...toddler kip just started to melt down about bedtime last night.
Should be 7.30 upstairs for bath, lights out by 8.10 after story. Last night 8.45 lights out and tonight 8.30. Lots of upset and "not yet, not yet, not yet!"
Waking anywhere between 5.40 and 6.50am regardless of time to sleep. It's all gone pete tong in this house this weekend!!!
Well, offspring (2.5 yr old) has just finished helping me make bread, now off to bed. She'll be up at about 8am as usual.
We've tried early bedtimes, on the rare occasions it works she just wakes up 3 hours earlier.
My 15 yr old goes for his shower at 10pm on a school night and straight to bed afterwards. He is not allowed tv or ipad etc on.
If he is late getting his shower, the following night it will be 9.30pm. He soon learns to be on time again.
The reward is that at the weekends he can stay up until he likes on the ipad, tv , PS3 etc.
3yr old is bath/bed at 7pm
10yr old is 9pm.
6 year old boy. 7pm school nights. between 7pm and 9pm weekends and depending what we have done that day
11 year old daughter, 9pm weekdays and 10+ at the weekend. I am not far behind her either, we like our sleep.
Here our 10 year old girls should be heading up at 8:30 - it would be 9:15 by the time they've messed about doing their teeth, etc.
Jessica (13 next month) should be going up at 9-9:15. But she's doing a school play this term and she doesn't get back from rehearsals until 6:30. So by the time we've had tea and she's done an hours homework it's easily 8:00 so she gets to stay up until about 9:30ish.
ours both get sent up at 8pm school nights, they are up a 7 am , reckon they get 9/10 hrs a night, one needs it more than the other, but lack of sleep is a right pain in the morning 😡
its the one thing we have always done is consistent bed times, gives their body clocks routine, also surely you want some peace/life !
Our 7-year-old is usually in bed by 8 on a school night and is generally asleep by 8:10. On a Friday/Saturday or during the school holidays, she'll stay up 8:30 or so, but if we let them stay up later because of a party of New Year or whatever, she generally asks to go to by by about 9 o'clock.
Our 9-year-old goes half an hour after he sister. This is "not fair" and "far earlier than [i]all[/i] of her friends" and we're "treating her like a baby". She's often still reading in bed until 10pm, when we make her turn her light out. If she's allowed to stay up later for a special occasion, she can easily make midnight and has almost pulled all-nighters on sleepovers.
Nothing to do with me but for those of you letting your kids go to bed at 10.30pm you should Google 'Sleep, cognitive performance, adolescence'; you may start putting your foot down a little more
Everyone's different. The youngest has inherited her sleep needs from my wife, who struggles to stay awake much past 8:30.
The eldest has inherited her sleep needs from me; I used to be awake reading in bed until 2am right through my teenage years. Despite being an August birthday, she's on track to be off the top of the scale in her Y6 SATs so a bit of sleep deprivation probably stops he being bored at school 😉