I'd like to add my best wishes to you and Meg. Good luck with everything.
Have a fantastic day on the 31st October.
Mark and Meg, just given to the bike ride. Its a nice route.
Don't think this is instead of a wedding gift though! Even stingy Yorkshiremen like meself can be more generous than that.
250 riders on one ride. It has to be done folks.
Trudi - I'd make that link a bit more obvious if I was you - maybe on a new thread 'Donations for Petegaffs wedding present'. It won't get missed there...
Jimmy (or someone else?) - could you possibly do that as I don't have access to a PC at the mo and I can't do links from my phone, for some reason...
sorry i've not been paying attention and i think that someone else mentioned the teachers benevolant fund http://www.divide.org.uk/charitydetail/36/ also don't forget to get your union involved, they can be useful.
the decision to get married has to be made by the two people who know the most. go for it, love each other and live your life.
it's really hard, neigh impossible, to be positive all the time. it's much easier to be honest, the people who understand you and love you will understand.
best wishes.
Thanks for the updates Mark. Just update us when you feel like it, we'll wait patiently.
And of course congratulations on the engagement. I'll raise a glass to you and Meg on the 31st when I toast your life together and your fight back to health. Awrra best!
Morning Pete
Just wanted to say next time you have to face one of those proceedures alone and afraid PLEASE keep in your thoughts that all the people on here and all your family and friends are rooting for you. (Imagine we are all crowding in the room shouting 'Go Pete' and that Meg is holding your hand)
X
Personlly I really dig bald heads 😛
I echo the are girls allowed to the reverse stag - and then does it become a hag (hen and stag) cus then we get to meet Meg too (CHRISt you are going to be piddled!!) 😀
I can't tell you how much I am rooting for you.........keep strong x
*whispers* personally I think we should buy the obstinate, amazing bastard a new shiny bling as **** bike to get back on once he's recovered from being prised open....
31st october is in my calendar and I'll raise a glass to you on the day. Good luck and congratulations. (What some blokes will do to catch a wife! 😀 )
Keep the fight going - today and every day
Hope you are well soon
*whispers* personally I think we should buy the obstinate, amazing bastard a new shiny bling as **** bike to get back on once he's recovered from being prised open....
if we can donate bits for someone who has had their bike nicked then surely we can sort something out?
(obviously as well as contributing to the above charities)
what do we think, contribute to a pot for new shiny bike(s) or build from parts, contributed?
Happy to help, contribute, build, deliver etc? I have a lot of time on my hands at the mo, and nothing would make me happier than building a bike (or ahem a pair of his and hers bikes???), weekly updates, pics etc
I think a bling bike is a cracking idea.
I think that a biking holiday for the pair of them might be an even better idea.
Mark
Thanks for keeping us all updated. Really good news about the engagment, My wife couldn't have picked a dress in that amount of time let alone everything else.
Glad to read your still fighting hard and I know how it helps to put a face to it, makes it easier to fight the ****er.
Stay in there dude, we are all routing for you both.
John
Hi Mark,
Been dipping in and out of this thread since P1 . I am constantly amazed at your strength and positive attitude. I , myself, cannot add anything to help you that has not already been mentioned. PLease just keep posting updates and never be afraid to ask for favours . I think the majority of posters on here would go out of their way to help out , if its possible for them . Best wishes to You and Meg for your upcoming big day . Hope all goes to plan and you have a day to remember forever.
On the Stag weekend front , hhmmmm , this is probably going to come back and bite me but, How about 720 pints of beer in a 'Dalek ' sized tank in the back of van , brim full of cool real ale ready to drink, attatched to about a dozen handpumps . . . mix in a hundred or so thirtsy mtbers . .what could possibly go wrong. Just need a date and a time and place and i will do my very best to be there.
Keep strong.
STM
Update:
Meg took 90 mins to find a wedding dress on Saturday. I repeat; 90 mins.
That is why I am marrying her.
Wow - admiration. It took me a day.
90 minutes! You don't know how lucky you are 🙄
...even choosing underwear in this house seems to take up to 90 minutes...
now i your chance to pounce, i spent 4 times as much on my outfit as mrsmw spent on her dress 🙂
Slightly belated congratulations on the engagement, both - fantastic news!
+1 on the stag do (have own bald head to bring!).
Keep up the fight - there's this whole forum right behind you.
All the best to you both.
congratulations mark and meg have a great day and keep on going mate all the best, gaz
I am so excited to see some photos. Mark, I hope your dress doesn't clas with Megs. 😉
Keep fighting that fight. We are all there with you in sprit. Kick it, punch it, bite it. What ever it takes to beat the ****er.
Any update on how Pete is doing?
Stay strong and beat the ****er!
Count me in for the doo in Yorkshire, let us know if you have a location in mind. Money is tight-ish so it would be good to get accommodation booked now.
Will it be worth bringing a bike?
Hi folks,
Pretty shit day today. I had to take the day off school to go to St Thomas' in London to have a TOE (Trans Osophogeal Endoscopic), because the normal ultrasounds can't get past the lungs to see the problem in the heart. So I rocked up at 10am, and having agreed that someone (Meg) would come and pick me up at 4pm.
So the doctor tells me that he will confirm EXACTLY what the problem with my heart is today, because he is 'the best at what he does', and that he will let me know when I wake up.
Guess what? Our hero ****s off without telling me or leaving any notes; even his nurses seemed embarrassed. I got such a monk-on its not funny. Ended up discharging myself, walking to London Bridge and getting the train home. Seriously, I wouldn't even have minded if he'd have said that he was as bamboozled as everyone else, but to sod off after promising to let me know what he'd found doesn't cut the mustard....
It's the waiting that's difficult. If I knew what was wrong I'd be able to fight this pissing thing, but all the time it's "could be sarcoma this, could be mixoma that, could be blah, might be blah..."
Jesus. Sorry folks. 😥
On the flip side, we went to our wedding venue yesterday....
MAN ALIVE! IT'S FRICKIN' AMAZING!
Hope they get to the bottom of it soon, stay trong and we really admire you.
Peter
Don't be sorry!
A shit day is a shit day! And yours was particulary shit!! 😕
Hope tomorrow is better...oh and get onto the phone and hassle the barsteward!!
After big'ing himself up to do that is unbelievable, he must be aware what stress you are under.
You need to keep cool and not have a go at him though as you need to keep him on your side in the future IMO.
He's an inconsiderate tosser....but he may be the best at what he does, and that's worth something.
As soon as you described his opening gambit I had a feeling how it might end, and I was wrong, wasn't expecting him to have pissed off!
I guess the thing he is good at is not his bedside manner then.
Still, it is another step towards an answer/solution, a bloody annoying and extra step, but a step nevertheless.
Chase him up! He shouldn't be allowed to get away with it that's terrible!
Good luck x
Get his address and gate crash the ****s house. What a cock I would hit him with both barels when you see him
Hang in there mark, keep thinking of that wedding, we are actually getting married on the same day.
Justin
That Docs a ****in eejit!
The lot of them should go on a 'bed side manners' course (For Dummies - it's normal for the rest of us!)
Hang in there Mark/Meg
Be strong my man- he has the ability to help you. Maybe something came up in his life- who knows? Let him know you were left hanging on by a thread when next you meet.
What is the view like from the wedding venue? If it's in Yorkshire it is 'probably' OK. South Wales would be better though ;)- less distance for me to drive to buy you two your pints!
All the best Big Man, keep your spirits up. And Meg- you are a marvel. Now go and give each other a hug. And a kiss from me too. (ooh 'er missus)
Sorry about your crap day Mark 😐 But I guess it's in the nature of things that there will be some, what with all the stress etc it's bound to make things harder to cope with 😐
I have no idea if you have been in contact with them, although I guess you probably have, but as I've said before, patient/cancer support groups should be very helpful in providing support and advise. FFS don't just to try to MTFU all the time ! Being angry, scared, stressed, etc are all to be expected, given the situation. And other people's advise, experience, support, etc, can be invaluable in helping to deal with these things.
Good luck, stay strong, and take one day at a time 8)
Hi
This has worked for me in the past.
Ring the hospital and ask to be put through to his secretary. Explain what happened and how anxious/disappointed you are and see if either the secretary will put you through to him or get him to phone you.
Very best wishes.
Paul
like foxy says don't apologise. the whole thing is that you have to be just a bit more selfish than feels comfortable and you need to understand that you are the focus.
if you want i'll get some characters together and go and show him how good he is..........
seriously though, let your emotion through, people will understand. glad you like the wedding venue, has it got a pump track?
Stay positive, the wedding planning should really help you look to the future.
I know what you mean about the waiting, i had some great news in that my second wider exicsion on my arm came back all clear yesterday, in for my second site one on thursday so i'm a lot more optomistic. I'm sure you'll be getting better news soon.
As for specialists, I'm a teacher in a state school and whislt i was on the operating table last week he asked me what i did and then proceeded to tell me how bad state education was on how that "obviously his children were privately educated". Luckily for him i wasn't really in the mood for a full on debate, especially as he was holding a very sharp scalpel!
Stay strong.
PS my On One SS frame arrived yesterday as my little 'treat' so i'll be building that up this w/e, have you got anything new lined up, it does take your mind off other things.
Hey Mark.
I hope today you get the help and information you need to get through whatever's coming next. The doctor's behaviour sounds terrible, but like Dobbo suggests, maybe an anti-social approach to bedside manners is side-effect of his clinical brillance (think of top-end pro roadies - very often amazing athletes with selfish attitudes to match!)
All the best,
Clive
